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Hello My name is Danielle im 24yrs old,
I lost my dad on Thursday to NSCLC 7 months from dx, he was only 46 and never smoked in his life we dont understand why this has happened to him when he had so much to live for.
I would like people to request me as freinds and share there story as i feel like we are the only family going through this awful time
please can you offer me some support really need a chat
thanks xx
Morning Danielle, I can guarantee you are not the only family going through this. Read through the posts here. I lost my mother on July 11th this year after only 6 weeks and one treatment. It's a disease that doesn't discriminate, whether you smoke or not. We have many mother's here and the latest is one whose son is only 13 and has a very rare cancer. We are here to support, advise if we can. It's not easy no matter how you lose a loved one. My condolences to you and your family. Take care, JC
Danielle, I am so sorry that you are suffering like this. My mom was diagnosed 4 1/2 months ago with this beast and it is heartbreaking to see what her life was and what it has become. We all have been praying so hard for different things and sometimes it seems that prayers are not answered, but I do have faith that God's plan is greater than my own, or her own. We as loved ones and caregivers need prayers too, as mine is with you today. I have an amazing support group of faithful friends and I know that that's what is carrying me.
Please listen to the song 'Held' by Natalie Grant...it may provide some words of comfort.
You will find comfort in this support group as well...there are so many people of all ages going through this. Hugs to you, Michele
Oh Danielle,
Unfortunately, you are not alone. I lost my daddy to SCLC on 1/23/08. Your daddy and my daddy were both far too young to have caught LC, and it is not fair. I am sure his spirit still surrounds you and that he still loves you very much and he'd still be with you if he could.
hugs
Pat
Hello,
Thanks to all of you who replied it means so much to know there are others out there. Just listened to that song its really beautiful so thanks.
keep in touch x
Danielle, I am sorry to here about your dad. He was very young. I know it is hard to deal with something like this. We all here have a story and being able to share with someone is really important to our healing. I know it has been for me.
I lost my father in 1992 to lung cancer. He was 57. I still think about him everyday. It does not ever go away the pain and missing him. But with friends and family, it will get easier. Give your self some time and be good to your self. Your dad will always be with you..
God Bless you and your family
Not a good idea to listen to this while at work. I started crying.. It's a beautifull song.
Danielle-
I am so sorry for your loss. It is staggering the terrible cost of this disease. No one deserves what your father went through and what you are going through. I will pray the angels wrap their wings around you and comfort you while you cry for your precious father. I am sure the only hug that can console you is the one hug that you cannot have--that of your father. Still, I offer a hug to you and share my concern for you with the many others here.
Blessings of peace and comfort,
mjb
Thanks again for your replies it really helps me to get through this really awful time i wish we knew why this horrible disease strikes its so unfair how it cuts peoples lifes short. my dads funeral is on tuesday dont want that day to come x
Dani123, I just read your post (in 2 places) and wanted to write to express my sincere sympathy on the loss of your father. My mother and father both died of lung cancer twenty years apart, my 17 -year-old son died of Hodgkins Disease, and now I have SCLC. Believe me, I know your pain and wish I could take it away. I pray that you find strength in your wonderful memories and that God will ease your pain. God bless and keep you. Love, Judy
Danielle,
I hear your pain, feel your anguish at how unfair life can be.
I was near death, visiting England. I can never forget the indredible care that i received from the staff at Churchill hospital, the life-saving care I received from the Consultant from Oxford. No care I have received anywhere else can compare with it.
I am sure your dad received the best of loving care, in his struggle this beast.
Now, my dear, you need to know that you, any siblings, your children are also at really great risk of having this same cancer. It's a wakeup call! Remember that early detection is our best chance for survival from this disease.
Please take care of your self, have regular examinations. It can strike at any time.
HighlandGuy
You are not alone. I lost my Dad at age 63 in March, 2009, 19 weeks after diagnosis. It is hard, but you will get through this..one day at a time. I still cry a lot, I was 'daddy's girl'. He was my confidant, my friend and he was supposed to live forever (ok, not really, but certainly not when he was only 63).
Visit this site often. It will help you get through those rough days. Take care of yourself too. There are a lot of great people here that you can add as friends.
P.S. When I need a good cry and am missing Dad, I go for a walk and listen to "Dance with my Father" by Luther Vandross over and over again. I have a good cry, go home and hug my kids.
Hang in there.
I am so so sorry for your loss but you are not alone. I know how you feel. I lost my mom, my best friend, my rock, on May 13, 2009 to nsclc. It is so very hard. My advice is to take one day at a time and rely on God. Even after 5 months I still miss my mom so bad that sometimes I actually feel a physical ache. However, I am no longer consumed by grief to the point that I can't function. As each day passes I just look at it as that is one day closer to the day that I will get to see her again. It really helps to talk and I keep a journal that I write in when things get so bad that I don't feel like talking. Just keep reminding yourself that your dad would want you to think of him with warm memories but he would not want you to grieve yourself to death. (I remember people telling me that in the beginning and frankly it ticked me off because I thought they aren't feeling what I am) but believe it or not that is what I do now. Don't get me wrong, I still grieve but I just remember that my mom would kick my butt if I let my missing her consume my life. The biggest help in my life is God. I can rant, rave, scream and cry but he never yells back, he just wraps his arms around me and helps me deal with my grief. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Pam
Dear Danielle,
I am so sorry. I want to be your friend.
Your dad was way too young to die. This is going to hurt real bad for a long time. Just know you are in my heart and my prayers. I am praying for the lord to hold you up in his loving arms and embrace you, to ease your suffering.
God bless you.
Sandy
I am so sorry for your loss Danielle. I have lost both of my parents to cancer as well. My mother just passed this past March from SCLC. I miss them terribly. You have come to the right place -- the people here are wonderful! Even though it was time for my mom and dad to go home with Jesus, i still care for my friends here; and I still come here to support and pray for them --and to come and give and receive (((HUGS))) from my sisters and brothers who have also lost their loved ones! we are here for you! (((HUGS)))
Mary
Hi Danielle, so sorry you lost your father, yes he was so young, and it's not fair!! I just lost my husband, who also was a non-smoker and he was just 44 years old. We were together 17 years, and I will miss and love him the rest of my life, please try and take care of yourself, you and your family are in my prayers, Huggs, Karen
Danielle,
I'm sorry for your loss.
I lost my husband on Sept.19. He was a never smoker. Our daughters lost a wonderful dad. We know your pain.
Jan
Hi Danielle,
You are not alone! I lost my dad to SCLC on October 15, 2008. My mom has NSCLC.
Kristi
You can email me at jeljess@aol.com. My mom (best friend) died a little over 2 years ago and I don't understand why either. This is the hardest thing of my life. I would love to talk to you. Please email me. This site is amazing.
Hello,
Thank you all so much for your kind words it means a lot
xx
Dear Danielle,
Although not a frequent poster here, I have to jump in to tell you that it gets better, little by little, day by day. I lost my husband to NSCLC on May 12th of this year, and I was diagnosed with SCLC just two months later. Although it has been a veritable nightmare, and I have missed him so much I doubled over in pain from wanting to be with him, I have learned to take things a day at a time, and to be grateful for the smallest of small good things ... my granddaughter's smile, a beautiful sunset, my dog's warm welcome, the warmth of the comforter when I crawl into bed after an exhausting day of chemo (although I would prefer the warmth of his embrace). I refuse to think that I will soon be joining him, as I can't imagine my children losing both parents to the same monster in the same year. And I know that he wants me to fight and to smile on life and cry tears of gratitude and love, other than loss and heartbreak.
I hope my words can somehow comfort you. I lost my own dearly beloved mom 8 years ago, on the day after she turned 87 and just as my plane was touching down to go say "goodbye" to her. And today is my father's 95th birthday. I so often asked myself why I lost Jose just before his 54th birthday, and why I didn't inherit my own parents' good genes, but those questions are futile. It is what it is, and we must make the best of what life deals us. I have to think that now I have two angels watching over me. But believe me, the hurting does begin to change, in some way, to a more bearable level. I pray you soon find solace and comfort.
Susan
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