On Friday October 23rd I was told by my Dr. that I have cervical cancer. I had gone into the Dr. office because I was feeling very sick after I had my LEEP surgery on Tuesday October 20th and was told I had an infection from it, and at the same time she told me I had cancer. It was almost more than I could take! I am a single parent of three kids, this can't be happening! My mom passed away in 2005 from cervical cancer so I have tried very hard to be diligent in getting my annual pap's done, I haven't missed one since 2005 and they have all been normal until my last one a few months ago when I was told I had HPV and severe dysphasia on my cervix. That was scary enough, but to now be told I have cancer and need a hysterectomy is more then I can handle. I have no family here and very few close friends. My boyfriend is trying to be supportive but I think he is just as scared as I am and he really doesn't know how he feels. He says little remarks here and there I think mostly out of fear, and it hurts me. I explained this to him, but I guess he is just dealing with this in his own way. I'm also afraid for my kids, I don't know how to tell them or if I even should. If I do, how will they take the news especially since their grandma died of the same thing. I'm just feeling alone and scared through this whole thing and I don't know who to turn to. Thanks for listening.
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I feel alone and scared
- By caprimm
- Posted October 28, 2009 at 1:21 pm · 4 replies
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- By flowershoplady
- Posted October 28, 2009 at 1:39 pm
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sorry to hear your news.....the first thing you want to do is find a gynecologic oncologist. and then there's a whole list of questions you'll want to ask about your treatment options, etc, including what type of cervical cancer, the stage of the cancer, and so forth. the american cancer society can be a good source of info for questions on what to ask. i'm sure it's especially scary because your mom died from cervical cancer - as you may know, the ability to fight off the hp virus that is the root cause of cervical cancer is the genetic component. hopefully you've discovered the cancer early. let us know how you're doing, and reach out to others here who have also gone through cervical cancer diagnosis and various treatments.
- By kelbel09
- Posted October 28, 2009 at 5:15 pm
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flowershop lady is correct u need a oncologist and start a list of questions I have always said there is no such thing as a stupid questions esp since your mother died of the same thing.. I feel for you I am sure you are terrified but you have 3 great reasons to live!!!! Your right your BF prob doesnt know how to handle this either so give him time to adjust. Check on this site for anyone who is going through what you are now so you can get info as well to make better decisions on what you want to do I wish you well and you are in my prayers
- By SurvivorJan
- Posted October 28, 2009 at 6:12 pm
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caprimm--i'm so sorry to hear your news. please continue to reach out to people on this site & others who have gone through this. i'm not sure where you are located, but if you check on the NCCC website, you can see if there is a local chapter where you live and if so, they would be a great support for you.
please keep us posted--
your cc sister - janet
- By kingsley
- Posted October 31, 2009 at 10:09 pm
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Hi Capri, I'm so sorry for what you're going through, especially after losing your mom to CC.
I agree, you need to see a gyn-oncologist ASAP, who will be able to give you better info on what's going on. A regular doctor just doesn't have the training or research knowledge to really guide you. But once you see a gyn-onc, you'll feel better about having a game plan to get rid of it... he's the one who will be able to give you a course of treatment, which may or may not include a hysterectomy. It sounds like your current doctor may have jumped the gun... she should've sent you straight to a gyn-onc.
I'm glad you found this site so early... it is an incredible support system. So many of us have walked this road, or roads nearby, and can offer some real comfort in your journey. Just keep us apprised of what's going on, with the docs and with your emotions, if you need to vent.
Take care,
Gerri
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