I need advise!!!

I have a problem, there is a lump on my anus and I have many other problems. I have hpv I was diagnosed when I was preg with my last daughter almost 2 1/2 years ago. Since then I have had anal itching, a weird smell from my vagina, can't seem to lose weight,one lymphnoid is swollen,ect it goes on and on. I don't have insurance on my self my kids do but my husbands ins. for me would be 200 a pay check and that's just robbery, so I'm stuck I can't afford all the doctors I need to see. We are saving for a house so I have money saved now and don't want to spend it all on docs it took so long to save it but I'm wondering if I should bite the bullet and just do it. I'm also scared to find out if somethings wrong I have 3 girls and it would hurt them and me so much for something to be wrong. I know it childish to not go for that reason but it is very scary for me please be nice with your response. I am going through a ruff time right now and need nice answers not mean ones please. I should also add I have all symptoms of anal cancer. But I think it could also be himr.

By Bymyside247
Posted July 16, 2009 at 2:56 am
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Aries1283: There is not even a fraction of doubt that you should go see your doctor. Your life is so much more valuable than a house! This may be nothing serious, but it IS something! Please, bite the bullet and go be seen. Cancer is not a death sentence like it used to be. Survivors abound everywhere. IF there is something like cancer going on, you want to know ASAP..........not wait until it has progressed even furthur. You are right, your daughters need you so please do not hesitate to go to the doctors. What doesn your husband say about all this? Where is your swollen lymph node? You said you have all the symptoms of anal cancer; does that mean you are bleeding from your rectum, have rectal discharge, rectal itching, is the lump you have soft or hard, does it come and go, are your bowel habits changed, are your stools thinned out?

If I am correct, no one here is going to be mean to you, only extremely concerned and caring. Please, call your doctor tomorrow..............you can buy a house later. Those girls need you to take care of you.

Please, keep us in touch with your decision. My heart is with you at this moment as are my prayers :o)

Best wishes and hopes for you and yours.

By aries1283
Posted July 16, 2009 at 3:02 am
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Thank you, my husband says go but I just worry. Yes to all of those, but the lump is soft,and the lymph noid is on my neck its been swollen for about 1 year. I don't have ins so if something is wrong I don't know what we will do for money to take care of it that is another reason I'm so scared I stay home with my girls and can't work due to the fact one of my daughters is sick all the time she has sever asthma and allergies so I'm at a loss.

By BB33301
Posted July 16, 2009 at 9:02 am
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The longer you wait the less likely you will be around to see your children grow up or ever live in a house.
I am not meaning to freak you out but preganancy fuels HPV growth and cancer. Have you also used Anusol or any other Hemi cream? If so, please stop right away.

I do not know where you live but if you are going to go to the doctor which I beg you do, you must go to the best doctor in the area. This means at a University Hospital-not a local community hospital. If you tell me where you live I will try and find one for you if you don't know where the closest one is. This may involve driving but you dont want to waste your money on someone who has never seen this.

You need to go to both a Gynecologist and a Colorectal surgeon. Again, your health is the most important thing for yoru family and the longer you wait, the more expensive it will become for you. Is there any way for your husband to add you to his insurance now? Most plans make you wait until end of year. That would be the lowest cost thing to do however if you have to wait to be added, based on your symptoms, you can't wait.

I waited and was misdiagnosed and ended up with Stage IV Anal Cancer. It is a miracle as well as the great medical care I receieved at MD Anderson that I am even alive at 25 months post diagnosis. I have a 3 1/2 year old and my pregnancy caused the dysplasia to turn into cancer.

Please let us know what you decide.

Beth

By kingsley
Posted July 16, 2009 at 9:30 am
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Hi sweetie,

You're right on target - just bite the bullet and go see the doc. The longer you wait, the more intense the treatments will be.

I know you're scared, thinking that if you don't get a diagnosis, then it's not really happening... but it's not going to get any better without some help. But the fear of the unknown is worse than staring it in the face.

You will feel sooo much better about things once you see an oncologist, because you'll realize the doctor has dealt with cases like this again and again. Just having a gameplan set by the doctor and staff will really set your mind at ease.

Between young kids, especially a sick one, and having these problems weighing so heavily on your mind, you may not be getting much sleep, either. That can't be helping matters any. Your body needs some energy to fight.

Just remember, whether it is cancer or not, the battle to beat it is actually a short one, in the whole scheme of life. From the day of my cervical cancer diagnosis, through chemo and radiation and a hysterectomy, it was 4 months and 4 days.

I don't know anything about the particulars of anal cancer, but it's totally possible that you could be past the whole thing before Christmas even gets here! Just keep your eye on that very close future!

Take the attitude I had: Just Get It OUT! I look at my cancer as something that creeped up on me and started to beat me up. I saw it as something temporary, like a pest that was trying to make my life difficult... like a big fat pimple on prom night LOL - I was horrified, but just wanted it gone so I could get on with my life. I mean, if I live to be 90, what's 4 months and 4 days out that whole entire life? It's miniscule.

If you're worried about the money, the cancer center should be able to set up a payment plan. I was more worried about surviving than paying. But really, I laughed out loud when the financial advisor asked me if $70 was too much for me to handle monthly. (It was 3 years ago, it's hard to remember the amount - it may have even been as low as $40!)

Also, on the money situation, a LOT of civic groups do fund raisers for people in need.

And one of your biggest weapons in the fight against whatever it is you have, is your family. Between making sure you're there to see your kids grow up, and the support that your husband is giving you and that your beautiful girls undoubtedly have for you, you've really got a leg up on many people.

Take care of yourself, and make an appointment. I PROMISE you, it will make you feel MUCH better to know there's a gameplan.

Gerri

By Emkaytx
Posted July 16, 2009 at 9:56 am
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Aries1283, I would seriously look into being added onto your husbands insurance, just in case you are diagnosed with something else. If you don't have insurance now and see a doc, and get a diagnosis and then get insurance you will have a pre-existing disease and you pay for the next year of treatment. (if there is a pre-existing clause). Right now is the time to pay the price of adding you to his policy, and then see a doc get all checked out. It is worth paying the extra $'s now for insurance just in case you need anything major done and it costing thousands! Pre-exisitng diseases on new policies cost the insurance member. (not all diagnosis fall within the pre-existing criteria), but who can take the chance. I would get on his policy ASAP, and then make appointments! I have seen lots of people have to pay a full year of their own treatments until the one year pre-existing waiting period has been met.

Don't delay.....take care of yourself, your body is telling you something is wrong...listen to it!

Try to clear your head of the worry and make a game plan! I delayed things on my own personal issues....and now that I look back I knew my body was telling me, "something is not right".

Good luck...there are alot of people here with wonderful advise, most have been there....done that!

Prayers heading your way!

Emkay

By aries1283
Posted July 16, 2009 at 11:54 am
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Thank you everyone for your response. I called this morning all kinds of docs and not one can do anything in the price range that I have so I called the health dept and they are gonna do a pap and phys. And check the lump and they said if it was something that need to be looked at farther then they would send me where I need to go so my appt is thursday hope it goes well.

By Bymyside247
Posted July 16, 2009 at 12:02 pm
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Aries1283: I see that you live in Dallas; do they not have medicaid or something? Like Kingsley said, a lot of places will take payments. Actually, I like a lot of what she said :o) She have some great insight and advise. I am glad to hear that your hubby is all for you getting in to see the doc; that is wonderful news!

I am curious, do you also have bloating and abdominal pains? I know my next question may sound strange, but have you performed a self-rectal exam? You can get a plastic glove, even a condom if you have one around, lube it up and insert into your gloved finger into your bum and feel for anything hard or rough inside. I know it sounds gross and awkward, but really, it's just a butt :o) Anyway, it was just a suggestion.

Have you felt for any swollen lymph nodes in the pelvic region?

I am sorry to hear that your daughter is sick often. That has to be rough.

Keep your chin up and try not too worry, just make that game plan and take control of your situation.

Please keep us in touch. My prayers and thoughts are with you. :o)

By Bymyside247
Posted July 16, 2009 at 12:04 pm
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Aries: Your appointment is FABULOUS news! Will you let us know how it all goes? I am so excited about this appointment.

Best wishes aries :o)

By aries1283
Posted July 16, 2009 at 12:20 pm
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First yes I live in dallas and they do have Medicaid my girls have it but we make to much money for me to get it unless I was preg. Then I could get it that is ridiculous. No I don't feel any thing swollen in my pelvic region and I have not had any pain in my abdomen also no I have never done a rect exam. I am a bit squeamish about that area. And I'm not bloated I am fat and hadn't been able to lose weight till recently I have finally started to lose weight I'm down 9 lbs. I hope I answered ur questions thank you for your support.

By pepsicolarocks
Posted July 16, 2009 at 10:25 pm
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Aries,

So sorry to hear about your situation!

I also live in the DFW area and was wondering if you had contacted Texas Southwestern Medical (formerly St. Paul Hospital). This is a teaching hospital and they have some of the best doctors in the country and will work around your finances. Yeah, our welfare system is pretty much a joke! Best of luck to you!

By veryscared
Posted July 22, 2009 at 6:03 pm
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hi im from scotland,i was reading about the lady from dallas and i have the same symptoms as her and you asked her if she had bloating feeling,i also have the bloating feeling and like her i am scared to go to my gp as the word cancer freaks me out,something is telling me i have advanced cerv cancer and i am so scared and dont have anyone i can tok to i have 3 kids and im scared of them losing me,im so scared and upset x

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