Saying goodbye for now...

I have been a member of this site for almost 3 years now. It has been a priceless place for me during this time. When my Mom was first diagnosed it was the only place I could find encouragement and support! During her many trials and tribulations the information provided to me was a life saver so many times. And when she passed away I found so much love and support once again. But, after losing her 5 months ago and losing so many others since then ( 4 yesterday that I counted!) I have decided that I need to take a break. I find it harder and harder to respond to posts and remain hopeful and positive for others. This is extremely hard for me because so many of you have become like family to me. I hope that my friends ( Jill, Stacie... I know there are others I just can't think right now) will continue to keep me informed on what is happening with you! I have made so many wonderful friends who I keep in contact with and will cherish forever.

Love,
Jodi

By cad1223
Posted June 29, 2009 at 6:05 am
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Hi Jodie:

I can understand where you are coming from. This site was also so valuable to me when my dad was fighting extensive SCLC from May 2007-May 22, 2008. So many people gave me good advice and they were a great support system. I still check in daily to see what is going on. I feel like everyone here is part of my family. I, too, find it hard to respond to many posts where people are looking for positive experiences and encouragement, since I cannot offer them any, I do not respond to that type of post. I respond to people looking for experiences with the different types of chemo, handling the death of a loved one, etc. It breaks my heart, too, when someone passes away, because like I said, after being a member on this site since 2007, I feel like I have come to "know" everyone here. I hope you will still check in from time to time, but I do understand your needing a break from it. Good luck to you!

Cheryl

By brooklynda
Posted June 29, 2009 at 6:57 am
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Dear Jodi: Thank you also for all your love and support. I understand. Come back, if you can. Wishing you all the very best. Blessings! Brooklynda

By bestrong
Posted June 29, 2009 at 7:31 am
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Dear Jodi,
You have offered a tremendous amount of support and friendship to many of us on this board. If you need to take a break, do so. We will all be here for you if you need us again. I find it hard to respond to many of the posts, too, but I do still find some comfort from this shared experience.

I hope things are going well for you.
Love,
Tracy

By D1
Posted June 29, 2009 at 8:45 am
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You do what's best for yourself.....There is selfish and then there is self-full.....you MUST take care of your self....It's totally OK; it's necessary; it's primal. I hope you never need this site again, but if you do, you will find help and compassion here once again. God be with you.......

By RiaRia
Posted June 29, 2009 at 10:04 am
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i agree jodi - this site and the friends we made are invaluable and gave me a ray of hope during a very desperate time. i too read the posts, try to reply with a positive. . . but wonder when . . . i really do hate cancer. do what's good for you right now. we'll be in touch.
maria

By jkmastro
Posted June 29, 2009 at 11:05 am
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Jodi! I promise to continue to keep you updated on my dad. Thank you SO much for the support, guidance and advice! I will miss you but completely understand the need for you to take a break!

Lots of love -
Jill

By StacieK
Posted June 29, 2009 at 3:31 pm
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Jodi - I am so sorry to hear this but can understand and know what it is like to need a break, it's hard to absorb all that this heartbreaking disease does to our loved ones and families and friends. I would be selfish to try to tell you to stay because I need you and this website and support now more than ever, things are going from bad to worse for Dad. But you have truly been down a horrible path and are much deserving of a break. You were one of the first friends I made here and I hope some how we can stay in touch. Thank you for being here these last couple years and sharing your story of your dear Mom and all of your encouraging and kind words. What would we have done if we hadn't found eachother. God bless you and your family.

With much love,
Stacie

By cody814
Posted June 29, 2009 at 4:58 pm
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i agree some of the things u read here are so saddening but again also very helpful and some hopeful i also have extsclc but i try to read what i can on a daily basis so jodie best of luck to u and yes i do hope u will keep in touch once in a while just to let everyone know how u are doing much love rosie

By Julie5350
Posted June 29, 2009 at 6:53 pm
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I feel the same way but something keeps bringing me back to check in. It's almost 2 years since my mother is gone and I'm still on this site. Just last night I said to my husband that I need to take a break because I get too upset reading some of these postings. Good luck.

By StuartFL
Posted June 29, 2009 at 7:45 pm
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Jodi,

I truely understand your need to take a break. I find myself replying to posts concerning ex-sclc, and then just canceling them because they seem too negative. Thank you for your past support.

Pam

By MarionW
Posted June 29, 2009 at 8:35 pm
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I'm sure your mother would want you to go live your life to the fullest and not spend a great deal of time focused on this site.

It's purpose has been to help you through this journey and you have given back more than your share.

Now you know it is here and can recommend it as the situation arises.

God Bless and keep you well.

By Marie400
Posted June 29, 2009 at 8:47 pm
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Hi Jodi - I completely understand how you feel. I don't spend as much time here since my Mom died. You're so right....you get to know people and when they start having problems it is just so hard to stay positive, especially after the recent death of our parents. Right now, I'm worried about Toddy and Ramona and all this just brings back all the sad days with my Mom.

Take care of yourself. I think I need a break from lung cancer too.

By cuddles53
Posted June 29, 2009 at 9:56 pm
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It is a much needed break for you, but you will be back, I am sure you will find it very hard to stay away. I tried to stay aay to get a breather of fresh air but couldn't do it, so now I try not to read all of it, if it is something I know nothing about, certain drugs I was never on, or things i have no knowledge of I just do not read it. but you will be back. Have a pleasant break, Take care, God bless you.
Sandy

By MaryRVF
Posted June 29, 2009 at 11:13 pm
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Hi Jodi--I definitely know how you feel! You are like my sister through this sight and I am so glad that God has blessed you with the strength you need to go on with your life even though we now have an emptiness in our hearts with the loss of our parents. Thank you so much for the support you have given me! Love ya!

Mary

By sheilake
Posted June 29, 2009 at 11:37 pm
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Hi Jodi,

I applaud your focus on living without the reminders of what you have been through. Hope you have lots of laughing and loving and playing as you enter this new chapter.

Well wishes,
Sheila

By cad1223
Posted June 30, 2009 at 5:37 am
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Pam,

That is exactly how I feel. I can't tell you how many times I have responded to a post and then just deleted it before sending because I didn't feel it gave anyone hope or a positive answer. It's really hard for me to give any hope since my dad had a very bad experience...nothing positive at all about it.

I guess we are all in the same boat after all.

Cheryl

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