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im 25 and pregnant for the third time and the ather really wants me to get an abortion an im not sure if thats what i ant o do
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Pregnant and confused
- By mummy3
- Posted July 2, 2009 at 8:00 pm · 19 replies
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- By btflaj09
- Posted July 3, 2009 at 10:45 am
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you dont have to do anything you dont want to do and if the father cant respect that then i think you know what you have to do if you really want to keep your baby, but the choice is yours personally i myself am prochoice, a woman has the right to choose not be forced. I hope everything turns out for the best in your situation and I hope you do what you truely feel is right either way it goes. The most important is that you are happy with the descion that you made and not be something you regret later down the line whether it be having the child or aborting. Good luck and i'm here if you need to talk.
- By wynterallure
- Posted July 3, 2009 at 11:02 am
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Before a decision is made, you and him need to discuss, because if either you didn't want kids then, precautions should have been taken. take the time to talk this out and then make a decision.
- By stacey-momma
- Posted July 3, 2009 at 6:13 pm
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I first want to let you know that I am personally against abortion. I believe that that is a totally wrong "choice." It opens you up for so much hurt. Guilt. Depression. Those are things you really don't need.
Choosing the abortion path is very traumatic for many women. It doesn't make the baby just go away, everyone innately knows that it takes that life.
You need to make a decision for yourself, one that YOU can live with.
I don't know your situation, but if it would be too hard to add another member to your family please consider adoption. Give that baby a chance at life. And I hope the best for you!
- By raemcwi
- Posted July 4, 2009 at 10:45 am
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It is definitely your choice, not his. Abortions are painful and should not be used simply as a birth control method. I had one a few years ago as the result of a rape and the procedure was the most painful thing I've ever had done in my whole life.
I don't regret although it does cross my mind on occasion.
You had options for birth control. Don't waste a human life because a man wants you to.
- By Hope33
- Posted July 5, 2009 at 1:41 pm
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Have you ever heard of Adoption? Well it takes place everday. Abortion means death, and to kill an innocent baby would be murder, and the cycle of this on your mind for the rest of your life will feel like hell on earth. Why in the world would you want to do that to yourself, your boyfreind, and the unborn child?
Save yourself from a life-time of pain and start praying that God will give you wisdom to do the right thing. Call an adoption agency and have them explain how you can give your baby a loving home.
The baby is not a mistake and should not be treated as one. Stay away from family and friends that are not open to adoption, abortion is an easy out, but it is temporary. Just keep thinking "what would Jesus do"?
- By Hope33
- Posted July 5, 2009 at 2:11 pm
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This message is for: btflaj09
I read your thread to mummy3 and I want you to know it's not her body or right to choice what happens to the child, and for that matter the child is not hers until it is born. The child to be born belongs to God as He created it. So if we decide because of our own selfishness that we want to terminate what God created we are playing God. Please explain to me how we have become or replaced God.
Since we all know that is not possible to become or replace God then we know that abortion is what it is 'murder'. If you advice others that prochoice is the way to think you are as guilty as they are if they follow your advice. That is not helping anyone....this website is about helping, not hindering others lifes.
This is not my personal opinion it is God's Law which I embrass. We have become a society that throws out whatever we do not want. So now we just throw babies in dumpsters? I don't think so. Do you not cherish your own life? Then why not others? Start to think about the impact of your thoughts and actions and you would soon see they are corupt and need re-direction.
- By btflaj09
- Posted July 5, 2009 at 8:24 pm
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Everyone is entitled to there own opinions and has there own morals. I never told her to get an abortion if you read correctly. Who are you to judge anyones thoughts? Me and you are two different people so therefore i really dont care about your opinion i was giving advice to help her out a little just like everyone else, abortion is a touchy subject for everyone and i'm not gonna debate it with you i dont debate it with anyone because like i said everyone has there own opinions morals and values and i am not one to judge or comment on them and neither are you, last time i checked this was mommy3's post not your post to debate about abortion or make a comment on what anyone else says.
- By Hope33
- Posted July 5, 2009 at 11:06 pm
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Your right everyone has a right to their opinion, and for that matter their morals, but that does not change the truth about what is right and wrong. That is the clear difference between what I stated and what you said. The truth is the truth and it can never be changed or altered. By the way anything but prolife 100% is pro-death. I know the truth is harsh, but not as harsh as the pain women go through when they have an abortion.
- By btflaj09
- Posted July 6, 2009 at 11:03 am
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I completely agree with what you are saying, and abortion should not be used to "throw Away" a life or used as a form of birth control I wasn't using it in that context, when i said i was prochoice i said that meaning I don't have the authority to judge someone that has had an abortion, or wants to get one, I really dont feel that it is my place. and when i told mommy3 that she has the right to choose, I meant that she should not let a man tell her to kill her unborn child, and what ever descion that she makes, shouldnt be a forced one and that she shouldnt make the one that she will regret.Maybe i should have worded my thread differently but i was not telling her to get an abortion.
- By lildeb08
- Posted July 6, 2009 at 5:18 pm
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i say that if u dont want to have an abortion, then dont. if he cares about you and your feelings and wellbeing, then he wont force anything on you. and if he does try to force you, then hes clearly not the kind of person you should be with, so hate to be so blunt, but the hell with him. if ive learned anything its that you need to focus on yourself and what you want, because you may make sacrifices for him n he still wont stick around and youll feel empty and lost
- By JLionHeart
- Posted July 8, 2009 at 11:36 am
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i agree with all who say choose life.. and give up for adoption.. you have a choice the baby doesn't
- By Pretty_lady24
- Posted July 8, 2009 at 3:53 pm
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If you are not sure of what you want to do then you need to take time to think about it. Ok, you know how he feels but how do you feel?? The people on this forum are trying to make you feel like it's your decision if you abort or not, but then they make you feel like a baby killer if you choose to abort. It's your decision. When you turn your computer off from reading these comments, it's YOUR life and everybody else will continue to live their own life. All I will say is that an abortion should not be taken lightly. Alot comes with that. Like, guilt, resentment, and a bag full of regret if you were forced to do it.
- By mommyof4
- Posted July 9, 2009 at 3:03 am
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Personally im against abortion but its your decision. If you feel like this is too much to handle then its your choice. This discussion is made to give you the pro's and con's of getting an abortion not to put you down for thinking about it. people have no right to judge you whether you get one or not. sweatheart, dont tear yourself apart about this. And definatly dont listen to a man. he's not the one who has to go through the pain and guilt and sickness. listen to yourself. what do you want? think about the end results a new beautiful baby or your life the same as it is now. and i agree with the others: abortion is not a way of birth control and never should be.
- By lildeb08
- Posted July 9, 2009 at 12:43 pm
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also remember that if you decide that you dont want the baby, that doesnt mean you have to get an abortion. you can give the baby up for adoption and bless someone else with a child.
- By mummy3
- Posted July 14, 2009 at 10:37 pm
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I just want to thank everyone for there concerns an input i decided to keep it no matter how he feels i told him we had a lil fight that night i started bleeding an might have miscarried i will know for sure thursday i keep everyone posted thank and god bless you all
- By lildeb08
- Posted July 16, 2009 at 2:34 am
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well i hope that everything turns out ok, keep us posted
- By mummy3
- Posted July 16, 2009 at 9:36 pm
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The ultrasound went good the babys fine but im feeling a little sad just knowing that my child is going to have 2 grow up without a father but i know im a strong women
- By KMoeller68
- Posted July 23, 2009 at 4:23 pm
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Mummy3,
I know this is a little late, but I want you to know that regardless of the opinions of others that have posted, they should have been neutral on the subject and not pushed their personal beliefs and views on the subject (of abortion) on you.
I would encourage you to speak to your doctor about all your options, and then come up with the one that is best for you and the baby. Don't feel as though your beliefs are wrong just because some on this forum have stood on a 'high horse'.
I wish you all the luck in the world, and having chosen the single motherhood path years ago, it has been one of the best things I've ever done...you are strong, and you can raise this baby on your own if you choose to do so.
Katherine
- By Tamilee
- Posted July 23, 2009 at 8:35 pm
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I say if u want the baby have the baby once u see him or her for the first time u will know u made the right decision. As for the father if he is not prepared to stick around well screw him! I'm sure u have a great support network of family and friends that would help u out. Even if you don't want to keep the baby in the end it is all upto u, I think adoption is a great option there are so many people who can't have kids for whatever reason and would love to adopt. It's your choice
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