My girlfriend, 34 years old, has been diagnosed with Cervical Cancer. Her Oncologist told me it was stage IIb. She is going through radiation 5 times a week and chemo every Wednesday. She has just finished up her second week and is scheduled for 6 total and then maybe internal radiation if she needs it.
What i'm trying to find out from those of you that have been through similar treatments is if the treatments/drugs she is getting can cause severe mood swings? Or maybe just the pressure of finding out and suddenly going through all this can cause some kind of mood swings?
I have been with her for 4 months now, but have known her since we were kids. Our relationship progressed very quick in the 4 months because of this and I moved in with her about 2 weeks ago so i could help her while she went through all this.
My previous relationship lasted for 17 years before slowly dwindling away the last few years of it. However, with my current girlfriend I have felt more love and have had more affection then I ever thought could exist. I have done everything I possibly could for her, like change the way I dress to her liking, change the way I act because certain things annoyed her, change what I eat and drink, the way I wear my hair...everything she's asked of me. I have been there for her every step of the way during this...every doctor's appointment, every treatment, holding her every day when she didn't feel good or was sad.
We went from taking walks while holding hands for 45 minutes, snuggling on the couch watching movies, intimately touching and passionate kissing(because we cannot have intercourse during all this) and her telling me all the time how much she loves me and is so lucky to have me there for her to just the other morning her getting irate with me out of nowhere and telling me she has no romantic feelings for me. And when I say out of nowhere, I mean it...it was like a bomb hitting and everything has changed...she talks to me like I disgust her and every time I try to talk to her about it, she starts getting mad, snaps at me and won't talk.
Now, I just moved in with her and gave up my house to my ex and all the furniture and stuff in it. I discussed this with my girlfriend for weeks and let her know I would have nothing and wanted to make sure it is truly what she wanted...each time she told me yes and got irritated because I even had a thought anything could go wrong. I spent hundreds of dollars on medical/dental to get my son everything he needed to get transferred to the new school. Now, here I am with absolutely nothing and nowhere to go...she says she will not kick me out, but you can imagine how I feel with her acting so cold towards me and all the stress and tension...I feel like i'm walking on eggshells every second of the day.
So, after that book of a story, I need to know is this possibly some side-effects of the treatments or am I just dealing with a very cold-hearted woman? If it may be the treatments, then I love her enough to stick it through and stay and help her because she has been getting worse and worse, but if the treatments do nothing like that and she is just cold, then i'd like to try and get my life together and get out of this hellish situation.
Any advice would be great and I would appreciate it so much. Thanks in advance!