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After seven years of marriage my husband and I are getting divorced. This has been four years in the making.
I am going to continue to stay where I am and he will be moving out.
It is actually kind of funny, as my cardiologist has been telling me for a long time I need to reduce the stress in my life. Now I am finally doing it.
With the help of my family, friends and GOD I will be fine.
That is a tough decision to make, but it is done and you will be fine. I'm glad you have your family and friends to help you through. God cannot be everywhere, that is why he made friends. Take care and "one day at a time".
Scottie
You have been wrestling with this for a long time. It is good to see your post already sounding 'lighter'.
Best wishes to you,
Jaynie
You will be in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Listen to your heart.
Warm Regards,
Rose
What a hard time to be going through, as many of us here well know. Good luck in the days and months ahead, Eeyore!
I've been thinking about the subject of ongoing chronic stress and its relationship to heart disease because I'm researching info on it for an upcoming article on my blog. Here's part of the draft so far - it may ring some bells for you....
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"....People under chronic stress often:
- neglect their health in general
- eat poorly
- sleep badly
- don’t exercise
- smoke, drink too much or take drugs
Stress also triggers the body’s endocrine systems, prompting the release of hormones that might, for instance, irritate lymphatic tissue that in turn alters our immune functions, or they might cause the resting heart to beat faster or raise blood pressure and LDL ‘bad’ cholesterol levels.
That’s where chronic daily stressors can become deadly threats to our hearts.
Heart patients themselves rarely acknowledge that these threats exist. For some, admitting this feels like a sign of weakness; others resign themselves to it, as if chronic stress were an unavoidable dimension of life. So most simply carry on with 15-hour workdays or fraught relationships, as if these were perfectly normal.
In another study published in The Archives of Internal Medicine, researchers at the University College of London followed a group of 9,000 civil servants for 12 years and found that those who experienced negative close relationships marked by conflict had a 34% higher risk of suffering a coronary event than those with low levels of negative relationships. The emotions that play out in a bad marriage, for instance, can have a direct, cumulative “wear and tear” on organs and tissues that may leave people at greater risk of serious illness...."
Sometimes I think it's only when the stress is out of our lives that we actually realize how damaging this daily chronic stress has become to our health.
GOOD LUCK! Hang in there....
XOXOXO
http://www.myheartsisters.org
Eeyore, I'm sorry your marriage has failed but I know you will have a brighter future now, there is nothing more draining then a negative relationship. I wish you well settling into your new life of singledom.
Kennarina, that's no surprise to me, I was a civil servant before my MI and work was no picnic, we had a 'clear desk and open door policy', each interview room had two doors which had to be left open when interviewing a client, everything was bolted to the desk so it couldn't be used as a weapon and I was screamed at and threatened on many occasions (they always shoot the messenger!) It never occurred to me that my job was stressful but when I think back lots of my colleagues were on anti-depressants. One time a client pulled a knife on me, after security jumped him and took him away I did exactly what you said, went out for a cigarette! You just get used to your life and just get on with it without thinking about the possible negative consequences.
Lidia x
Let the healing begin!
God bless ya.
kardia
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