weak cervix, miscarriage 20 weeks pregnant need support

My husband and I have been married since July 24, 2005. We knew from the beginning that we wanted children. It took us until November 2008 to conceive. We were so thrilled to finally be pregnant. My pregnancy was going perfectly. Our baby was healthy and growing at a wonderful rate. On March 10th, I had some menstrual like cramping. I called the Dr.s and they said it was normal but I should monitor it and if I started to bleed then I should come in. I had a scheduled appointment for the next day to find out what we were having. The next morning I woke up and started to bleed. We went straigt to the Dr.s. There we had the ultrasound and found out we were having a little boy. We were so excited. I always wanted a son first. We saw him move and heard his heart beat. We noticed the lady performing the ultrasound was really focused on a certain area, measuring and remeasuring. We just had to wait until I saw the Dr. We were placed in a room and my Dr came running in. Thats when she told us I was dialated. She said I would loose my baby. She said she wanted to rush me over the the hospital and see if she could to an emergency cerclage. I had a spinal and was flipped upside down. From the time it took me to get from the Drs, to the hosptial 1 hour, I was completely dialated. There was no more cervix left. We waited until the next morning at 1am when I delivered my baby boy Ruud Kim. He was so beautiful. He looked just like me and my husband. He was 13oz and 9" and he was only 20weeks and 2days. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him. I miss him everyday. Sometimes I feel like this pain will never go away. He was my perfect little boy. We had no idea this would be a problem. No one in my family has a history or this. My sister wouldn't even dialate when she was in labor, she had to have a c-section. My husband and I are still trying to get thru this. It is something I wish no one would have to go thru, but I feel comfortable knowing people know how we feel and that they are here to help us.