Here is my situation:
I have never tested positive for HPV or had an adnormal PAP before ( I am 28). I have alway tested negative for everything every time I went in for PAPs and STD screens.
My most recent boyfriend, whom I was with for 4 months, and I were sexually active. On New Years Eve he told me that he had unprotected sex with his ex wife.
I decided to go in and get tested. Three weeks later, I got the call that I tested positive for HPV and abnormal cells and needed a Colposcopy to determine what the next actiob should be.
After extensive research, I might add him and I had broken up before i got said results, that I needed to tell him. Not only for my peice of mind, his saftey but for his ex wifes as well.
He had mentioned to me before in passing that she in the past had had a cervical cancer scare. This leads me to believe that since I had tested negative every time before, that this possibly could have come from him and/or her. I understand that most sexually active people carry it and that is simply a risk we take having sex, protected or not.
Was I wrong for telling him?
I am pushing him to tell her. He refused to tell her he was dating some one new and she does not know that he was seeing or sleeping with me (I recently discovered).
I feel she needs to know. He said he will tell her, but I find it hard to believe that he will. He was more concerned with her feelings than anything else.
Again, it was ethical to tell him right?
He is freaking out because he read the words "penis cancer" in a WebMD post.
I am scheduling a colposcopy soon, I am a small business owner without insurance, so I need to save the money first because I need to pay out of pocket.