A friend that I've known all of my life lost her battle with breast cancer Sunday morning.
We were diagnosed at the same time, by the same oncologist a little over 2yrs. ago.
Her and her hubby had adopted a daughter a few years ago. Her daughter accidentally elbowed her in the boob and a knot came up which is when she found out she had breast cancer. Her attitude has been the absolute opposite of mine this whole time. But it moved to her brain a few months ago and that is what did it's toll on her. I feel bad that he's got this 7yr. old little girl to raise by himself now. She told her grandma Sunday morning that she wanted to go for a ride and her grandma told her that she'd take her anywhere she wanted to go. She said that she wanted to be in a wreck and die so she could be with her mama again.
Please keep her family in your thoughts and prayers.
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Lost a friend Sunday
- By Dodie1
- Posted May 20, 2009 at 5:49 pm · 14 replies
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- By Jennali
- Posted May 20, 2009 at 9:18 pm
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Oh, how awful, Dodie. I am so sorry. That poor little girl. When you think it's appropriate, you might suggest some grief counseling for the both of them. Something geared for children might help this little one.
I am so sorry you have lost a friend.
- By verlinda
- Posted May 21, 2009 at 6:27 am
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Oh, Dodie,
I'm so sorry for you and your friend's family. If school is still in session, you might advise your friend's husband that he ask the guidance counselor for a counselor's name. The guidance counselor usually can steer him to someone effective with children as opposed to someone who generally works with adults.
How are YOU doing?
Blessings.
- By FavoriteAunt
- Posted May 21, 2009 at 8:42 am
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Some sadness knows no end. I'm really sorry to hear about your friend, and even more so for her family. I also think that grief counseling could be crucial for that little girl.
I know this comes at a time when you have your own problems, so try to keep your positive attitude. Prayers are being offered for everyone involved.
- By melf
- Posted May 21, 2009 at 11:24 am
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Dodie I am so sorry to hear of your friends passing. I hope that the child is not blaming herself for "giving" her mom the cancer by elbowing her. My prayers go out to you and their family.
Mel
- By Eileen1941
- Posted May 21, 2009 at 11:52 pm
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Hi Dodie,
My heart goes out to you and your friend's family and special prayers are going up for that little girl. Such a tragedy!! It is so hard to even try to understand why things like this have to happen.
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this most difficult time. Eileen
- By 1knocR
- Posted May 22, 2009 at 8:05 am
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Dodie, I lost 2 of my best friends to cancer one month apart. I was in my first remission at the time they were battling recurrences. I understand how you must feel about loosing your friend to this disease. I hope you will find comfort in knowing that she is around you, looking out for you. I talk to my friends every so often because I feel they come around, one mostly to play tricks on me. And I hope your friends' family gets through the passing of their wife and mother. -Lisa
- By katelynsmamaw
- Posted May 22, 2009 at 9:11 am
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Dodie, I am so sorry about your friend. I can't imagine how it feels to lose a friend. They are so precious. My heart goes out to you ...............and that little girl.
- By esther3kids
- Posted May 24, 2009 at 12:54 am
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My prayers are with you and your friends family. I too agree that the little girl needs some kind of counseling.
I'll be praying for all of you,
Love, Esther
- By ttlrn
- Posted May 24, 2009 at 1:28 am
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Dear Dodie,
I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Please know you and her family are in my prayers.
- By momanderson920
- Posted May 24, 2009 at 11:43 pm
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Dodie, I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I pray that God will give her family grace to deal with this terrible tragedy. And you, too.
- By Bootyjig5
- Posted May 25, 2009 at 11:45 am
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Dodie,
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your friends family. Be the best friend and helper you can be for them, they need all the love they can get right now. God Bless all of them.
Dawn
- By acutee-2
- Posted May 25, 2009 at 7:57 pm
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When I was twelve mom and I had a friend that had breast cancer and lost her battle after eight years of fighting. By the time she died it was in her brain and in her lungs. She had three children and the youngest was thirteen. Her husband left them and the eldest lived out of state with her boyfriend. The middle child embraced cheerleadering and distracted herself with that. The thirteen year old turned to drugs and fluked his classes until his eldest sister came home to care for him.
Lots of children struggle but how to let them grieve without upsetting them further is the difficult part.
How old is she? Maybe just a couple of fun days about her will help her be distracted until everything is settled down for her father and you. Then counseling... has she been raised with religion or a belief in an after-life? That sometimes gives people comfort.
There are lots of children books about losing people and what death is, but I am not sure what there is out there for young children when they lose a parent? I would look into something like that to help her understand that her mom is no longer having to fight her cancer and that she would want her to live her life and make her proud.
Well, that's all I can think of off-hand. Good luck to you.
You are all in my prayers.
Jillian
- By Dodie1
- Posted May 26, 2009 at 9:36 pm
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Thank You all so much!
The little girl is 7. She's been in counseling for over a year now. Her daddy is spending a lot of time with her right now. And her grandma too.
My friends breast cancer had moved to her liver and brain too. She had a very hard time.
- By ohmama123
- Posted May 27, 2009 at 7:29 am
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Dodie - My heart goes out to you and your friends family... and to that little girl. I have a son who is about to turn 7 and it puts these stories into perspective very quickly when you look into the eyes of a chid. I look at that child as the miracle that gave your friend those extra 2 years - if it had not been her elbow, when would the cancer have been found? I hope you all can someday find peace in your memories.
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