Update on my Mom

kallygirlie
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Hey everyone. Just wanted to stop in and update everyone. I wanted to Thank everyone for there wonderful advice on my last post about my mom and I have truely been takin all of your words to heart. I've talked to her oncologist every day this week and kept him updated on weather or not she was eating. We have tried hard and last night had some success with a bird amount of food. Her Doc called this morning askin how she was doing and I finally took control and told him she needs to be admitted and it cant wait over the weekend. it cant wait much longer period!!! so he finally said to bring her in and since he's on call at the hospital this weekend he'll be there each day checkin on her progress. I'm so scared at this point that it's gone to far, that it cant be fixed. I mean I know I over worry alot. I always run worse case things in my head. i blame myself for it getting this far. You see, my brothers leaving this on me is hard because I have really bad social anxiety so calling her docs everyday is a fight for myself. I feel like my own issue could be killing my Mom and that thought kills me. I dont have the power to just say "look heres what we are doing". I hadn't done the numbers until today but she's lost 40 lbs. An origianlly 115lb women losing 40 lbs. I'm 40 lbs over weight and I've always tried to lose it but i've never in my life felt more happy with my extra weight right now. I'll be taking the laptop with me today so i'll be sure to keep you all updated

6 replies

LindaFL

Don't waste one more bit of energy blaming yourself. You are doing an amazing job taking care of your mom. I'm glad she's going in and you don't have to spend all weekend worrying. Let us know how it goes. I'm sure you'll see some improvement as soon as they get her hooked up to an IV. ~Linda

Sylestiahelawe03

Even though the dr finally got her in the hospital, I know you're going to worry until she starts gaining weight and energy and getting more and more active and even eating and all that stuff .But girl, you know you can't blame yourself for any of this. Seriously, you really have done a great job with taking care of your mom. You're always there to make sure she at least tries something. And to make sure she's doing ok. And when it gets to the point of her needing to be admitted, you were the one to make the call. You're doing a great job. Just continue to have faith hun. You know I'm here for you whenever you need me. Love you!

Roger1

Don't forget to ask about a feeding tube.

andmegab

dont blame yourself for a single thing! lots of us out here would love to have a daughter so devoted! you are doing a great job! just keep doing what you are doing...staying in contact with the docs, and loving her.

deb

caden

You are doing all of the right things and you are an amazing young woman to be able to put aside your anxieties to do your best for your mom. She is very lucky to have you there for her. I wish you the best and hope you know many people are following your story and praying for you both.

simplyklb

Krystal,
Do not blame yourself! You are doing the best you can. :) I used to hate dealing with people on the phone. My last job got me over that fear. :) If you need some help dealing with it, let me know.

Kristi

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