have some issues~ need your input!

Ok~ my name is Denise. I am on my 4th pregnancy (3rd viable). I had some light early contractions with 1st baby and got brethine pills sent home and lots of bleeding. Stopped taking at 37 weeks and went right into labor (different O B). Lost 2nd pregnancy at 11 weeks. 3rd pregnancy had preterm labor twice around 28 weeks and again at 35 weeks. Was given Steroids, mag, brethine, I VS and had him at 36 weeks. He was completely healthy other than a rare skin disease that has nothing to do with preterm stuff. Now I am with same doc and have had preterm labor since 22 weeks. Had to see an on call doc labor day weekend and he was very concerned. was 50 % efaced and 1 cm. Was put on bedrest and given a few shots of brethine. Since then my doc pretty much took me off bedrest cuz he said he considers me a normal pregnancy??? I had BV this pregnancy and was in hosp again (for the 4th time) over the weekend with "uterine irriability".No shots, no IV, no nothing except monitoring. I am having contractions as i type. My doc has in his chart that I am 1 cm on outside and closed on inside? I am confused because of what I was told labor day weekend. I don't want to change doctors because of money issues I think I should make an app to just ask questions and let him know my concerns. What do you think? A few of my friends say their docs would keep them on bedrest and be more aggressive. Oh and by the way we live in a small town and they only deliver 36 weeks and up. We have to go an hour and a half away to deliver. I have had no steroids this time yet either. Please can anyone give me advice?? I am so frustrated! I hope this all makes sense. I have kept myself on bedrest because I know my body and I have more contractions when I am up and around. I have told doc this and he giggles and tells me to stop worrying! That makes me mad! UGH!!! Help!