My dad was known to be the most genuine friend, husband, father, and grandfather to all his friends and family. He was always known as a jokester.
He lost his battle on June 15, 2009.
We've been living in AZ with my sister for the past couple months and since my dad had been diagnosed there late March 2009. The fastest 3 months i could ever imagine.
We decided to move back to MI beginning of June so dad could be with his friends and to where our home was. I packed my stuff and my boyfriend and i drove to Mi the first week of june, then mom and dad were scheduled to come back to MI the 21st of June which was father's day.
I was in MI for a week and a half when my sister called. Dad was feeling really sick from the chemo to the brain and chemo for the lungs. The morning of 6/10 he had felt really sick vomitting and very weak. It wasn't like him though, the day before i left he was perfectly fine. He didn't look sick at all.
They admitted my dad to ER and ran some fluids in him because he was probably really dehydrated.
My sister called really upset so i knew something was wrong, Dad almost coded throughout the night, he had a really high temp of 104.0 and an infection was setting in. i immediately booked a flight to AZ the next day.
When I saw dad that night he was intubated and wasn't able to respond to us when we spoke to him. The nurses said he could hear us though, my heart just hurt when i saw all his stats seeing his heart rate rise when i spoke to him. This was the only form of communicating because dad couldn't talk back. The night before, my dad was just talking to the nurse about wanting to watch the Red Wings Game the next night.
Dad wasn't getting better through the next 5 days, the Dr. said he wouldn't be able to make it through the night so we decided to DNR and let him be.
My sister and i were there for his last breaths. It was an indescribable feeling. I just couldn't believe he was gone. We weren't prepared for him to go yet.
We flew home the following day to MI and sent dad back to MI as well to be with all his friends and family one last time. We had a beautiful service for him, unfortunatly it was the day my parents were supposed to fly in, on Father's day.
I love you dad, you were such a fighter, i think about you everyday, i miss you so much, and i can't wait to see you again one day.
Love you
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Love you Dad.
- By mar87
- Posted July 1, 2009 at 10:05 pm · 12 replies
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- By lucy56
- Posted July 1, 2009 at 10:29 pm
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I,m praying for and your family on the loss of your father . Your dad was a fighter this cancer tryed to take him fast but your dads love for his family had him hanging on until you all could be together one last time.
- By irmaly
- Posted July 1, 2009 at 10:58 pm
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I am so very sorry for your great loss. What a blessing it was that you were there with your father in this fight. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
- By Mydaddy
- Posted July 1, 2009 at 11:01 pm
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Oh my goodness I am so sorry to hear about your daddy leaving you and your family due to this horrific disease.. I am also in AZ (Surprise) pretty much neighbors.. I was reading your post and am bawling my eyes out.. My dad has Stage IIIB NSCLC and he lives in KY. I hate being so far away from him it really sucks all I can do is call him everyday and tell him how much I love him.. I can so relate to you we found out about my dad after he had colon cancer in January of 09 he has been through hell and back ever since. I will pray for you and your family as I know everyone on this site will be doing. We all become like family in a weird way. Take care and if you need to talk or just vent please don't hesitate to e-mail me..
Hugs
Marie
- By whynotme
- Posted July 1, 2009 at 11:12 pm
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I'm so sorry you lost your daddy. My sympathies to you, so young, I really am sorry. Susan
- By CareyG
- Posted July 2, 2009 at 1:27 am
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My heart aches for you. I'm glad you were able to be with him when he passed on. I bet that was a comfort to him to know he was surrounded by his dear family.
I hope the warm memories of him can be a comfort to you during this difficult time. Know that he is always with you, right by your side. His spirit is there.
Much love to you,
Carey
- By beckylynn
- Posted July 2, 2009 at 5:57 am
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This has to be one of the hardest things we ever have to go thru. Saying goodbye to someone we love so much. I'm so sorry for your loss and pray the lord brings comfort to your family and know that your dad lives within you and will always be watching over you.
Take care of each other as he would want you to.
Becky
- By sharpie
- Posted July 2, 2009 at 11:45 am
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This must be a really awful experience for you. Please accept my profound sympathies in the loss of your father. If you keep us updated on how you are doing we can help support you through this most difficult time. I've lost my own dear Dad and was with him until the end of a long fight. Simply bearing witness to his life and death was a great gift to him. Your love for him is the legacy you carry forward.
Sending you peace, tranquility and healing all wrapped in a pink blanket :)
Rose ("Sharpie")
- By cuddles53
- Posted July 2, 2009 at 10:49 pm
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I am so sorry for the loss of your dad, I am happy that you were with him, and you both were together one last time. My dad died earlier this year and I didn't get to see him he was out of statre and I could not travel due to my own health with cancer. i was so unhappy because I didn't get to see him one last time. I hope your suffering is eased knowing he is ina safe place, free of pain and sorrow. God bless you.
Sandy
- By sheilake
- Posted July 3, 2009 at 2:55 am
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It was with much sadness that I read your post. Your Dad went so quickly that it must be really hard to accept. He sounds like such a wonderful man...and you sound like such a loving daughter. I'm really sorry for your loss.
Hugs and prayers,
Sheila
- By kq182
- Posted July 3, 2009 at 5:38 pm
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So sorry for the loss of your Dad, yes it must be a shock, he went too soon, you and your family are in my prayers, Karen
- By mar87
- Posted July 6, 2009 at 1:34 am
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i really appreciate all the replies. This was the toughest thing to go through, my absolute worst fear. I just can't believe that things like this really do happen? I'm still really young, i'm only 22 and there's so much more for me to go through in my life that i wish my dad could physically be apart of. I just miss hearing his voice, or talking to him. My thing is, that i still can't give up hope, i still keep praying that i may see him again one day. To tell you the truth, it doesn't get easier each day, it gets different. Sometimes i still can't believe hes gone. But i'll keep praying. Thank you everyone for your prayers, and its true we all really do become like family in a certain way. Thanks for your support.
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