16, and Pregnant??

Hi my name is Katie, and I'm brand new to this. I had to reach out to and do something or i would have driven myself crazy. Yes as it is titled, i have a huge possibility of being pregnant, i know i know im just a baby myself and i'm wondering the same thing, How am i going to take care of a child when i cant even take care of myself? My boyfriend who is 20 (will be 21 in December) is scared, but excited, we are scared because it's so totally illegal to be having sex with someone under the age of 18, he could be facing jail and how am i going to survive with a baby without him. The other problems im facing is telling my parents, ughh, currently the house situation is so very stressful, my dad works out of state for the government in washington d.c. so that he can still support us. My mom is a married single-parent, raising my sister and i alone. I don't get along with her at all, and i fear that when i give her the news she'll flip out and im terrified. My boyfriend and i have talked and we're going to keep the baby, all the other decisions are up in the air still! Please help me, i'm stressing out more than ever right now, and i can't stress out if i'm expecting i need some advice.
thanks.
katie.

By signatureladyjeff
Posted July 10, 2008 at 5:09 pm
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Katie,

I don't know you but I've been there in those shoes before! Though I'm a mother and wife now I can clearly remember being scared and not knowing what to do! Don't panic as easy as it is for me to tell you not to, you need a clear mind and thought to not do crazy things that make things worse. You do need to get to a doctor for prenatal care and attention for your self! I won't say that you should be having a child so young you obviously know your self the current situation you're in. I want to encourage you to first go to a clinic that will see you confidentally and anonumously, take a pregnancy test to confirm if your really pregnant. If it's confirmed then you need to tell your parents so that you can get the help and support you need! Will they be angry, hurt, dissappointed at first? YES! What parent wouldn't ! Be prepared to talk but also listen because they are your parents and even in events like these they still love you and want the best for you. I will say also prepare your boyfriend and yourself should they want to take any legal action against him! This could happen, I don't want to sugar cote any thing I want to tell you the truth that God loves you and you shouldn't be afraid know that he will see you through this tough time. I had to pray to God in my situation because I was so afraid and scared, stressed out and very vounerable at the time. My prayer to the Lord is that you will find comfort in your parents and that you'd reconginize that you have made a grown up decision that you weren't ready for but that you can still succeed in life as a wonderful young parent! Remember that God loves you and I will be praying for you specificly that you will be able to get the support you need! If you ever want to talk email me personally classyladyjeff29@yahoo.com I'm not here to judge but to encourage any and every one! Some one helped me see the brighter side of things you will see them soon to! Take care Katie and relax and think positive!

By alhjb
Posted July 15, 2008 at 9:48 pm
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hey my names tina and i know how you feel. im 18 and im about 5 days from having my baby girl. when i first got pregnant i didnt tell my parents. they actually didnt know until i was about 3 months along. they were upset with me and whatever but after they hear it they get used to the idea and get over it. i cant stay very long but if u wanna talk or anything feel free to send me a message.

By kiwicool123
Posted July 16, 2008 at 11:12 pm
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I'm 18 and have a 1 year old baby boy and a 12 month old girl. My close friend is the dad and believe me it is hard to be young and have kids but its all worth it. If you ever need someone to talk to come to me.
Kiwi

By brittany72
Posted July 17, 2008 at 12:38 am
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I was 15 when i found out that i was pregnant. I was crazy around my house to. I just know that my mom was going to flip but all she could do was cry. After she got over it she was so happy. Just as it is scary to you it is scary for her. I know that it is hard to tell them but i has to be done and I wish that i had done it earlier. Just take things one day at a time. Good Luck and keep us updated.

By myprincess
Posted August 25, 2008 at 11:39 am
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He there.
My name is Jewel and i know how you feel, i was 15 when i got pregnant and my bf was 18. my parents just got divorsed and i lived with my grandparents and nobody got along.(seriously) but when i found out i was pregnant i was excited but scared about telling everyone. it was scary, but the way i thought about it was that they could yell and get mad all they want but they cannot change a thing! so eventually they will have to get over it and accept it. and they did. now i live with my mother and we get along ok. not great, but whatever. and me and my boyfriend are going to move in together. but dont get discouraged! this is going to be one of the best experiences of your life, and no matter what anyone says, it will get better.! so just enjoy getting to know your little one week by week.
talk to you later

By cannpn21
Posted January 6, 2009 at 9:52 pm
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I was 17 when i got pregnant with my son. It may seem terrfying to tell your parents but the may not take it as bad as you think. The more you wait to tell them the more stress you are going to be in and more danger for the baby. Take it from someone who has been there. I moved out when i was 16 years old. I met my husband when i was a senior in high school. My husband is in the military so i see him 3 times a year as well as my son.If not for my inlaws i would have not been able to do it. Telling your mom may seem scary but shes going to be the one who is going to help you the most(not saying your bf will) she will be there for you mentally and emotionally, just think she has been there before. I would tell her if i was in your shoes...but you have to do what is right for YOU and YOUR BABY not no one else

By MAMA__22
Posted January 6, 2009 at 10:05 pm
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HI MY NAME IS ERIKA. I GOT PREGNET WHEN I WAS 14 YEARS OLD, AND WHEN I DID NOT KNOW HOW TO TELL MY MOM, I GOT MY UNCLE WHO IS THE PERSON I TRUST TO HELP ME OUT. I DID NOT GET ALONG WITH MY MOM THAT MUCH BECAUSE SHE WORKED ALOT. SO I GOT MY UNCLE TO TALK WITH HER FIRST AND CALM HER DOWN A LITTE AND THEN I TOLD HER. SO GET SOMEBODY YOUR MOM RESPECTS OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT AND TELL THAT PERSON WHAT IS GOING AND SEE IF THEY CAN HELP YOU. BUT DON'T WORRY YOUR MOM AT FIRST MIGHT BE MAD BUT SHE WILL GET OVER IT SOONER OR LATER.

ERIKA

By lildeb08
Posted January 7, 2009 at 12:54 am
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been there done that. i was pregnant at 16, gave birth at 17. my parents didnt even know i had a boyfriend, so imagine their surprise. first off, tell your mom. she can yell and fuss all she wants, but it wont change anything, and she knows that. she may be mad at first, but she will be the greatest help you ever got. I also never got along with my mother. It wasn't until i moved out of the house that we began to get along. but my first suggestions are to tell her, get to a doctor and get tested, and dont stress.

By bagreengirl
Posted January 7, 2009 at 3:56 pm
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hi there I dont have a child yet but working on it but one of my friends had her little girl when she was 16. And she asked me to break the nes to her mother to help her so I did. But like you said you are a child yourself. You need to tell her so you can go get checked out to see if you are with child. It will be hard but you can do it. You have to go to the doctor to make sure before you put yourself and the baby in harms way. And if you are they can put you on meds for you to have a healthy baby. Stay sweet and try to relax. Stress is a bad thing and it is not fun and games to be stressed you can get sick. If you need to talk email

By Tysonsmom
Posted January 9, 2009 at 6:09 pm
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Fist thing first, go to a doctor to confirm you are pregnant. There are a lot of places that you can go that do not require parents to be with you. If you are really scared about talking to your parents you can always have someone else tell them for you. My cousin was 17 when she got pregnant and she went to her family doctor for help. As hard as it was to even tell her doctor, he helped her talk with her parents. They have been in that situation before and sometimes having a 3rd party around can help everyone stay calm.
I know at 15 it is so hard to just sit there while your parents yell at you, but they want the best for you. Like you will soon learn, as a mother you have so many dreams for your child and well this just isn't one of them. Try to be calm and listen to them, even through the screaming and tears. They will always love you and they want what is best for you.

By UGHH21
Posted January 11, 2009 at 6:42 pm
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By lildeb08
Posted January 11, 2009 at 8:41 pm
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Katie, you should really tell your parents too. they are going to realize whats going on eventually, and the longer you wait, the worse it gets.

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