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goldy24k
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Does anyone have a problem with perverts bothering you online? People who want to know too much or you end up telling too much about yourself in the first place. This happened with someone I know even! In person he's a handsome gentlman, but on-line he is quite the oposit. How do I deal with these people? Any advice would be helpful. I'm going to be very cautious about who I talk to.
It's hard. I have met some neat people on the disabled dating and other sites.

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angelbrd67

fortunately when your online you have the Delete option! Just block these people or don't respond to them. If you ignore them then they tend to go away. If you are nice they will keep bugging you.

Good Luck!
Michelle

greensmile

i agree with angelbrd67.delete and that's it.these people do NOT deserve your attention.i heard somewhere that their is a service that takes care of on-line perverts.
take care and........never ever give up hope,keep the faith,andkeep smiling :) :) :)

goldy24k

Thank you for the advice. I won't get it started if he is suposibly a friend, I'll say please don't go there. I'll block/ignor them if I can or I'll just will not talk to them.

LizZenU

You have several choices I'd like to suggest; 1) report it to the web administrators, 2) kindly refuse their request (act as you would in person, with respect and dignity), 3)learn that their game is to irritate you, and if they write/chat with a behavior you do not appriciate, then be polite, and say "No, thank you."

These predators more than likely will spawn elsewhere when they do not get the response they want. In other words, don't feed the animals.

By the way which dating sites were you referring to? I'd like to know so that I'll stay away from them. I admire your posting on this topic because being online for chats - many people forget that we have feelings and emotions, and predators prey on the weaker of the food chain. Be safe and gracefully assert yourself, you're a lady!

goldy24k

I was talking about enable love and disabled dating and friendship. I just talk to people I know personally on facebook and myspace. I also have flixter and my yearbook but do not use them.

Ei

People can be really bold on the computer, when you are not looking them in the eye. They are also anonymous - which means they can be anyone they want - or say anything they want. You just have to be careful. Don't give out too much info about yourself.
And, if you don't like where the conversation is going - end it. On the other hand - I met my husband on aol 13 years ago (in the early years), my daughter met her soon to be husband in a game on the computer (all the way in France, yet) and my nephew met his wife thru a dating service on line - so there are many, many success stories - because it can be just a way for people to meet - nice people too. Don't give up!
Just be careful. Good luck!

goldy24k

Thank you for telling me that story. I know there the "are good" people out there and there are bad. I need to weed through the bad to get to the good. I have a friend who met her husband online too, so I know it's posible. YOU JUST NEED TO KNOW HOW TO SAY NO WHEN IT GOES TOO FAR THE OTHER WAY> I'VE BEEN TALKING TO A NICE GUY from VA He told me some jokes today. He has been a real gentleman. I am not talking to that other man any more.

Nina372

So there was a guy that would not leave me alone he was a real pervert my response the first time #1 "Listen buddy leave me alone" the second time, #2 " I'm reporting you to the authorities" the third time he said anything #3 "my daddy has a big gun!"

lol Ok so really. Here is what you should really do.
Don't threaten them. (seriously). If its on facebook or myspace you can report them if its at a blogspot file a complaint and have the blogspot leaders make them leave. And if you don't have a good feeling about it push the DELETE button.

Nina

goldy24k

Thanks Nina!
I stoped talking to the rude dude and put him on Ignor! I saw him on my space but I didn't say one word to him!
I do not want to talk to him unless I have to or he appologises. He tried to make me feel sorry for him the last time we chatted. He said I'm loosing all my friends. Well, whose fault is that? Not mine!
Anyway,Now I'm talking to a wonderful gentleman online now. He has said nothing but kind words to me and is very flattering. He is never pushy. We even spoke on the phone once. For now on if a dude is rude I'll do whatever I have to to get rid of him.

goldy24k

Thanks! I got that rude dude on ignor. I think I will give him the silent treatment at camp too. Now I am talking to a real nice gentleman whose name is Jamey. So I have no use for old Kyle any more. He's a memory!

graybeard

Jus to add one more thing...there is a guy from South Africa, whose line is he is a pilot, but also he is a devo. He has contacted ladies from Facebook, MySpace, and on CareCure. He is interested in women in wheelchairs. I forget the name he uses, can try to find it, but I do know quite a few women have had a difficult time getting rid of him.....

goldy24k

I'm glad I'm not dealing with that "stuff" anymore

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