Missing my mother

By una4dable
Posted May 24, 2008 at 11:50 am · 2 replies

Mother's Day is always hard to get through...but this year was even more difficult as my daughter graduated from high school the Sunday following Mother's Day. My mother wanted so badly to live long enough to see her graduate...even though I know she was with us in spirit...her presence was greatly missed.

I think it's all the "little" steps that are so hard...you expect to miss her on the holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, etc...but you don't realize it's those little things that really get to you. Each time we shopped for a prom dress, when the kids got their driver's license, she would have loved to have been part of that all...I think I miss her the most in the mornings now...when I sit outside having my coffee on the deck in the summer time...I wish she was there with me, having a cup of tea, talking about what we are going to plant in the garden, or just to sit and visit about the weather...I just miss her so much!

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By RochesterBarb
Posted June 19, 2008 at 6:27 am

I feel that, too. My sister is the one with ALS and is near the end of her journey. Our mother passed away suddenly about a year ago. She was the one who most helped me care for my sister. At the same time, I received the blessing and joy of twin granddaughters, born way too early, but who are now doing well. Every time they make a discovery, do something cute and new, resemble another relative, or I just want to ask my mom "was I like that?"... I miss Mom anew. I couldn't go to the grave on Mothers' Day because I had come down with a flu-like virus. The other night I was thinking about Caroline Kennedy: after my sister's passing (probably within a couple of months) I will have no one left from my family of origin. My brother, dad, mom, and now my sis will be gone, and I am 55 and life is just getting to the best part... when we can relax and enjoy all our kids and their kids. Our youngest son is SO much like my dad! I just wish (well, I hope he CAN) see down here at all that is going on. I miss them all so much. Lately I've been dreaming about my sister walking. I believe she will have a new and unblemished body in heaven, and perhaps that's the Lord or my psyche preparing me for the end of her time here.... and the beginning of her time in a better place.
Hugs to you,
Barb in Rochester

By Smilef
Posted June 21, 2008 at 5:23 am

Barb

Hello, my brother Sam passed away in Jan 2008. It was amazing because as he was passing he began to feel healed. We could hold his had again, His legs were like normal, they were not hard.
Believe that your sister will be healed when she takes her next journey. I know it its hard to let go of them becuase I know how selfish I was. I did not want him to go but I knew it was time. He tried so hard to fight this diease. We told him he won it. He lasted 12 years.
Your sister also has won the disease.
Please email me.
Hang in there.
Keep smiling.
As you know your sister loves you and is very thankful you took the time to take care of her.
Smilef@aol.com
Marcy
Buffalo NY

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