I've been recently finding myself doubting my instincts, choices and just my general parenting abilities. I can't tell if my child is acting out or just cognitively more delayed than we thought. I also can't tell if we are making the right choices with her language development.
DD is 17.5/14.5. She has back and forth eating issues and sometimes I feel like she's doing it (hitting spoon, spitting out and throwing food) just as a form of acting out but I can't be sure. She's also pushing, hitting and biting. The problem is I want to discipline with explaining why we don't do that, then redirect, but it doesn't work because of my 2nd problem.
My 2nd problem is we are a bilingual home, but DD won't say more than Dada, Daddy, Dadden and she refuses to look at us if we sign more than one word at a time. She will watch you sign NO, but will look away if you sign more than that. I feel like she's very slow to progress because she won't let us communicate. If you tried to read a book she yells at you and doesn't want to look at it or sit with you. If you tried to sign the story she cries and tries to get away from you like you are torturing her.
EI wants us to focus more on English, but ASL is where she's made more improvement than anything. She signs milk, more, all done, sleep but only if you ask her if she wants milk/more or is all done. I just feel like she should be more mentally developed than she is and I feel like I'm doing something wrong and it's very depressing.
She seems to not want to learn, she wants to be in her own world doing her own thing. She's very ADHD type behavior and she's terribly moody. She has fluid in her ears, but hasn't had diminished hearing. She will watch tv and even signing on tv and not move the whole time.
Anyone experience any of this? Have any thoughts or suggestions? Thank you for your time reading this.