You're fired

ok- so I've never been a fan of the D. Trump show- but I'm over my gyno and moving on. My husband and I have not been trying for an entire year yet, but with 3+ anovulatory cycles out of 9 cycles or 11 months- do you not see a problem. And that's just her assumption of what's going on because she won't even see me to determine why I will bleed for 1-4 weeks at a time in the middle of a cycle.
I know that a few months shy of a year is nothing compared to women who have been trying for years- but I don't even feel like trying if I'm not even ovulating or bleeding all the time!
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So what if you haven't been trying for a year! The bleeding you're experiencing is not normal. It is remiss of your doctors not to want to see you. Definitely time for a new ob gyn. By the time you get in to a new doctor, it will be year of trying. Good luck!

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Most lists suggest at least one year OR abnormal periods. You certainly seem to fall in the latter category. Sounds like you're on the right path taking control of your health -- YOU know your body. Good luck!

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I really do believe that with health, a lot of it has to do with your attitude and how you see things. You are your best advocate for your health because you're the only one in your body. I realize your gyno went through a lot of schooling for her profession but that doesn't mean she will always have the right answers. If you feel like you're not being taken seriously or getting the best care for you, moving on is probably the best option. You need to keep your spirits up and think positively. A year TTC is the rule but I don't think it's a hard and fast rule. 11 months is pretty damn close and for someone who wants a baby, 11 months is a really long time for seemingly nothing to happen. Good luck and I hope you can find someone who can better represent you and care for you.

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Dump the OB and go to an RE. OB's deliver babies, that's their thing. RE get you one :) Good luck!!

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Make an appointment with an RE and schedule it so that you're seeing him exactly a year after you started TTC. That's what I did because I knew something was wrong, but my ob/gyn and primary care doctor didn't seem to take me seriously. Also the RE requires a lot of paperwork to be filled out in advance so you're going to need the next month just to get the paperwork in order so you can see him.

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I'm new to the language- what is an RE

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RE is Reproductive Endocrinologist. It's basically a fertility specialist and your ob/gyn's office should be able to recommend one.

This part of the website has all the acronyms that are used here:

http://www.resolve.org/support-and-services/Managing-Infertility-Stress/inf ertility-acronyms.html

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You lie and say you've been trying longer. That's what I did to avoid all that since I had heard you have to wait a year. I made my first appt with an RE after 10 months of trying with basal body temping and opks. Skip the obgyn altogether unless you need the referral.

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You know your body better than anyone. I think the one year wait can be so ridiculous sometimes. At 5 months I was in the doctor because I knew something wasn't right. I knew. Well, they told me to wait 6 more months before they can do anything to see if there is a problem. We were 25 years old, and I know how to time ovulation and that my periods were regular. All they needed to do was a $150 semen test and they would have known right away my husband didn't have sperm. Well, we had to wait 6 agonizing months for that. Thanks. We could have started the whole coping and treatment thing a long time ago. A fertility specialist might be willing to work with you. My OBGYN is a great doctor, but I wish he would have taken my concerns more seriously at the time. If you have a deep feeling that something is off or not right, then I wouldn't try to bury it. It's your body telling you there is a problem. With women it's easier to see because when there is something off with our period, it signals a warning...a problem. They need to take it seriously, especially since you are trying to conceive. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I am sorry to anyone who goes through this. Finding out there is a problem just takes all the excitement and hope of having a child into another hope of recovery and surviving a deep loss.

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Make an appt with an RE and lie and say you've actually been trying longer. They can't prove you wrong, they don't know what happens in your bedroom. I did not wait a year b/c I knew something was wrong. Do not rely on your OBgyn to treat infertility it is essential to be evaluated by a RE. I had to repeat blood work b/c my RE wanted it from their own lab and not from the OBgyn.

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I agree with the other ladies.... go to an RE. No offence, but gynos don't do enough. It's just not "their thing", I guess!! Good luck!

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I agree! Go to an RE ASAP! They are so much more equipped to deal with
These issues than OBs. Trust your gut. We know our bodies better than any doctor can.

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I have heard that some offices don't require a referral and will accept you as early as 9 months if you believe there is a problem. My RE did not require a referral as long as the insurance didn't require it. I say go for it and see an RE! I wasted 3 years with my OB/gyn. He is great and I wanted to hang in there with him but I lost a lot of time. I also started when I was 25.

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Thanks ladies- I am looking up specialists in my area right now. I think I needed someone to tell me that I'm not over reacting- I actually called to change gyno's yesterday and the receptionist asked "why are you switching" I explained and her response was "oh, that's it".... that's when I said 'nevermind I'll find another office'
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