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how long does mr obama give me to live...

heppy
  • By heppy
  • Posted August 14, 2009 at 12:38 am · 10 replies
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I read about 15 yrs ago, in Canada, the drs would not give this 72 yr old man, chemo, because he was too old, and readers digest said that he should come to this country.....

So, instead of living 5-10 years (I am a senior) , now my prim. dr. has to discuss with me end of life options......and did I make a living will?

And I voted for him.....why didn't he talk about this when he so brillantly talk about everything else when he ran for president?

No cola for us seniors, this year, maybe next year, my dr said he will drop medicare patients.....

something must be done....

heppy

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deebelle

This health care plan is a biggie and very complex! I am still learning about it. I do think we might be getting too scared right now before all the facts are in. Its definately a subject for debate isn't it?

I am just going to keep reading and listening!
Hugs;
Dee

heppy

I would have never voted for him if I knew that he would tell drs to talk to me about end of life stuff.....

my aunt died a day after being discharged from the hospital. one day - 24 hrs....she might still be alive if they didn't discharge her.

heppy

beansy

You need to stop believing everything the media is throwing out at us and stop listening to a lot of stupid people around you. Give the deal a chance. How much worse can it get. The hospital discharging your aunt is a a hard thing for you to handle. I understand. But do you know the whole story, or are you carrying forth what you "heard"? Mr. Obama did not discharge anyone from a hospital, he surely did not create the mess, and he is trying to help.

beans

heppy

i AM SO UNHAPPY.....NO ONE LIKES OR LOVES ME....ALL ALONE EXCEPT FOR MY CABLE AND DOG...

HEPPY

deebelle

Dear Heppy;

I read all your posts. I wish you would find a good therapist to help you. Taking to someone face to face will help. Please try to call someone come Monday morning. We all here care about you, but you must reach out to someone there in your community.

We care!
Dee

heppy

I have tried reaching out to everyone in my community, and it is horrible!!! Either they have kids and are too busy to be friends, or else they are extremely mentally ill.

I had a best friend and she commited suicide 3 yrs ago, it was such a blow....She had mental health issues, and stopped taking her diabetes medication, and she died. I tried to save her....When i realized something was wrong when I called her, I wanted to call 911, but I listened to my husband whom i should never have listened to, because he didn't know the severity of what was going on, he made me question myself if 911 was the right way to go, so I called up her mother instead, and told her something was wrong with Sue, and she assured me that she was fine.....so I just hoped she was write...2 days later when I was in K-Mart, I picked up the newspaper, and read her obit. I started screaming in K-Mart...When people looked at me, I said "my friend died", (so they didn't think I was crazy)...And then the year after that my friend Debbie lost her life also, (no suicide).. They were my best friends...As for therapy, it is a waste of time...What can they do for you really? I am seeing a therapist and he is nice, he tells me I am a smart woman (I am), but emotionally, I am a mess...I need a strong hand to guide me, and friends, but cannot seem to get them....
I have tried so many things to make friends, and have gotten nowhere. I have 2 friends(?), living in an adult home, and the social worker says, that is one of my options, and I would like to kick him when he says that.....I just know that I need something to hold on to...

And I will end this blog with telling you what happened a month ago, I called up my GI dr who I felt really cared about me, and I had pains in my chest, and such terrible GERD, I wasn't sure If I was getting a heart attack, so I called his service, and.....HE NEVER CALLED ME BACK!!!! In FACT, he told me to get a different dr, he had to live his life...This is the lousy hell hole where I live, and I really, really, hate it...

So, pls don't be so hard on me.....

heppy

beansy

I'm not trying to be hard on you. I was you for a long time. I blamed everything but nothing I was doing was wrong. It was always the other guy.

You are allowed to scream in the KMart if that's how badly you felt. What a shock. Suicide is horrible, especially for the people you leave behind who wonder what was wrong. What's wrong is no one will reach out to help a person truly in need. When I was stuck, alone, no license, 9 miles from town, I ran out of most "friends". I have three friends I know are friends but they live back north where I moved from. Therapy was a waste of time for me for most of my life after brain surgery. No therapist ever put together that I was a mental mess due to in part brain surgery. I found a therapist here and truly am lucky. She is so great, she even visited my pharmacist to talk about me and my meds. Your doctor must have ben an a------e to do what he did. But they are humans too. You may have thought he cared in the 5-10 minutes you were "allowed" to see him, but apparently he did not, and probably doesn't care about a lot of his clients. Or maybe he had so many calls then and you happened to call also. He can't live his life with you as a patient!!! How many other patients did he tell that to that day? You certainly need a caring doctor. I don't know how you get one because there are a lot of idiots playing doctor out there. They don't care what they say or what effect it will have on the patient, and they don't think about you once you are out of their sight.

Your social worker should be helping you find a new friend. And you don't need a bunch of them. One would do, but you also need to be their friend, too.

You are so young and you are in NY. I came from LI. So many resources are available. Tell me more.

beans

heppy

i grew up in bellmore long island, my parents were jewish, and that town was so prejudise, it was an awful place to live....

heppy

290lookinggood

Smile, God loves you!

shortontime

Shalom, Heppy,
the friends/depression issue is so wrapped up one in the other...............have you tried senior services,
united way, can you volunteer, have you asked your therapist about meds. You don't have to stqay on them indefinitely altho I do, but they can get you to another place where you can think more clearly about the issues that are troubling you. Synagogues and churces always have Seniors groups are very welcoming. When I live in Kansas, we had a terrific group that inacted with our preschool group. Libraries have visiting Grandmas to read to children.
Don't give up. This is a great site and there are always
people ready and willing to offer help and ideas.
May I 'friend' you?
bunny

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