I had my first therapy today (to learn to deal with stress and un-supportive husband). It was amazing. Lasted 3 hours. She is holistic understanding physical. emotional, and spiritual all needs to be treated.
I prayed about finding a therapist and feel I have the perfect person, understanding, non judgmental, ready to help me prepare myself to break out of what she called "a prison."
She will help me prepare to handle the future. She is leaning on me "getting out" as part of the solution she is open to him getting turning to God, getting therapy and making changes too. Either way I need to get stronger to deal.
She feels I have been on the right track, in that I already hit bottom and recognizing major change is needed but if I try to go alone in this poor physical shape I might die from the stress before I can get better.
I have lots of homework learning of who I am in Christ (loved, forgiven) and dealing with spiritual warfare. Learning to give over problems to God and watching him work. Focus on strengthening myself and allowing that strength to radiate to the rest of my family.
I just have to share this video: I was looking up “how to prepare for first therapy session” and found this video by Dr Suzanne LaCombe.
The Crisis Mode/ Freeze Mode illustration was very helpful for me to explain what I am hoping to get from the therapy.
My main problem always is being in crisis, (bad marriage) feeling overwhelmed, anxious, aggravated, frustrated, feeling misunderstood .
Down deep I feel guilty (leading to worthless) for having an anger problem, for not being able to cope. (PTSD?)
Add to this no estrogen, angina, SOB, and low thyroid = big time overload.
Some quotes from Suzanne’s site.
“our emotions and sensations appear first in the body, and only then are noticed by the conscious mind.”…
With practice you ultimately become aware of how you experience emotions in your body, and in turn, how they affect your thoughts. More importantly, with repeated attention your nervous system will "learn" to quiet down and regulate itself, even in the face of stress and change in your life.
… Want to change the way you respond to stress?
Change the procedural response to stress and find yourself feeling calmer
Next therapy is Monday and once a week after. It was also encouraging she said 12 to 16 weeks would be enough I can handle things on my own.
Thanks for listening.
(3 heart surgeries, angina, SOB, MVD)
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