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Another sister taken by The Beast

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A woman who was doing chemo at the same time as me for an ovarian cancer recurrence died on Monday. She had been heavy on my mind this week, so tonight I Googled her name and found the sad news. Her husband was so devoted to her. I can only imagine his pain. He was kind enough to ask my permission to be on his church's prayer list.

I did not know this woman well, but I grieve her untimely death. The last few times I saw her, I knew she was suffering. I even told my husband that I feared she was going to die. I can't explain the connection I had with her, but I know I cried when I read her obituary.

Rest in peace, dear sister. Rest in peace.

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No matter our ages, we are all too damn young ...

I too have connected with many who have this disease and I may not have had we not had something in common. I have made so many new and dear friends and I have outlived many of them. It's sad and sometimes I feel guilty about that. I used to sit and ponder and not understand when I would hear of someone who was guilty only being the only survivor in a crash or fire or something. I didn't "get it" then but now I do. One never truly understands until they are thrust in to a situation.

God bless you all with an enjoyable evening
Melissa

Even when you don't know them, you feel something when they are taken. Yes, we all ARE connected in this. I just know I hate this damn disease!

I cannot tell you how much I am getting connected with so many of you. I do not have ovca, but my daughter does. She is just beginning this journey to outsmart "the beast". If anyone can, I know she will.
She will not look at any of your discussions yet..she says it is depressing. It's only been a month.
Teresa, you are right about God's Plan for each of us.
God shared something with me back in 1997, when I anxiously awaited seeing the arrival of my granddaughter ...and then, 5 days later agonized over watching the departure of my mom. In my thoughts and spirit God told me that just as we were so anxious to show our baby girl how much more the world outside the womb had waiting for her...all the angels and loved ones who were in heaven waiting for my mom to come home, could not wait to show her how much more wonderful it was where she was coming to. I could not communicate to my granddaughter how she should not be afraid to come to all the loving arms waiting for her. And all those waiting for my mom, could not communicate to her that she should not be afraid..because of all the loving arms awaiting her arrival. They almost passed each other - coming and going! IT IS GOD'S PLAN! YOU ARE LOVED! USE THE GUIDANCE AND KNOWLEDGE HE GIVES YOU AND CONTINUE TO FIGHT FOR EACH OTHER! YOU ARE ALL AMAZING.
Love and hugs

This is very sad. I had made friends with two ladies in my area that had OVC. We all three went to lunch together several times and were so proud that we were survivors. Both of them are gone now. I took
it very hard each time. Plus I met another friend when I was in the hospital the first time that recently passed of breast cancer. My husband says that "cancer" is the worst word in the dictionary. He hates that word, as do I. The only time it would be wonderful is if the word CURE came after it.

It's because we are all connected and feel each other's pain.

I became acquatinted with a part-time worker at the periodontist I went to a few years ago. The receptionist knew about me and wanted to introduce us because we had the same cancer. I'd chat with her and encourage her (her journey started after mine). A few times she was very discouraged and wanted to draw up her will, etc., but I told her to keep fighting. When I went for a checkup a good while later I asked for her and the girls reluctantly told me she had passed away. I was in shock and really felt terrible. They knew I'd ask about her and dreaded telling me - but did make sure I knew how much she always valued our chats and my encouragement.

It could be any of us and that's why we understand.

It is funny how we connect with people but if you ever read the poem about Reason Season Lifetime, you could dig into your heart and figure out why you met and for what reason. I have connected with ladies on this site, some of whom have already taken flight and with each one that leaves this earth I shed tears as if I had really known them. I think it goes to show that you don't have to meet face to face to bond with another person. You never see how they live, what "things" they collect etc, you only know them from the heart.There was a man that took chemo at the same time my Mom did who was always upbeat and very positive. He was such a pleasure to everyone around him. He took flight before my Mom but you would have never guessed that God would call for him first. He was a big strapping young man in his 40'sand my Mom was a tiny frail woman in her mid 70's. God has a plan for each of us and puts people in our life for a reason. Huggs to you, Teresa

http://www.steeldog.com/reasonseasonlifetime.htm

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