Hello All,
So it has been 4 weeks since my vaginal hysterectomy, falopian tubes and ovaries were left in tact. I am 37, 2 children, was HPV positive and had CIN III.
I love my husband, miss intimacy with my husband, and my desire doesn't seem to have disappeared. But I am terrified that intercourse is going to be an extremely excruciating experience. Here is why I am worried...
My pain level has been higher than most according to my doctor. I have seen him 3 times since I had the surgery. The last time I saw him I thought I was feeling much better until the exam. I was in so much agony after that. I am not feeling 100%, but am feeling so much better. Emotionally and mentally I totally want to be with my husband, but I am also fearful that it is going to hurt, and I don't want him to feel rejected when the time arrives.
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Desire and Afraid of Sex after Hysterectomy
- By Jen071172
- Posted August 5, 2009 at 10:01 am · 4 replies
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- Edited August 5, 2009 at 11:34 am
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- By Eimaj
- Posted August 5, 2009 at 11:32 am
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My neighbor had a vaginal hysterectomy because of uterine fibroid' s. Her Doctor told her to wait at least 6 weeks before having intercourse. She followed the docs orders and has had no problems. Maybe you should just give yourself a little more time. I had a radical abdominal hysterectomy, my doctor told me to wait at least 6 to 8 weeks. I was afraid to and ended up waiting 11 weeks. It was a little uncomfortable first, but nothing unbearable. Be patient with yourself..
- By marsha123
- Posted August 5, 2009 at 12:12 pm
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I'm 16 days post-op from the same surgery you had for the same reasons. From the tone of your post, it seems like you are feeling pressured to have sex, and mentally and emotionally, you are ready too. Your body is not ready. You have had MAJOR surgery, and--as the other post indicated--waiting 8 or more weeks is NOT unreasonable! Don't feel bad about this. If the situation was reversed and your husband was recovering, he would not be anxious to cause himself unnessessary pain and discomfort. I think the reason my boyfriend is so understanding is that he had hernia surgery so really understands how much you are impacted day to day while you are healing.
Concentrate on getting better right now. When you are, your sex life will be back to normal, and could ever be better if this experience brings you and your husband closer together... "For better or worse", remember? supportive hugs, M
- By Jen071172
- Posted August 5, 2009 at 1:35 pm
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Thank you, I appreciate your responses. My husband isn't pressuring me. I guess I just think that there the time will come, and though I loved being with my husband in the past and still desire him, i just can't help but anticipate pain. I don't even recall being this nervous when I lost my virginity.
I had pain from childbirth, galstones, ruptured ovarian cysts, and the hysterectomy. But I have this huge fear that sex will hurt, especially since I had my last exam, and the pain was agonizing.
I will be seeing my doctor again on Aug 25th for another exam (which I am dreading).
My sexdrive isn't gone, but I just don't want to experience pain.
- By thankfultarian
- Posted August 5, 2009 at 4:59 pm
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thanks for sharing your strength!
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