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i feel so alone sometimes. Yeah i know i have my family and friends and all, but theres just something missing, i miss having someone to cuddle up with and tell em about my day. i keep feeling like im always going to be alone now, and i dont like it, its scary feeling this way, cause im only 21 and divorced already. I just want someone who will love me for me no matter what and who will treat me good. i just want loved.
Don't be sad. You're young and have a long life ahead of you. Enjoy and celebrate YOU!!! Hang in there Honey. You will find it, or better yet, it will find you. He's out there, trust me. It took me a very long time to find who was right for me, and it is so worth it. Part of the key is to keep the negative ones out. If something doesn't sit right with you in a relationship, don't waste your time waiting for a change. It won't come. Also, give the guys a chance who you would always consider "just friends" and least likely to be your soul mate. Chances are, one of them is the man you were meant to be with.
Have a good day!
Liz
I know what it feels like to be you right now; I have been there more than I like to count. I promise you, the feelings you have will go away when you busy with improving yourself. That can be higher education and new skills, whatever that might enhance you.
Yes, it is good to have a companion, but you have already experienced that men are come and go as they please or vice verse. However, you are going to have yourself for the rest of this life. Therefore, make yourself someone who you can love and enjoy your own company.
I can relate........its not a good feeling to feel so alone. Even with people around you, we feel that empty feeling. We have all been there. I am sorry. Hope you feel better today!!!
Hugs to you;
Dee
Hang in there. Sometimes we are given challenges to overcome in order to further develop our spiritual growth. Maybe you should plan on studying nephrology when you go back to school. There is still plenty of time! You will not be alone forever. Here's an old poem that still holds true. Best wishes to you! All will be OK. Peace, Andre
DESIDERATA
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others,
even to the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
Was your divorce related to a rare medical disorder? Many of us have been there. Can you tell us more about your condition?
I know how you are feeling. When I was first diagnosed, i lost all of my friends. i was 14 and no one wanted to be friends with the girl that was sick, especially when i lost my hair and became deformed by steroids. I actually kept a journal during that time and once i wrote that i wanted someone to tell me they liked me just the way i am. i did find someone who was there for me every step of the way about a year later.
People are cruel. Living with the disease when it was affecting every aspect of my life made me learn all of my life skills.
You are 21 years old and you have been through more things than most people your age experience. I think you should celebrate that. You will definitely find someone who deserves someone as hard working as you. You are so young, as am i (im 19) and you have so much ahead of you. Dont be discouraged for too long. Things are always hard in the beginning, but it cant rain forever.
best wishes
amanda
I noticed that you are a young person and you must have married young. I married young myself and I have found that sometimes ppl who marry early develop a dependence with their spouse. It is sort of like a gapping of the bridge between their parents and their spouse. So, of course, when you divorced, it probably seemed like you were abandoned. Find some independence exercises like going on a trip somewhere you don't know anyone. Just go and do it. Be responsible, of course. You don't want to invite trouble.
you are 21, you have your whole life ahead of you, I am 62, am sick because of being in an abusive relationship, have crohns, and now divolotia disease (spelled wrong), and am worried, still with the abuser, but I kind of keep my distance from him, at my age, it is hard to just get up and leave, although it is an option I am thinking about.
Go to singles things, meet, meet and meet..you won't be alone for long.
heppy
i heppy thank u for ur advice and i am so sorry to hear about ur disease and that ur in an abuseive relationship, i was also in an abuse relationship with my exhusband it was verbal thou he belittled me so badly, so i got tired of it when i finally realized what was going on and got the heck out. and just because ur 62 doesnt mean u cant leave i say leave and u will fill so much better after sometime does pass cause it is hard to just bam im leaving u, but u will also find that u wont be alone there is plenty of people out there so like u said go meet meet meet.....have a good day and hope to hear from u again and once again thank thank u all for ur support
Thank you for your reply...am seriously thinking about leaving my husband.....I am not happy, don't trust him anymore....
ca-sera sera, what will be will be, stupid social worker even suggested getting the mental health people involved.....rather be dead....
anyway, keep posting .
love, heppy
Must have been crazy. Dont realize what ya got till ya lose it. He has lost alot not you!
kimikiwi1987- I can definitely relate to some of what you are saying. I just turned 30. I know it's just a number but it scared the crap out of me, and still does.
I feel like I've missed the last 4 years of my life, because I haven't felt well at all. Feel like I put my life on hold and just managed to get by day to day and do the basics. Finally feeling better but definitely not out of the woods yet. All I can say is it's about time and my patience has been really tested. It really does suck to have any kind of illness or disease, especially the ones that people don't really understand.
I have a few good friends. Many of my friends are married. It gets tough even as you get older because of that. I wonder why I haven't found the right person or what might be wrong with me, etc./etc.. . . it goes on and on. My mind is one that will wander and analyze and think and this and that. Not too good when you're in a rut. . .lol
I haven't really done much dating throughout my life either. I always kept to myself pretty much, always had hobbies outside of school and work etc. Always was able to keep myself entertained and having fun for the most part. I guess I knew that I was missing something but it never really impacted me too much for some reason. I guess now it has been impacting me. Life is short, but at the same time it's hard to figure things out.
Like you said, just someone to be close to, to have some deep conversations with, enjoy some similar interests. Someone that will listen, but be constructive in their comments. I'm a thinker by nature and i want that mental connection first and foremost. Someone that can spark my creativity naturally and talk about pretty much anything.
Sometimes I really feel like I'm missing that whole female companion part of my life, or maybe I missed a lot of stuff early on- in terms of experience and experiences and dating. I dunno. The whole dating thing just doesn't sit well with me sometimes.
I went to college and all that but still don't have a clue what I want to do for a career. Sometimes the possibilities feel endless. I have never really known.
Anyway, just some thoughts floating around in my crazy head. My mind was on a long leash today.
Good luck with what you got going on. I don't really know what FSGS is, but I'll look it up, always interesting to learn about different stuff. Medical stuff is so interesting to me.
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