sex after hpv/dysplasia diagnosis?

• By Andy_mph
• Posted October 27, 2009 at 10:20 am
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I am sorry that you are going through this. I am married, so I don't have to worry about future partners. However, I have found that since my diagnois of hpv about 3 weeks ago, I just don't feel sexual at all. I don't even want to have sex, but I know eventually my husband is going to approach me (I haven't told him about the hpv, only about the abnormal pap and the colp which I have not received results for yet.) I completely understand you not wanted to have sex, but you can't do that forever. Hopefully you will find someone that makes you comfortable enough to have sex again eventually. Make sure that he is very understanding and you feel that he has husband potential beforehand though.
I am still afraid to tell my husband (I don't know if he will understand.)

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• By jmeloni
• Posted October 28, 2009 at 1:24 pm
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I'm 32, but I'm in a committed relationship. When I found out I was HPV + I definitely felt unsexy, but that is part of the process. I think having a better understanding of HPV helps and the fact that almost everyone has it. It's not only spread by sex, but skin to skin contact.
What I'm trying to say is that you can't get away from it. You have it. They only thing is that you could contract another strain if you don't take necessary measures to protect yourself. And yes, you could give it to someone who doesn't have it, but you have it anyway. Guys aren't effected by HPV like women are either unless it warts. You have to come to terms that this is part of having sex, this is the risk I take and I can't stop living my life.
Fortunately, it didn't phase my boyfriend. I think part of it is that we new we were committed to each other, but like Andy said you have to feel comfortable with someone. I do think that you need to tell someone you intend to be serious with and protect yourself and others it you do not intend to be serious with a person. if the person who you intend to be serious with doesn't respond the way you had hope......well then maybe it shouldn't go further. You may be surprised though in the response. I was. I thought he was gunna think I was dirty or something, but for all I know he gave it to me. We don't know. It only take that one time.

Phew.........I think I need to stop. Take care, good luck, and do yourself a favor, don't stop living.

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