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hiya all,
I took two over counter pregnancy test kit myself the first one was unclear but show possitive. Second one I took show a more clear result of positive. Yesterday, went to gyn positive as well. he say i am two week pregnant which sounds about right. Going back in two week to check for the heart beat! wish me luck people!
hugs all~
Dizziness Pain Wilson disease Abortion Adoption Syprine Miscarriage Pregnancy Stress
Congrats!! I hope you have a smooth and uneventful pregnancy!!
~Melissa
well, i am already showing all sorts of sign that normally would show up in a later stage of pregnancy. nauseating and vomitting. But the saddest news of all is the baby's father is unwilling to take up the responsibilty and marry me. Going to have an abortion tomorrow. I don't make enough to support myself and the baby if I decide to have it also if I insisted on having the baby my father will disown me. I am proabably going to be mess up for a while emotionally but life goes on.
You are a brave woman Mc Veggie. Do whatever you find proper taking all the circumstrances in your mind. Probably life takes tough tests of those people who are strong enough and determined to face them and as you yourself said life goes on. My best wishes for you. At this critical point of your life, don' t feel that you are alone. I (we all here are) am with you.
Rosepetal
Mc Veggie,
I don"t understand why you would want to have an abortion when in your profile it states that you were trying for a baby. you say that the baby's father will not marry you but is he still willing to look after the baby with you? you don't have to be married to bring up a baby.Why will your father disown you? is it a religious issue? as far as i can tell you are a caring intelligent 32yo woman that would be a geat mother.
take care
Melinda
Oh, how sad. I thought you wanted to become pregnant with how excited your post sounded and previously asking about getting pregnant with having WD. Please make sure to think all of these things through before making a decision to just abort. To me, that shouldn't be a decision that is made quickly. There is always adoption. So many families/people who are unable to have their own biological children, would give anything to be able to have children through adoption, myself included. After having two miscarriages within a 4 month time frame, I could never imagine having an abortion. That is just so sad.
Best of luck to you,
Melissa
Was this pregnancy a big surprise to him? Maybe he needs time to adjust to the fact? That's what happened to me. DH wanted me to abort, I refused. He did come around and accept it and we are still together, many years later. You still have a couple more weeks to decide. The decision shouldn't be made hastly. And don't let anyone make you feel you "have" to do anything. It's your body. Somehow things always work out.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
Thanks rosepetal for your support. Melinda, the baby's father is not willing to do any of those. All he wants is continue having sex with me and nothing else with me. At first I insisted on having the baby. He makes the point that if I insisted on having the baby I will have to take him to court for the child support and I will not get much out of him because he is on SSI. His check is only 700 dallor a month.
My father has a very traditional mind still about woman shouldn't have any baby unwed. One of my ex bf once sat on my bed and was reading something there. My dad got so mad at me told me that guy is not allow to step foot into his house again. So if I insist having the baby will bring disgrace to his face. He will definitely disown me. Probably never speak to me the rest of my life again.
I could do the adoption but I don't think I am that strong enough to give up my baby for adoption. I have two friends already offered that i can stay with them have the baby and will support me in everyway they can. Friends' support is important but Family support is what get one's going.
And Melissa I was very excited about the pregnancy. I had talked to the baby's father the previous night before i post the news, at first he said he can't be pressure into marrying. I said, BS i ask you just last week if i was pregnant are you going to take the responsibility. You say yes. So, i was getting aggravated and annoyed and upset. I hang up the phone on him. 5 min later he calls me back n told me to calm down. he isn't going anywhere. he is here with me. Then he try to convince me that he will be there don't worry relax. He got me calm alright. Told me he wants to bring me to church the next day. Next morning he calls me bright and early in the morning. Ask me to get ready he is coming to pick me up to take me to church. The first thing he does is have sex with me in his car. Then he say lets talk. Asked me to go for abortion or give it up for adoption. I goes no neither one is an option i am having the baby and you are marrying me we are going to raise the baby together. He also said that the baby might not even be his I am just trying to pin the baby on him. I told him if he wants a paternity test he got it. When the test shows the baby is his, I told him you better marry me! So, he said get it abort he will give me $1,000 to get it abort. I say no. He then say he will drop me home. I asked him what about church? I thought you were taking me to church? He replied I went Friday I am not going today. At that point I just broke down and start crying and refused to say another word.
btw I still have the baby. its not abort yet. trying chinese herb med now. hope all these torture ends soon.
Dear Mc Veggie,
I think, this is high time when you should take a firm decision. Don't let anyone play with your emotions. You Mc Veggie have an individual identity and you have the will power and determination to make it more explict and stronger. The condition of women is almost the same world wide. Instead of letting others take us as only beautiful objects or secondary citizens of the society, we should come forward as dignified and strong persons. You have fought with and overcome WD and I' m sure that you will come out of this situation also, as a winner, whatever may be your decision.
Best Wishes!
Rosepetal
Hi Mc Veggie i am so sorry to here about what you are going through I can't tell you much about having kids as I don't have any do to my rare disease, but if it's support you need I'm here i know how it is to feel left out.......
I wish you will but please don't let anyone make your
decisions for you...........
Sincerley, yours
Shelly......................
thanks Shelly that tonight I actually felt like killing myself. I was tired from a long day and my boss has make the point to me that I don't tidy up the house nor do i vaccum the house. i do tidy up the house just not their mailing papers. i pick up toys n clothes n umbrella keys if i see them. just not their papers stuff i usually just leave it the way their is pile them up. anyway i am loosing my job. next week will be my last week on this job. on one hand i welcome this break on the other I am depressed because I will be jobless for while
on top of all these, I have a little life that's growing in me that i have to deal with.
opps didnt post this last night lol oh well i will post it now
hiya all,
I decided to keep my baby. After a week long of drinking chinese herb medince to abort my baby. It still in my tummy in tact not gone yet. I am not going to try to abort it ever again. As I know if i do go through with it I will regret it for the rest of my life. I have decide to move out of state to stay with a friend to have the baby for couple yrs. Then move back home with my parents and tell my dad that I have adopted the baby from my employer which will make sense since I am a nanny by profession.
I do intend to fight for child support from the baby's father. It is going to be hard first couple year for me. But with the resources out there and friends on here for emotional support i know I will make it. I am doing better day by day now after I decided to keep the baby I am not depress one day and the other day ok. Nowadays, I am fine just gets very tired at the end of the day.
On to another topic, I think people stays on this forum are the best. Over here we have separate topic categorize with for us to post our problem and concern in. not like the buffola.list wilson disease mailing list. I know some of the user are active on this forum, too. That mailing list is like a junk yard with putting up ads for selling used car to just about everything. I even got accuse of sending virus to one of the person on the mailing list when i reply to them address in their name no respond! In fact no one else respond to me on the list.
That specific person act like as if she care about everyone else on the forum but be a snuck up bitch to me. Someone new to the mailing list as she pointed out I only posted one listing sometime last month. I was merely replying to some of the Zinc that they posted on that site. No attachments, no external http link pasted in there! How is that suppose to pass the virus with just plain text?
Stupid people freaking make me mad. Anyway done my complaining and whining hehe just want to thank the site maintaince and upgrade teams for making me feel warm and nizzy and welcome here. Lastly, I want to thank my fellows 'Wilson Diseaser' and/or family members of Wilson Disease for your emotional support just being there makes a big difference! Hopefully one of these day we can orgainzed a big WD gathering for everyone on these forum has a chance to meet each other.
Maybe we can fund raise the money to get a place and to ship people that cant afford to come to the gathering? Just an idea. of course the fund rasing everyone on the forum has to contribute too. Wheater its saving a quater everyday starting today or homemade cookies sale or garage/yard sales or collecting tin can/plastic bottles from the street for the nickles whatever works. Of course not everyone is able to contribute the same amount of money. Some might not even have it at all. Its all up to you and your honest on just exactly how much you are able to contribute.
I know there will always be people that are rich and stingy in every group who wants everything for free and if there is a chance that they can get away with not paying they will grab it fast. I am not saying there are any on here you know who you are if you are one. haha I should proabably post the second half of the unrelated topic into another category. But I am lazy, tired and its late I should go shower and goto bed. So on that note. Good night all and sweet dreams!
Hugs all~
Veggie~
Well I am glad to hear you made a choice that YOU are happy and comfortable with........not because someone else wants this, or someone is going to be mad
-- YOUR CHOICE -- YOUR LIFE!!
Stay safe
Rose
x
McVeggie
Have been reading your posts and the responses. You are correct, everyone on this Forum has given you incredible advice. I hope that you will be comfortable with your decision. And, when you said,
"Maybe we can fund raise the money to get a place and to ship people that cant afford to come to the gathering? Just an idea. of course the fund rasing everyone on the forum has to contribute too. Wheater its saving a quater everyday starting today or homemade cookies sale or garage/yard sales or collecting tin can/plastic bottles from the street for the nickles whatever works. Of course not everyone is able to contribute the same amount of money. Some might not even have it at all. Its all up to you and your honest on just exactly how much you are able to contribute", you are right on! We absolutely need everyone to pitch in so that we can continue to help all!
Mary
Thanks Mary and Rose, all the wonderful sign of pregnancy are showing with me already hehe I am only into my 4th week pregnancy having the wonderful morning sickness. my back seems to be doing better with plenty of rest. i just need to eat whatever i like to eat in order to keep the food in my tummy. Going to schedule an appoint to see Dr. Michael Schilsky in Yale Unversity hospital, since my current doctor is useless ask her to prescribe me the syprine says she cant find it in her 2008 drugs hand book wouldnt prescribe it to me. She won't bother into doing more research on her own for me. All she care about is her referral slips.
On Sep 4, 2008, at 12:17 AM
Hi Mc Veggie
It's Shelly so sorry for being out of touch but were just getting back to normal after the hurricane, your
doctor sounds like many that i had in the past i never
have heard of the medicine for which you are speaking about, but i hope your new doctor man or woman will help you as that is why they went to school in the first place....
I hope that you continue to feel good and remember if you need a friend I'm here...........
Love, your
Friend Shelly..................
McVeggie,
Please make sure you also are seeing an obstetrician-gynecologist or a midwife for your pregnancy. You might want to tell them about the Chinese herbs you took early on, as they may or may not affect the fetus. Also, it will be helpful to let them know you have Wilson's and to be in touch with Dr. Schilsky (or have you contact him) for answers to things related to the Wilson's.
Dr. Schilsky is very knowledgeable about Wilson's and seeing him will be helpful.
Continued good luck with the pregnancy. Crackers help a lot for morning sickness, by the way. :)
Dvora
(diagnosed w/WD after two successful pregnancies)
hiya shelly and Dvora,
sorry being really busy these last couple day even though now I am officially jobless but seems my days has already all plan out at least until end of this week. haha today went to my ob/gyn make an appointment for 9/23. I think i need to look for another one with a sooner appointment because i am feeling sharp pain from my two ovaries. dont know if its actually the ovaries but its pain from two spot that are symatrics to my stomache could be kidney but i think kidney is higher.
Called up to enroll myself in a mom to be program from my insurance company. got asked a series of question. one of them was stomache cramps and diarrihia. which i had and have. very constant in fact. the guys goes that might be a sign of pre-term. i am not exactly sure what that mean. another one was headache or dizziness. its' sign of high blood pressure. i dont have high blood pressure. not sure if the pregnancy is actually causing me to have high blood pressure or not.
So far all the food i eaten so far stays in my tummy but at times try to escape back out hehe. Plan on going to plan parenthood tomorrow ask what are the resources available to me. I had called Dr. Schilsky's office. Told his secretary that I have Wilson and is pregnant. She told me I need to fax her proof of me having wilson in order to go see him. I will go ask my doctor to give me a copy of my own blood work. and fax it to him myself. i dont trust my doctor anymore. took her forever to get the result to my PCP.
I am re enrolling myself back to early childhood education courses i was working earlier on this yr. now i am jobless for a short while should be able to get AS degree in no time. Just need to give me two month concentrate on the work load then i should be able to finished the first yr of work load. its an online degree at penn forest edu. There test is open book test for the early childhood education even though its open book you really have to read through the book in order to find the correct answer lol.
anyway i will keep you guys posted! hugs take care all wish you all have a wonderful stress free day/evening.
The sharp pains you might be feeling is your uterous making room for the baby. Almost feels like cramps right before you start your period. It is normal. Pre term at this stage means miscarriage.
Good luck!
hiya mom2six,
thanks, i know i have those kind of cramps and along with other kind of sharp pain. just very weird. I cant get any appointment sooner to 9/23 to see a ob/gyn. my stomache is mess up as well i think my ulcers has return. my upper stomache is funny too. i will be very hungry but when i only eat a little i will be full. dont know if i should goto a GI to take care of it. But if i goto GI that means i will have to take more med that will harm the baby. I don't really want that.
McVeggie,
I hope that you are continuing to take your WD medication even while pregnant. If not, that could do more harm to you and your baby.
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