We had our first son at 35 weeks due to IUGR. He weighed 3lbs 8 oz and spent time in the NICU. We later found that there was a clot in the placenta and I was on Lovenox throughout the second pregnancy. We had our second son at 33 weeks (went into labor and doctors tried mag., procardia, etc. to stop labor but he still arrived). I was able to have the lung steroid injections so luckily our son did very well and only spent 10 days in the NICU. Doctors were not able to find a cause for the preterm delivery. We would really like to have one more child, but my doctor thinks the baby could come even earlier this time since preterm deliveries are typically a pattern. I worry about this and being on bedrest or having a very small and sick baby with two other children who need me at home. The cost of adopting is so expensive and scary to me. Part of me feels like we should count our blessings, but the other part of me is sad about never being pregnant again, never having another baby, wanting a large family, etc. What has been your experience, thoughts? Thank you!
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Should we try again?
- By avmommy
- Posted October 23, 2009 at 10:39 pm · 7 replies
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- By BrandonsMummy
- Posted October 24, 2009 at 11:54 am
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I know your frustration. I had my first baby at 35 weeks due to oligohydramnios and she was very ill, we almost lost her. She sepnt 10 days in the NICU and 2 months on oxygen at home. My second baby came at 35.5 weeks due to oligohydramnios as well, and he was relativley healthy. My third baby was born my emergency c section at 33 weeks after pPROM. She was in NICU for 10 days. Our last baby came at 32.3 weeks by c section after pPROM at 31.5 weeks. We are done having babies as our OB said there is a high likleyhood we would have another preemie.
THe decision is up to you. I say go into it well informed and be aware of what could happen... and go for it!!
- By CoastieWife88
- Posted October 24, 2009 at 12:44 pm
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I think you should try again. I don't know anything about the medication you were on, but I'm currently pregnant with #2 and my first was IUGR at 30 weeks due to possible clotting in the placenta. They have me on asprin and the baby is measuring almost a week farther along =) What about heparin injections? I thought there was another injection you can get to try and prevent pre-term labor as well that you receive throughout your pregnancy. That's not always true either that your babies come earlier and earlier, I've heard of many people having full term babies or pre-term that are farther along. Good luck!
- By mygirlsmom
- Posted October 24, 2009 at 1:35 pm
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After one pregnancy that was a disaster that ended in a 35-day NICU stay with 30 weekers, that was enough for me to say no more babies. I have seriously considered it and met with my OB, but I think we'll be fine with our 2 blessings. Each pregnancy is different, that much is certain. I know there are many moms on this site that have 2 premature births and keep on having more babies, and often have more preemies, but sometimes don't. For my family, that would simply be too emotionally taxing, and quite frankly, not fair to my current children. And I can't afford full-time help if I would be required to be on bedrest for 9 months, so the financial aspect is a real one for us. I don't think I could emotionally deal with having a 25 weeker after I was made aware of my risks, I would feel so unbelievably guilty, I don't think I could live with that. That's MY personal situation, each one of us has a very different story.
I recommend making a list of all of the risks and meet with your doctor and decide with your husband if it's a risk you are willing to take. Best wishes.
- By 1pair-n-1spare
- Posted October 24, 2009 at 8:00 pm
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Hi,
Nobody can tell you if you should have another baby or not, that is a completely personal decision. BUT, if you want to go by my history, I will give it to you.
My first child was born at 22 weeks, she passed 2 hours after birth. Due to cervical incontinence.
My second child (pictured above) was born at 27 weeks, and is now 7 years old. I had a partial placental abruption which caused my cervix to funnel to the cerclage and caused her early birth.
I did a LOT of research, had a Transabdominal cerclage put in (doesn't allow funneling), found I had a blood clotting disorder, got on meds and aspirin therapy for that, and then, 3 years later got pregnant with twins.
Delivered the twins at 34 weeks (because they were HUGE) after a completely perfect pregnancy.
Am currently 15 weeks 4 days pregnant (at 42) with a singleton. Pregnancy is doing well so far, and I am still on my clotting meds, and everything looks good.
As has been stated, every pregnancy is different, and if you do your research, see specialists (not just your OB) about the things that happened during your shortened pregnancy. And figure out if it is something that will happen again, then you are in a better position to make an educated and well balanced decision about your family's future.
I hope this helped.
lisa
- By Hopesmom08
- Posted October 25, 2009 at 10:33 am
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My daughter was born at 27 weeks due to Oligohydramnios and she spent 4 months in the nicu and i was told when i found out that i had 1 cm of fluid to terminate right the and there. My dr.s and hers told me that my condition was so rare and they have never seen it before, i unknowingly broke my water at 12 weeks after a bleed at 9 weeks and went on until 20 weeks when i found out i had no fluid at a routine ultrasound. My daughter was so SICK. the sickest baby that the hospital had ever seen. She made a miraculous recovery and i was told to NEVER HAVE A BABY AGAIN. My OB said go on Birth control and begin to consider getting my tubes tied. I want my daughter to have someone to play with but at the same time, i know that if i were faced to go through it again i could because it will never be harder than the first for me. But i dont want another baby because i of course would love a new child but i would favor my first born much more and that wouldn't be fair to the other one. Do what you feel is right.
- By crystalcm
- Posted October 31, 2009 at 7:57 pm
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Hi avmommy,
Are you any closer to a decision? I battle every single day with thoughts about if and/or when to try for another baby and my little girl was born at 33 weeks and is doing great thus far (1 year adjusted). Hoping you find peace with whatever decision you make!
- By Angel13008
- Posted October 31, 2009 at 10:58 pm
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I think you should try again and put it in Gods hands. I only say this from expirence because most people think my husband and I are crazy for having another baby. Our first baby came at 29 weeks and 4 days she was very ill and ended up losing her at 11 months old . One thing that made me decide to have another is first my faith and secondly all the joy our little Heidi brought to our lives and she taught so much more than we got to teach her. She taught us patience,courage and strength,
Right now I'm still currently in my second pregnany at 28 weeks and 2 days pregnant and on bed rest for just two more day due to Ffn postive test. I m not contracting and cervix fully closed still thick and high. Also I dont know if you took the progestrone shots with your other pregnanies I m on those I think they have helped.Its a shot you start them at 16 - 36 weeks which helps you get to fullterm. The shots have a great success rate .
I'll keep you in my prayers !!!!!!
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