Hello, I'm new here.
Actually found this site by googling information about if having a biopsy could be a cause of painful sex.
My husband and I have been friends for almost 11 years and started dating almost 2 years ago. We became sexually active with each other about a month after we started dating (we had planned on waiting longer, but we got drunk one night and were horny and one thing led to another and it was great!)
The week before we got married, this past September, I went in for my first gyno exam because I wanted to get on birth control. They did the pap smear and everything. The doctor noticed something when she swabbed, but assured me that it was probably nothing to worry about and probably just a minor yeast infection.
The week after we got back from our honeymoon I got a call from the doctor's office saying that my pap smear showed some abnormalities and they wanted me to come in for a colposcopy and biopsy.
I had the colposcopy and biopsy about a month ago, where they took 3 samples to exam. 1 sample showed nothing, another showed mild dysplasia, and the 3rd showed moderate dysplasia. Because of the moderate dysplasia, my doctor wants to do a LEEP procedure to remove that and the mild just so it doesn't progress worse and turn into cancer. He also informed me that the main cause is HPV.
This shocked me because I have only had 2 partners in my lifetime - my ex of 3 and a half years in college (who had only slept with me and his ex who was a virgin at the time they did it) and my husband (who, even though had been sexually active in the past, got tested for STDs when we first started dating and the results showed up clean). My ex and I always used condoms and while my husband didn't put a condom on until after foreplay, we were always careful. I had no idea you could contract something like HPV while using a condom!
Regardless, I'm having my LEEP in the first week of December.
The problem is though, ever since the biopsy, sex has been painful!
My husband and I have never had a problem with sex before. My doctor said no sex for 2 weeks after the biopsy, which we followed and even went an extra day or so just to be safe and I've had my period twice since then. The first few times it hurt a lot - almost to the point of tears but I figured it was just because I was probably tight due to not having any for 2 weeks and the procedure, so we took it slow and gentle and haven't been having it as much as we were before. But now it's been about a month and it still hurts a lot when we try! Sometimes, once we work him in, the pain subsides after a few minutes, but other times it just plain hurts or we can't get him in at all. It was *never* like this before!
Has anyone else had painful sex weeks after a biopsy?
Do you think it could all just be mental and stress over the whole colposcopy/biopsy and LEEP?
Will sex be normal again after the dysplasia's removed? My doctor said no sex for 4 weeks after LEEP and then to use condoms for 2 months after that if we do...
This couldn't have anything to do with my birth control (Reclipsen), could it? I was on it for a full month before the biopsy and things seemed fine with it.
I'm just really bothered and it's upsetting to me. I really want to have normal sex again with my husband like it was before the biopsy - it really makes me sad when we try and I just can't because it hurts so bad - I know he understands, but I can't help but feel bad and a little upset with myself because it's my body being difficult. I don't think I can live with myself if this is how our sex life is going to be from now. Sex is important in a marriage - part of our pre-marital counseling included reading a book that talked about how important is to make sure you're taking the time and including sex regularly in your marriage. I'm just really worried that it's never going to get better and that this is how it's going to be.
Any suggestions or advice?
Edited November 16, 2008 at 6:05 am