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Am I paranoid

TrinketMama
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DH is looking for a new job. I insist that he find one either with hours that are compatible to mine, or that pays well enough that I can be a SAHM. I absolutely refuse to put Trinity (she's a 34 weeker, now 4 1/2 months actual) in daycare. I didn't like the idea before she was born premature, because of the thought of leaving my baby with strangers. Since she was born premature, though, I don't want her in any daycare. At all. I wouldn't want her in it if my best friend ran it. I do not want her exposed to illness. I even make her older sisters sanitize their hands as soon as they get in the car and after every public outing. They're also not to kiss the baby on her face.

Am I paranoid or just taking appropriate precautions?

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Premature babies

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mygirlsmom

Taking precautions about germs should be standard course for any baby. For premature babies, the risk of lung problems is increased, especially if the baby had lung complications, was on oxygen for extended time, and/or has any lung damage. My girls were 30 weekers, and did not have any lung issues, but when they caught RSV, it was scary - not just b/c they were preemies, it's just scary to see a baby that sick. Precautions are smart. Many parents, including myself, sent our children to daycare as infants. Mine got sick, so i took them out right away and scraped up enough money to get a nanny. We cannot affort only one of us to work, so a nanny was the route that worked for us. For many moms on this site, daycare was the only alternative, and they have made it work for them. Do whatever works best for your family. best wishes.

TrinketMama

Thankfully she didn't have any lung problems. Hopefully DH can find something compatible to my schedule. I work really early hours so we should be able to work around it. We had planned for me to go part time after she was born, but DH lost his job so I've had to stay full time for now.

A nanny is a good option that I hadn't thought of.

mygirlsmom

For us, with twins, a nanny actually ended up being CHEAPER. We had just assumed it would be more. I've heard of nannies costing anywhere between $9 and $18 per hour, depeding on where you live. I'm in Chicago, and the average rate is $12-15/hour. My husband and I worked our schedule so that I leave a little later than normal and he comes home a little earlier, so that she works 10 hour days (7:30-5:30).

We found ours using www.sittercity.com. There was recently a post on here about how to interview and find a nanny - I'll look for it and post the link. Good luck.

TrinketMama

Thank you.

MyMilo

We weren't sure for a while what we were going to do, even if Milo was full term. Once he was born at 1 pound, 2 ounces it seemed like our options were pretty limited. Ultimately, I kept my job, and my husband quit his to take care of Milo. Just wanted to suggest it in case you have a job that makes enough to support the family and he does well with the baby. I know a lot of men wouldn't do it, and I'm lucky in that regard.

TrinketMama

I don't make enough to support us. My income was supposed to just supplement his....and then he lost his job. Ideally, we would like for him to find one that can support us, and I would stay home with Trinity.

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