I was just diagnosed with high grade dyplasia (CIN 3, and high risk HPV. I will have my LEEP this Tuesday.
This was my first abnormal pap.
I am so depressed. My boyfriend and I just started living together three months ago and everything was going perfect; it was absolute bliss, until now.
This whole thing has made us very confused and we feel lost. We both feel like we don't know how to act. I feel so much guilt for giving HPV to him. I know that there is no official way to tell where it came from, but we did the background investigations on our partners, and it makes more sense that I would have it. But, I still have this guilt. I feel so terrible when I look at him and his face has anger in it, not something I am used to seeing.
We were both "clean" before this, and there has been no cheating. I know HVP can lay dormant in the body for a long time. Does something significant have to happen for us to start having symptoms?
Since there is no test for men, how does he know FOR SURE if he has HPV?
We have been having sex unprotected for over a year, so chances are he does have it.
So, what does he do now?
He is so obsessed, he checks his penis 10 times a day, he thinks that warts are going to start growing in his urethra, and he has a sore throat for the past few days, and keeps saying he hopes he doesn't have throat cancer.
I understand this is all a shock, and we panic in a situation like this, but does anyone have any advice for me or him, to not be so obsessive everyday???
Also, after my LEEP, and am healed, when am I considered clear?
Will me and my boyfriend ever have the sex life (including oral) that we once so recently had?
If I have the high grade dysplasia, can I still get warts? Can my boyfriend still get warts from me having the high grade?
We have never seen a wart on either of us. Will they start to grow now?
Also, if we break up, and date other people, if we have been clear of HPV by a doctor, are we safe to have sex with someone?
Is HPV spread through his semen?
How common is it for men to get cancers (penile, anal, throat), because of being infected with the high grade HPV that I have?
Whoever has the patience to tackle my questions, I am truly greatful and love you.