As you know, I have a decal on my rear window that says" It Whispers, So Listen". Well today, as my son and i were walking to the Jenny Craig centre(its in a smal strip mall). two young men behind us, about 23 or so, were saracastically and jokingly sayng, D'uh, it whispers, huh, huh. I shot them the dirtiest look I could but didn't feel it was enough/ So, I grabbed my son, walked into the store they were in and handed them a flyer and cards about OVCA saying" Excuse me, but I heard someone comment on my window"...He said sorry but I shoved the flyer into his hands saying" it's about a disease, why don't you read up about it." As I was leaving, still pissed off, I see him and his friend laughing. I'm still kind of fumed about it. If i didn't have my son with me, I would have given him an earful(I tend to have a potty mouth when I'm ticked off).
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Oohhh, I HATE Ignorant People
- By ThePhoenix
- Posted November 28, 2008 at 1:15 pm · 12 replies
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Cancer Uterine cancer Soma Mental health Breast cancer Ovarian cancer
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- By 1knocR
- Posted November 28, 2008 at 1:42 pm
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I hear you!! When my hair was growing back in, it was rather like a buzz cut and I wasn't wearing a hat or scarf. I was in a Wal-Mart trying to get the electronics section when I heard the Marine Corp call of "who-wah". I was in a hurry and needed to get something and then leave on a trip. I played it over in my mind that I wished I would have turned around and walked up to him and his girlfriend.....both to be about 17 or 18...and start off very nicely about why my hair was the way it was. And then end it with my finger poking him in his chest with "so the next time you want to make such a sarcastic remark at someone, think about what I just told you, MF!" That would have made me feel better!!!!! Not very lady like but I wasn't in the mood to be a lady at that moment.
- By Rose2
- Posted November 28, 2008 at 7:37 pm
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Phoenix.....I read your post and I had to smile.....people do not have a clue as to what we are going thru. I run across that kind of thing also. We probably all do. But do you know what ....there was a time when I would of been one of those people. It is a blessing that you are able to tell others about your cancer and the symptoms Those kids had no clue... as to what your decal meant. But keep up the good work...keep telling others...and spreading the word as you are doing. Keep a SMILE on your face, and together we will all make a difference. ((HUGS))
- By mmtraynor
- Posted November 28, 2008 at 9:37 pm
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Maybe you should switch your sign on the back of your car and get one like I have. It has the little boy
"peeing", and instead of saying "piss on Ford", mine says "piss on cancer".
I was two years with no hair, and found it truly amazing that everyone I passed no matter where I was gave me an amazing smile. I could never understand how, or why, so many teenagers I passed that still gave this 70 year old lady the smile.
- By kolson
- Posted November 29, 2008 at 7:07 am
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That is so frustrating, but who knows, maybe God put you in that place to educate these boy's. Sometimes it happens that way and unfortunately they may be touched by the disease . Maybe not, but either way, one of those kids will read and then you have spread awareness one by one.
Hang in there sister!
Kris Olson
- By zircons
- Posted November 29, 2008 at 9:04 am
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Just remember, these people are ignorant. However, before our diagnoses, what did we know about ovarian cancer and its symptoms? Try not to take it so seriously. There are more important things to get aggravated about. What about having the local newspaper interview you about the disease to educate people in your area? Or even local TV?
- By verlinda
- Posted November 29, 2008 at 10:42 am
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Here's the other cool thing--you know the window decal is serving it's purpose. People are noticing, commenting, and giving you the opportunity to tell about ovca.
The kids still were jerks, but jerks can turn around and be absolute sweethearts.
I'm sorry it happened to you.
Blessings,
Verlinda
- By quiltmaker
- Posted November 29, 2008 at 10:48 am
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Even family can be ignorant. When I finally got the courage to stop wearing my hate most people did not say anything, but my brother in law, who was around for all my treatments had the balls to tell me he liked my "new butch look". I don't find much to talk with him about this days.
Also I wanted to ask mmtraynor where did she find a window sticker that says piss on cancer, I want one.
Pam
- By soma
- Posted November 29, 2008 at 2:45 pm
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While reading the messg as well as all the comments I went through a lot of stuff. Initially I was smiling and then when I was at the last messg I remembered a few things. Yes sometimes people around even knowning and being there actually cannot get into our shoes to understand. One of my friends who was always there from the first day through the recurrence is someone who either doesnot understand or may be choose not to show. She is a medical doctor herself and she teases me when I have no hair and also jokes on topics like `"having kids". Initially I used to think maybe she is trying to make the moment light but repeatedly going on- it did made me rethink. To an extent that once while telling something she mentioned as if I was destined to have a recurrence and that was when I finally opened my mouth and told her that I was pained.
These things just make me run away from people who know I have ovca and go where people donot know me at all, so that I can be at peace.
Thank you all for being there and listening...
love you all
Peace, joy & love
Soma
- By Eileen1941
- Posted November 29, 2008 at 5:05 pm
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Hi Pheonix,
I'm sorry that you had that experience. Too often people speak before they have their brains in gear. So please do not take such statements or taunting personally. After being an RN in Mental Health for 26 years, I seriously doubt that anyone can say anything that would really upset me. When others speak, it is their opinion only and you can protect yourself by just not agreeing with their statement. If they want to be foolish that is their choice.
But I am glad that you are taking opportunites to educate people about OVCA. I tried to get the Mayor of Charlotte to include an information pamphlet on Ovarian and Uterine Cancer with the water bills that are mailed out to all the households in Charlotte. His only response was to tell me to work with the Koleman Foundation, which is of course, focused on breast cancer. There is still so much work to do!!!
Phoenix, I can understand your frustration, but don't hang up the gloves. Keep doing what you are doing and we will do our best to join you at any opportunity!
God Bless!! Eileen
- By Dodie1
- Posted November 30, 2008 at 5:15 pm
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ThePhoenix,
I'm glad you turned around and did that. That's another way to get the word out to those ignorant of this disease.
I hand out bookmarks when I'm able to.
I'm going to start sending out emails to family and friends to get them more aware.
I've been thinking about contacting my local newspaper to get more people around here aware of OVCA. I'll let you know when I do.
Take care & God Bless
- By Dodie1
- Posted November 30, 2008 at 5:16 pm
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Oh...here's a link to the window decal:
http://www.decalmax.com/catalog.php?dir_id=127
- By melf
- Posted December 1, 2008 at 5:07 pm
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Good for you! I probably would have followed up with "and I hope and pray that your mother, sister, wife, daughter do not have to deal with this in their lifetime"!! People are ninnies.
Hang in there Phoenix, one person at a time.
Melissa
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