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Is anyone else out there trying to conceive after having a preemie? I'm finding that I'm even more anxious this time around - each month I'm doubly anxious with the normal "am I pregnant? Please?" issues AND the "holy crap, if I am is everything going to go wrong again" issues. My husband and I are clear that this is the route we want to take, but it's still scary. Tell me I'm not alone?
you are not alone. we are in the exact same boat....with the exact same concerns. Wishing you the best.
I just wanted to tell you that, although not in your boat, I can totally understand your fears. I would be in your boat if we were financially more secure now. Once you've been down this road, there's no more ignorance to worst case scenarios, and that is scary. But try to keep in mind that each pregnancy is soooo very different. Try to stay as peaceful and positive as possible, it will keep you much healthier! I am totally keeping you in my prayers, and will send positive thoughts your way! I remember when I found out I was having twins, I was like, "why did I ever have sex with my husband, what a mess!!" But we managed, through this crazy journey. Best wishes to you, and keep us posted!
Your defintely not alone . When my husband and I had decided to try again after losing heidi I was a mess and always asking the "what if" questions. Then the night we conceived her I was like why did I do that lol . I know exaclty when conceived her. When I ended up taking the pregnany test to confrim I was pregnant . I cried for several hours and was a complete mess thinking what if everythign plays out the same way. Then I went in to denial for about a week I kept getting my husband to go buy me pregnancy test after the third test I was like ok lets find a doctor and make an appt. At our first appt I remember looking at the ultrasound and just saying thank you God for another Blessing. Remember to keep your faith in God and Remain postive even if somethings start to go differently than planned.
Best wishes keep us updated.
You are not alone. Even in the NICU before we lost our son, my husband and I talked about how we didn't want this to keep us from trying to have a family...but we've waited almost a year and have just now started trying again. Every time I get my period I cry and I don't know if it's because I'm sad I'm not pregnant or relieved. I'm terrified to go through it all again knowing it could end the same way. I just keep telling myself that I've seen the worse so anything that happens now can only be better.
RE: mygirlsmom's comment: "I remember when I found out I was having twins, I was like, 'why did I ever have sex with my husband, what a mess!!' But we managed, through this crazy journey."
ROFL!
:-)
You are definitely not alone! After several episodes of preterm labor with my daughter (starting at 29 weeks) and several hospitalizations and weeks of bed rest, I was definitely worried about getting pregnant again.
I did lots of research on how to have a better second pregnancy. My second pregnancy was still challenging, but with bed rest, 17P shots, and anti-contraction meds, my son made it to full term!
My way of dealing with the fears of my second pregnancy was to "be the boss" of my pregnancy. A site that empowers women considering pregnancy after a preemie is www.KeepEmCookin.com. It covers the causes, treatments, and prevention of preterm birth in a very straight-forward way. Another empowering site is wwwMamasOnBedrest.com. It'll help you think through the possibilities of what your next pregnancy could be like.
I don't mean for that to sound scary. It's just a way you can prepare yourself (and your family) for what another pregnancy might bring.
So much has improved, even just in the last few years, that you can realistically be positive about another pregnancy! I was unsure for awhile, and really struggled with the decision to conceive again, but it was all so very worth it! I wish you the best!
You are definitely not alone! After several episodes of preterm labor with my daughter (starting at 29 weeks) and several hospitalizations and weeks of bed rest, I was definitely worried about getting pregnant again.
I did lots of research on how to have a better second pregnancy. My second pregnancy was still challenging, but with bed rest, 17P shots, and anti-contraction meds, my son made it to full term!
My way of dealing with the fears of my second pregnancy was to "be the boss" of my pregnancy. A site that empowers women considering pregnancy after a preemie is www.KeepEmCookin.com. It covers the causes, treatments, and prevention of preterm birth in a very straight-forward way. Another empowering site is www.MamasOnBedrest.com. It'll help you think through the possibilities of what your next pregnancy could be like.
I don't mean for that to sound scary. It's just a way you can prepare yourself (and your family) for what another pregnancy might bring.
So much has improved, even just in the last few years, that you can realistically be positive about another pregnancy! I was unsure for awhile, and really struggled with the decision to conceive again, but it was all so very worth it! I wish you the best!
I am in the same boat as you are as we speak. We lost our baby boy kane grayson brown in june of this year and we want to start trying again also. The dr said we could start trying again in december. I am so excited but scared at the same time. I dont want the same thing to happen again. I wish you the best and if you need someone to talk to just message me and ill be happy to talk. As nerve racking as it is i cant wait to be pregnant again. No one will ever replace my angel kane though. He is my first born and always will be
I have been through a pregnancy after my preemie twins and you are not alone being stressed out. It is hard not to think of all the things that could go wrong. I encourage you to do what we all say to do here when our kiddos were in the NICU. We always say, try to be stress free, think positively and now that you know what to look for after the first pregnancy, consider yourself a wiser mom. You will do great, no matter what comes your way. For me, I prayed and prayed over our third child, that I would go to term. I really felt like I knew what I was doing this time around, felt more in control and was more proactive. So in a way, you are a better mommy because you know what to look for, how to prevent and intervene for your unborn child. Best blessings and hope this encourages you...I was able to go 38 weeks...you can do it!
Thanks for your advice and encouragement, ladies! I'm going to mark this page and come back to it as I need it!
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