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My husband and I are having marriage problems and I don't know what to do. We just got married a few months ago and he wants to have a baby. But the problem is, my sister is having a baby soon and we have to care for him, because of the problem she's face. And I just don't know the right way to talk to him about it without getting mad. What do you think I should do?
I hope your sister will be okay. Just talk to your husband and tell him how you are feeling. If you need to help your sister with her baby and you get pregnant, you may have a perfect pregnancy or you could have bad morning sickness or who knows what. (Not trying to be negative, I hope if/when you get pregnant, everything is perfect for you :-) ) If you do get pregnant, most likely you will be exhausted all the time and nausous. Just explain to him that's a lot to deal with plus helping with your sister's baby. Tell him that you just want to wait a little longer to see how everything goes. See if you guys can decide on a date and see how everything is going at that point.
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before you guys got married you planned that you will start your own family! you guys should have spoken about this! if i may ask where is your sisters partner? he sould be the one helping out not you! you can help but not with everything! you must remember that your a married person and youve got your own family to look after!
seek help from other family memebers so in that way both of you could have babys and you would be supporting each other! try not to push your husband away!!!!
i agree with the other posts. you and hubby need to sit diown with sis and find out just what kind of help you're going to give. Are you a full time babysitter? Are you adopting her baby? Is she moving in with you? And if necessary you may need to draw up a contract with her so neither party gets taken advantage of. Then sit down with hubby and have a calm, not heated discussion. Talk when you have time and neither of you are rushed or interupted. You could each make a list of the pros and cons about having a baby right now. Do a mixed feelings sheet. (thats where you write down..I have mixed feelings about this.....) The key is to not fight. Have a calm discussion where you can each express your view points without grief from the other person. good luck
My advice...I've only been married for three years, but I can tell you that the first year is sooooo hard. My husbabd and I had been together for three years before we married and had a great relationship. Everyone warned us the first year would be a mess, and sure enough it was. It takes several months of hard work to find a balance, and to find the best way to communicate on sensitive issues. I don't know what to suggest, but I can encourage you to be strong and power through the hard "issues". Good luck!
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