Hi everyone! I have a question, has anyone ever known someone to be somewhat stable and within two weeks pass away?? I took my my mother to the hospital for pain and two weeks latershe passed away. This was completly unexpected. She had been to the doctor two months ago and they told her she was fine for being at stage four. She was only 54 and in good physical condition. During the first week at the hospital her doctor was on vacation and the other on call doctors said she was fine and she could go home. My mother chose to stay do to the pain... Eventually her doctor arrived and said her cancer awoke and would not do well with chemo and should go home with hospce.... He felt she atleast could have upto a year. Three days later she passed away??? what could cause this??? She was not ready to die and made that clear to the last minute... Thanks
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- By Alexan
- Posted September 26, 2009 at 7:32 pm · 6 replies
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- By beckylynn
- Posted September 26, 2009 at 9:40 pm
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Alexan, this is very very distrubing...
I do know one of my dear friends his mom went to the dr with what they thought was bronchitis. They sent her home with meds. Her pain became too much. She ended up being hospitalized and family was told it was Stage IV Lung Cancer. She died in the hospital within 3days of being admitted.
I know you are in shock right now. 1st trying to get a handle on dealing with the lung cancer with your mom and then expecting more time together only to have it disappear before your eyes.
I can only say your mom is no longer in pain and will be watching over you and your family. Cherish the times you did have together. It's going on 7 years that we lost our mom to lung cancer and there are times it seems like yesterday.
Mon, 28Sep is her birthday she would of been 65.
Becky
- By cuddles53
- Posted September 26, 2009 at 10:41 pm
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I am so sorry about the sudden loss of your mom, what a shock especially when everyone thought she had so much more time left. I can imagine their are many reasons for her quick death, One thing cancer does cause in our bodies are blood clots, for some reason this is a common thing with certain cancers, and lung cancer is one of them. A blood clot could have gone to her brain, and it would be over quickly, or in her pulmonary artery, or even in the heart causing a heart attack. so many times people die of blood clots in the lungs. I would imagine this would be a big one to consider, I am sure you do not plan on having an autopsy, but it could be done if you are very uncertain and do need to know how and why. I bet the doctors really didn't know either did they? God bless you. I pray you take care and let the power and glory of god enter your life, and lift you in his arms for healing.
God bless Sandy
- By teacherN
- Posted September 27, 2009 at 1:27 am
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Oh, Alexan, bless your heart. I am so sorry.
Many hugs and prayers for you,
Nancy
- By sheilake
- Posted September 27, 2009 at 1:58 am
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My sincere condolences for the sudden loss of your Mother. What a shock it must have been after being reassured.
I have had several friends/acquaintances who had a similar story. One was pronounced NED (no evidence of disease). They stopped chemo and a month later he got an infection. Because his immune system was compromised from the chemo, he died of the infection in two days. Another died suddenly of a blood clot, even though the tumors had shrunk and she was doing much better.
We can never tell when our day will come. Think that teaches us to cherish what we have.
My heart goes out to you in this time of grief.
Sheila
- By Granny888
- Posted September 27, 2009 at 12:03 pm
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Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately for some -- this happens a lot more than you think. As a nurse, I can think of quite a few. In some cases, the patient is just 'ready', in some, they are ready but not and still protest, in some, it's a complete surprise but they are done and wanted 'at home.' Usually not the later, usually they know within a few hours -- but who is ever really ready?
This has to be a shock to you, I hope you can comes to terms with it.
- By Ruthy
- Posted September 27, 2009 at 12:43 pm
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My brother had stage 4 lc. He had been getting treatment. He went in for a different chemo because the dr said the ones they were usin weren't working. After this new treatment even that night he got much more pain and within in two weeks he died. Sept 12, 2009. When they tell you to go home and call hospice it's at the end. It was about two weeks. I learned that always get an iv line before you leave the hospital . It was hard to give my brother his meds and make him comfortabe. I'm so sorry for your loss my brother was 53.
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