Nearly eight years ago my sister suffered an anoxic brain injury. She was pregnant and nearly ready to deliver when her OBGYN put her in the hospital because of high blood pressure. Her doctor took her regular three day weekend off and put my sister's care in the hands of her partners, also board certified OBGYNs. Over the course of my sisters stay in the hospital, nearly four days, none of those doctors saw my sister and the nurses never relayed just how sick my sister was. Of course, at the time, we figured my sister would be cared for properly...doctors always know best, right? They finally tried to induce my sister on Monday, but it didn't work. They could have performed a C-Section at any point up to 6pm that evening. Ultimately, late Monday night my sister suffered a SCA. It's my understanding that nearly the doctor nor the nurse in the room administered CPR, instead waited for the crash unit to show up, that was 12 minutes later.
Nearly eight years later I have a nephew that is okay and doing as well as he can, but I have a sister who struggles to remember things from day to day or even hour to hour. She can't work or drive. But, most strangers wouldn't know she was brain injured, but those of us close to her know all to well. As nearly all of you know even minor brain injuries change the lives of everyone close to the injured. She is not really the same person she before and her life is limited. Because of those reasons and, maybe others, her friends have disappeared and I know, on those occasions when that thought pops into her head, it makes her sad. It breaks my heart. If I could trade places with her I would in an instant.
The biggest issue facing those of us that care for her is her anger. In a second she can become angry and hysterical. The best way to describe it is this...it's very similar to Doctor Banner's transformation to the Hulk. It goes from 0 to 100 in minutes. She says things that cut deep and sometimes take awhile to forget. I know it's not her, but it creates a very helpless feeling inside the ones who have to listen to her.
She takes Seroquel at night and has a 1 mg dose per pill of Lorazepam to calm her outburst. She is aware of her anger building up, but she can't control it once it gets too strong. If you try to help her calm down it often makes things worse.
Obviously, troubles are compounded because she has a son. He is very loved and looked after by his dad and my mom...and my sister to the extent she can. She loves him and he is everything to her.
I am wondering if there is anyone out there that has dealt with the anger of a brain injured person and if they have any thoughts or suggestions that might help.