Pls help-First BDAY/Baptism ideas

I know this is not a problem, but I also know this is the best place to ask. You have all gotten me through so much this year. I thank you for that.
I am having a party for my daughter in May. It will be a combo birthday party/ Blessing at the church (she was baptized in the hospital because her future was uncertain at the time, so we are doing a celebration with the Godparents attending in a church). She is a 26 weeker who has battled long term ventilation, PDA, 2 chest tubes and a brain bleed.She was on 02 until 4 months adjusted. She is doing very well now.
So I am reaching out to you because I am search of making my daughter's first birthday/ Blessing very special.
Any invitation ideas or poems? I want to say how far she has come without getting too technical.
Any party ideas to shine how much of a true miracle she is?
I appreciate your ideas and sharing with me. I just want to make it a day to celebrate her life.
Thanks in advance.

Report post

16 replies. Join the discussion

you've got lots to celebrate to be sure! I follow a blog, www.ohdeedoh.com (now under apartment therapy) anyway the ohdeedoh part was kid specific and they run a regular feature on birthday parties. Some are a little extreme in their theme, like over-the-top which makes you question where they get the time - but anyways- even with those there are so any little ideas you can cherry pick from. I tried searching "preemie" to find something specific, there ar slots of results to look through, here's one that caught my eye

http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/displaying-baby-clothes-as-mom-96059

It could be a nice touch to do a bit off a visual timeline - those first teeny hats/diapers/clothes ....that last picture with a nasal cannula... So on and so forth

Happy planning!

Report post

Ps the community there always shares awesome ideas in the comments too

Report post

We did that also, had the birthday and baptism in the late Spring. I have found this book to be full of wonderful and special ideas. Now that we've spent a bit on each birthday, I have found the cost of the book to be worth it. The ideas are really special and heartfelt.

http://www.amazon.com/Birthday-Crafts-Festivals-Family-Activities/dp/190345 8013/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1332986653&sr=8-5

One idea that we've taken up from the Waldorf tradition is to tell a birthday story for our daughter, in the form of a fairy tale. So you might consider telling about her birth in a way that she would understand in a couple of years (we tell the same story each year and may embellish it as she gets older). These are some examples, of course you can write from scratch or alter to suit your daughter and circumstances.

http://themagiconions.blogspot.com/2011/05/discovering-waldorf-birthday-sto ry.html
http://www.waldorfhomeschoolers.com/rainbow-bridge-birthday-story
http://herbnites.tripod.com/waldorfinspiredschool/id12.html

Report post

Thank you very much Averleigh's Mom. The designs on the website are beautiful.

@Florina's Mom- You have made me really look into Waldorf lately. I started to read You are your Child's First Teacher. I really like the idea of the Birthday story.

Any invitation wording ideas?

Report post

YAYCFT may have a birthday section. I know this book has some lovely birthday ideas too. A recipe, I think, for a cake that isn't too sweet. Often Waldorf nurseries will make the cake in a bundt pan, and then put a vase of flowers in the middle.
http://www.amazon.com/Heaven-Earth-Handbook-Parents-Children/dp/0880105666/ ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1333028953&sr=8-1

For myself, it seems really significant that our daughter was due in mid-Summer and born in early Spring. Where we live, the seasons are so different that you can really feel how long it is until her due date. It is sooo looong.... months and months. We should have been having beach birthdays. So, I would probably word something along those lines, but that is just me.

There are a few ideas here too:
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a13492515/1st_birthday_invite

Some Waldorfy thoughts on parties in general below. You may decide to save some elements for future birthdays. I've heard the idea of keeping a birthday notebook with all the details, so you can replicate or change things. I think it's important to celebrate, but also factor in what environment and situation would likely be comfortable for the baby. The noise, in particular, can get to be quite loud.
http://www.christopherushomeschool.org/early-years-nurturing-young-children -at-home/childrens-birthday-parties.html

Report post

I did the same thing. DD was born end of May and was due in August. We had her baptized at church in the morning followed by a lunch time party for our family. We still kept it small. I had made a book with all kinds of pictures and mementos from the NICU. The minister actually carried hannah around during his whole sermon. It is a small church with few children so she was doted on by all. They had all prayed for us for the past year-Hannah in the NICU and me in the hospital for a kidney transplant. I have a friend whose daughter was born early (just a week after Hannah) and for her 8th birthday party her mom got a list of things the NICU needed and sent it out with the invitation asking that the kids bring a gift for the NICU instead of a personal gift for her daughter. (her daughter's idea) I have always felt like this was a great way to give back to the hospitals that took such great care of our little ones.

Report post

Is it TERRIBLE Addie is only going to be 2 months on Sunday and I already have a Pinterest board for her birthday! (http://pinterest.com/brookeannessa/addie-s-1st-birthday/).

I've found this website really helpful: http://karaspartyideas.com/

Brooke
www.MarvelousLoveBlog.com

Report post

I love all of the ideas. Thank you for your suggestions. Anyone have a really simple cake recipe? She is not eating solid foods yet, mostly puree but I have been able to give her tiny bits of crumbs.

Report post

Hi, my daughter's first bithday is in two weeks...My oldedr daugher made her invites and put a photo of her as tiny and then as growing bigger and then at her 9mo pic...
We have had a website of her since before she was born and thats an ongoing state of her accomplishments.
I have been working on a video for everyone to watch for the past two weeks! Its hard to narrow down the photos! I have really special songs for it and I think it turned out nice.

the cake will be just a cupcake size, or mini cake so she can destroy it. I dont really expect her to eat it since she is not eating solids yet either but hopefully she will have fun with it!

Report post

My son (24weeker)turns 1 on April 24th!!!! He was born on Easter Sunday and was also baptized after birth due to uncertainty of what would happen. We are having his baptism and first birthday the Sunday before , we are moving to a new duty station on his actual bday. The invites are baptismal invites and a separate piece of paper telling about the baptismal reception/ first birthday . We are doing a Easter theme for his birthday, felt fitting. So excited! He gets to have his first ever solid food ....sugar free cake! For favors we are giving flower bulbs to signify new life.

Report post

This cake is really good, simple, and free of gluten which I know can be an issue for some of our LO...

http://paxye.com/blog/black-bean-chocolate-cake-gluten-free/

Brooke
www.MarvelousLoveBlog.com

Report post

My twins are 26 weeks too. For their first birthday, I did a display that included lots of pictures, stories about them, milestones we'd reached, doctors, etc. I wanted everyone to know how much they had gone through in that first year. It became quite the gathering spot during the party and brought about alot of conversation.

Happy birthday to your little fighter. Don't forget to celebrate with her all that both of you and your family have gone through this year. :)

Report post

Thank you everyone. I love the idea of the milestones poster. Thanks for the cake recipe too. I will try it.

Report post

As I am planning ours I was trying to figure out how decorate the cake with the baptism and birthday theme. Cupcakes!!! Decorate for the baptism and for the birthday.

Report post

Great idea Buchholzr- I am def. going to do that!

Report post

Here my suggestion to you. For my kid, in her very special first birthday, we did a Disney theme party, so we buy to her a Snow White disguise (or mini disguise). She was so cute. Like souvenirs, we made a cd. I found a page (cancionespararegalar.com) where we sent the instructions and these guys made the music and recorded the songs like we indicated to them. I send blessings to you and your family. Maria.

Report post

This discussion is closed to replies. We close all discussions after 90 days.

If there's something you'd like to discuss, click below to start a new discussion.

Things you can do

Discussion topics

Preemie links and resources


Narratives from the NICU -- Read the special report

Community leaders