I think a difficult thing when you get older is being alone. I have been living alone for three years, am still rather young(64) and certainly not ready to fold it up.
I don't like to cook so I either get microwave dinners or eat soup, or cereal ,or go out. I don't mind eating alone but then I see all these other poor folks sitting at tables for one...some rather elderly. Its definately hard without a spouse.
Some days I am great and busy, but then there are those times when I am just plain lonely, and would love someone to hold or etc. Also its very tiring running around because you can't stand to stay home alone.
Don't ask if I have tried this or that, because I have..its just those times when I sit here that I just want someone to care...to care if I even got home...to ask how my day was......to ask how I feel.....You know...those times
How do you feel...?
write me
blessings;
deebelle
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living alone
- By deebelle
- Posted April 21, 2008 at 4:35 pm · 24 replies
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- By deebelle
- Posted June 23, 2008 at 9:01 am
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well, am I the only senior out her in cybespace? Seems like it..........doing better..that post must have been when I was REALLY lonely. I think its back in April. I still remain a touch wanting a relationship, but if its meant to be, it will be. I am so busy now. I have been going to the rec ctr three times a week to swim and have gone back to ceramics(I took a sm. break) and am very into a 12 step parents support group. I also visit a local senior ctr and see my kids and there's church activities. I am super tired and would not have time to work with this schedule(LOL)
take care and let me know how you "active older adults" are dealing with life in general.
- By mammaw3n3n
- Posted August 1, 2008 at 3:22 am
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i came from a large family and have never lived alone...i don't know whether i could do it...when my dh was in the hospital...i stayed with my daughter...now he is home but due to pain cannot sleep in the bed...i have trouble sleeping alone
one of my daughters came to visit and slept in the bed with me...i slept much better...now i am sleeping alone again and here i am up at 1:30 in the morning...well i am really a night owl but when i do finally go to bed i could sleep...now i can't...lyn
- By deebelle
- Posted August 1, 2008 at 8:31 am
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you need your sleep to face the day. Hope you find a way of getting some. Have you talked with your Doc about a little sleeping medication?
blessings;
Dee
- By deebelle
- Posted August 1, 2008 at 8:34 am
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oh, I have to add something to my entry.... I do have two lovely cats that do care if I come home. Afterall who would feed them!!!!
love;
Dee
- By Mags1
- Posted August 17, 2008 at 12:37 am
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Hi Dee. I have been a member of Inspire for about 16 months and didn't realise that they had a group for seniors. I lived alone for 9 years and everything was OK during the daylight hours but once I locked up and closed the blinds that was the loneliest time of all so I can really empathize with you. I am very fortunate as my youngest daughter and her husband invited me to live with them when they moved to Alabama 5 years ago. I didn't think I would like it and for the first year I yearned to go back to Florida but then I settled down and am very happy and know that I am blessed as I have some health issues and the family here take good care of me. We also have two cats and a dog. Feel free to stay in touch if you feel so inclined. All the best to you. Mags.
- By deebelle
- Posted August 17, 2008 at 9:56 am
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thanks for posting. I used to live in New Port richey Fl. for 23 years but moved to Falls Church Va. three years ago. I definately long for Florida on a daily basis!
Have a great day!
Dee
- By joyce123
- Posted April 6, 2009 at 10:53 pm
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Hi Debb
I, too, am very lonely....I also have crohns and am sick alot....no family..
sad, isn't it
heppy
- By deebelle
- Posted April 7, 2009 at 7:30 am
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Hi heppy
I hear ya!
What do you do to fill up the day?
Hugs;
Dee
- By deebelle
- Posted April 7, 2009 at 7:31 am
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mammaw3n3n ;
How are things going now at home?
Blessings;
Dee
- By heppy
- Posted May 3, 2009 at 12:43 pm
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To fill up my day, I take care of my pets, straighten up house, watch a lot of cable. and if I have anymore time, I go to barnes and noble and read for some down time.
love, heppy
- By deebelle
- Posted May 3, 2009 at 5:47 pm
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thanks Heppy;
I have two spoiled cats myself...so needy...the gals are great though! Their names are Abbie and Lucie. Both are seven.
Hope you are having a great day. Its raining here and kinda gloomy..good day for t.v. and my quilt!!!
Hugs;
Dee
- By heppy
- Posted May 6, 2009 at 11:39 pm
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I have 2 cats and a dog....I am finding it very hard to take care of myself, even if I still have a husband with me, we have had our problems for the last 7 yrs, don't know how I survived, got crohns disease as a result of his infidelities, wish I could have left him.....now I may have a kidney problem, with all of this and the crohns, I am an upset lady...
heppy
- By deebelle
- Posted May 7, 2009 at 7:48 am
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Well Heppy keep posting me and let me know how you are. I am in Northern Virginia and an email away
deebelle3@yahoo.com
I just moved this past saturday to a great retirement community owned by our county. I may be one of the youngest here but the place is super for me given my arthritis. Its a little bit of serenity and away from where I was where there was noise all the time!! I will have to tell you a little more about it later. The best thing was that I was able to take my two cats with me. I had looked at other places before but they either would not allow pets or they would definately not take two!
My older daughter and her boyfriend and my 15 year old granddaughter moved me in and were just terrific
Please write and let me know how you are doing.
Hugs and hugs;
Dee
- By heppy
- Posted May 9, 2009 at 5:21 am
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Hi Dee, and everyone,
I have to have a 24 hr urine test because a hormone called renin was high on my blood test, fact is, I was supposed to do it in Oct. but with crohns disease, it was all I could do to take care of myself, but, I didn't forget it, and showed another dr who practically had a nervous breakdown, so I am getting it done this week.....
Anyway, had a mamo yesterday, one of the many things I meant to get to, and I find it is getting harder and harder to take care of all my needs. Need to get my puppys nails cut already...may bet a new rug for the office as it is 24 yrs old already....Just worried about my kidneys, and for my crohns, my medication for that is $375.00....
worry is me.
heppy
- By beansy
- Posted May 25, 2009 at 3:31 am
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I am 59 and live alone in Sarasota FL. I love it here. My husband died 12 years ago, and my son lives in Richmond VA. I miss him so much, and see him a few times a year. I know the sadness comes when evening comes. I am the same as the rest of you. At that time I cry a little, I cannot remember if I am in Delaware or here in Florida until I look around and know it's Florida. I am fearful of "what if" but really I do not want to live with anyone. I grew up in a big family with all the extended relatives and a lot of siblings. There was always action. I have learned to keep me happy, busy, and I don't drive, either. I do ride a bike. Sometimes I see nobody for days. Mostly that makes me feel happy anymore. But we all need human contact, and that's a fact. It's just hard to find a human human.
- By TennisNut
- Posted June 12, 2009 at 9:15 am
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I'm now 62 and have lived alone since 1992. I'm so independent now I even dread having my daughter visit. I don't mind the grandkids, because they drive and I only see them in time for bed. I am lonely and don't see other humans for days on end. I am somewhat crippled after surgery in January and can't walk very far without a cane. What I do just to get out of the house is to go to my friend's house every day to let their 5 dogs out to do their business. I take me 6 month old puppy so she can run and play. They have 2 fenced acres in their front yard and the same in the back yard. I enjoy sitting there and enjoying their landscaping and watching the pups. I go to physical therapy 2 days a week as well. I read quite a lot. I have 2 cats as well as the puppy and all give me love and attention. I'm glad to have the puppy because she really keeps me busy trying to keep my stuff out ofher mouth, lol.
- By heppy
- Posted August 14, 2009 at 12:33 am
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Hi, not been here for awhile...I am so lonely, I suffer from crohns disease, and my stomach is usually lousy, my pill for my crohns is $100 per week, managed to find a small drug store that sold me a months supply for $251, still a lot of money, but saved $150.00. I have a virus, and went to dr, and told her not to prescribe penacilion, which she did anyway, and i am sick now from it....
Right now, I hate my life..husband is not interested in sex (I still am)....I get nothing from him, and in turn, he gets nothing from me...I've been wanting to order a sink and so far after about 2 months, we don't have it, because he doesn't call the store to confirm....Yet he has a 8 yr mistress...would love to leave him, wish I could go tomorrow....I probably would do better, and pershaps live longer....I have a dog and 2 cats, and unfortunately, they need me, so I could not leave them with him.....I have no love, no security, and am so so unhappy.....
heppy
- By heppy
- Posted August 14, 2009 at 12:33 am
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Hi, not been here for awhile...I am so lonely, I suffer from crohns disease, and my stomach is usually lousy, my pill for my crohns is $100 per week, managed to find a small drug store that sold me a months supply for $251, still a lot of money, but saved $150.00. I have a virus, and went to dr, and told her not to prescribe penacilion, which she did anyway, and i am sick now from it....
Right now, I hate my life..husband is not interested in sex (I still am)....I get nothing from him, and in turn, he gets nothing from me...I've been wanting to order a sink and so far after about 2 months, we don't have it, because he doesn't call the store to confirm....Yet he has a 8 yr mistress...would love to leave him, wish I could go tomorrow....I probably would do better, and pershaps live longer....I have a dog and 2 cats, and unfortunately, they need me, so I could not leave them with him.....I have no love, no security, and am so so unhappy.....
heppy
- By deebelle
- Posted August 14, 2009 at 8:47 am
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Hi Heppy;
Well those animal love you and need you very much. They are your furry children giving unconditional love!!!!!
Blessings;
Dee
- By deebelle
- Posted August 14, 2009 at 9:32 am
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Good Morning all;
Since I wrote that post over a year ago, I moved to a retirement community for 62 and up. I have a one bedroom apartment in one of four large buildings on campus. O f course the furry cat gals went with me. I would not have move anywhere if I could not have taken the cat gals.
The large buildings have apartments in them, and a very large living room, and kitchen and sm. library in them. The are all decorated like a bed, and breakfast and the four buildings surround a large courtyard with a fountain and benches etc. Tons of plants and sm.
birds, chipmunks and squirrels occupy the courthouse area, and behind my apartment is the woods of pine trees. Deer come up to the building.
Tons of people to talk with and run from sometimes.(LOL) We are always having some kind of gathering in our building like coffee hours, pizza parties etc. They are usually about four to five a month
Sometimes you have to go hide in your apartment just to get away from all the different personalities. ...............especially when we are talking about health care reform.......wow.....that makes the fur fly!!
This was a good move for me...wanted to let you know....nice to be around people around my age...and if I get sick of that I just get in my car and go!!!!
Hugs
Dee
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