I am really sick and tired plzz help me

Hi everyone
I need your help for the sake of my daughter and off course me too.
I am so tired to handle her. she is now 5 months and 7 days actual (8 weeks adjusted).
The problem is either she sleep or cry. she always wanted in my arms and its very difficult to hold her everytime. sigh
She cry like anything and i am feeling a sensation in my ears because of her loud crying, I tried carrier and she liked it when she was 2 months old now she dont wanted to be in carrier more than 5 minutes. she dont like swing, crib and all.
She seems to be very happy while i hold her or walk with her.
I tried for cry it out for almost half an hour for two- three times but she never quite herself. She sleep in my bed and awake once or twice for feed.
She even dont like evening walk and also dont want to be in stroller and car seat while going out.
I am getting frustrated sometimes its really hard and i feel like crying:(
Cause of this i am not giving any time to my son who also needs my attention.
Any advices???

Thanks in Advance.

By alexjo
Posted September 8, 2009 at 2:04 pm
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sounds like your trying everything you can. I had a son who was colic, so I can relate. Does she just like to be upright? could it be reflux related? or gas...the mylicon drops for gas really help. I know I can't wait until my baby can sit propped in a saucer cuz he likes to be upright because of his reflux and it is so hard to hold him all the time when I have 3 other kids! I can relate. hang in there. I keep telling myself each month will get a little easier. And from experience, if you need to let her cry for a half when you know that she is ok, do it. You need breaks too.

By Fozia
Posted September 8, 2009 at 6:50 pm
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ya she has slient reflux and on taking zantac twice a day but I know her crying is not due to colic or reflux she always want 100% attention and also wants to be in my arms all the time.
I dont know what to do and how to make her understand that i love her without holding her all the time.

By CalliesMommy
Posted September 8, 2009 at 7:13 pm
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My daughter is going through the same thing, she wants to be held all the time, but also doesn't want to sit still. She is 9months old now (6adjusted) and I feel like I'm going crazy. She is better now then she used to be, we have a new reflux drug lansoprazole that has helped a lot, and now that she can play with toys she is discovering a little about how fun it can be to play by herself sometimes. I used to hold her for 18 hours a day, now we are down to about 6 hours a day and an hour or two of playtime. I don't have a lot of advice, all I did was close my eyes and try to remember that it isn't her fault. She is trying to get that close bond that she didn't get because of her NICU time.
Advice that was given to me was to let her cry it out for short periods at a specific time each day (if you can) and that way being in her crib at a certain time becomes part of her routine and she will feel more comfortable in there as time goes by. Slowly but surely this is working for us.

By Anne5459
Posted September 8, 2009 at 7:46 pm
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Could it be that she is overtired? What is her napping schedule like? Babies at around 2 months old adjusted usually need 3 naps per day. Adam was quite the little fuss pot until we got him on a regular napping / sleeping schedule right at around 2 months old ajdusted.

By LoveMyBoys
Posted September 9, 2009 at 2:04 pm
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My oldest son, who wasn't a preemie but was IUGR, cried non-stop for the first 3 months of his life. He cried most of the day, even when being held and walked... it was exhausting. Then, at around 3 months, he just stopped! He became the happiest, most easy going baby around! It was crazy! I remember my mom telling me to hang on for 3 months, and I told her i didn't think I'd survive that long!, and sure enough... we both did! In retrospect, I think it was colic and his nervous system adjusting (because he was born small) and he was rapidly trying to gain weight -- once he stabilized, he was happy as could be! My 28 weeker wanted to be held often, and still enjoys it when he's tired, etc even though he's 3 1/2, but he could settle right down when held. He rarely cried if we were holding him, which did make sleep, etc tough... however, it was different from my first born who screamed no matter what... good luck - know you will survive - just take things day by day and get breaks whenever you can.

By rainysmom
Posted September 10, 2009 at 10:41 pm
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Sounds familiar. My daughter cried and wanted to be held all the time, and now that she's 2 1/2 she still loves to be held. I ended up getting 3 different carriers and have used them all at different times. Sometimes all three in one afternoon. Whatever works. In the earlier days keeping her upright was key for digestive issues, and also for breathing. I have also learned how to sleep while holding her. I just adapted. I have certain pillows tucked here and there for my comfort, and we're off to sleep. Much better for us that way. As she's gotten older things have gotten much better, and easier. Hang in there and just see if you can do anything to get yourself comfortable and her content.

By blueyes856
Posted September 13, 2009 at 9:00 pm
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My daughter wanted to be held a lot too. I got the MOBY wrap. It is great! She is right next to my skin. It could be very close to kangarooing. I wasn't sure if it worked so i tried it on www.freecycle.org.

best of luck!

By Heavensentbaby
Posted September 13, 2009 at 10:35 pm
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I dont know maybe if you have tried music... get different kinds like calming piano or nature or nursery rhymes and turn up pretty loud. (But not too loud) I also highly recommend the Amby bed. See their website:http://www.ambybaby.com/. You can push it through doors of your house to the room you are in. You can also hang toys above it and bounce her or swing her in it when you need to. It was a life saver for me. It costs a lot but believe me when I say it is worth it. You can use it until she is 24 lbs. Plus you can re-sale it on craigslist when you cant use it anymore. I resold mine for $100.00. And b/c I sold it so cheap it sold in 7 days. It is a great investment. Just put her in that and turn up the music (sing along to her)

By IVFTWINSIUGR
Posted September 25, 2009 at 2:23 pm
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Hi sorry things are tough right now. I have been there with my twins. Do you have a swing? we had the pappasan swing - it was my best friend for the first 4months of the girls lives. I would swaddle them up and in minutes they would usually be drifting off - it might give you a break for a while. I agree with pp's she may be getting overtired? At that age i would begin winding down for a nap after only an hour of awake time- less stimulation, change bums, lullabye and nap. We too had silent reflux and reflux and because of this we would let them sleep in the swing or in carseats so they were kept upright. Hope you all get some relief soon x

By Fozia
Posted November 6, 2009 at 10:56 am
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Sarah is 7 month and a week actual. 5.5 months adjusted.
She dont sleep more than an hour in a day and she wake up many a times in night:(( I already weaned night feeding.
I am very tired because of lack of sleep. even cant take a nap in day too:(
I am in worst situation with no help. How to make her sleep during the day and niight.

By newbiema
Posted November 6, 2009 at 11:37 am
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Sounds like teething could be the culprit! Get some baby orajel... it will probably become your best friend. Also, try giving her a cool, wet washcloth to chew on. It is really rough when they are cutting teeth, but hopefully it will pass. Also, it is ok to take a little break even if she is crying... it is impossible to hold a baby 24/7. If you find yourself getting overly frustrated and overwhelmed, just put her in a pack n play with some toys and take that time to make some coffee and have a snack... she will be ok!

I think that age is also awkward for babies because they are on the verge of being mobile, but not quite there yet. I know my son would fuss a ton during tummy time because he really really wanted to move, but didn't have the strength or coordination to do it yet. Just keep doing tummy time even if she fusses, because it really will help her developmentally in the long run too. I also found the jumparoo to be helpful during this period. It is important not to use jumparoos or exersaucers too long each day (max 20 minutes), but it can sometimes be nice after meal time to keep her upright and occupied while her food digests. She might need more physical activity to tire her out so she will sleep better during naps and at night.

Also, make sure she is getting a big enough Zantac dose. I don't know how big she is, but my son was around 16lbs at that time, and he was taking 1ml Zantac 3xday. Her reflux may not be being fully controled. HTH!

By FlorinsMom
Posted November 7, 2009 at 10:36 am
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This age and phase, with our daughter on oxygen, just about killed us because we could not let her cry it out at all. She would pull the oxygen canula off her face and turn blue. So if you are not dealing with oxygen, you can set her down for a few minutes and go in a another room and takes some deep breaths yourself. If something absolutely must be done, like dinner made, can you put her down and listen to gentle music that will help you and maybe not make things worse for her?
It may help to know that many babies between 8 and 14 weeks (typical age) have a period of fussiness and some babies mostly have it in the evening and some all day and night.
In our case, we found that keeping her sitting a little reclined, in a bouncy seat or reclined high chair might work for a little while, but she absolutely liked being held the best and very little else got done.

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