Well, my mom passed away one year ago today. Funny how I decided to post this in the topic of "survivor stories", but I do feel as if I'm a survivor of sclc. Of course, I'll never know how it felt for my mother, but, I know how it felt for me all those months watching her go from my wonderful mother at the beginning of her diagnosis, to someone I barely recognized at the end. But, you know what? I wouldn't have changed it for anything. Of course, I would have loved it if she beat this and survived, but that was not meant to be. God had other plans for her and I'm so happy to say that I was with her every step of the way. Some days were soooo sad, but looking back now, I'm so glad we shared them together. I loved my mother!! She became mother and father to me when I was 20 (my father passed away suddenly when I was that age). and, my mother took on both roles for me. She was my inspiration, my mentor, my guiding light. Sometimes we didn't always get along, but I knew she was always on my side, no matter what. Mom...I love you, I miss you, I'm so thankful that I was able to be with you, almost everyday, the last 9 months of your life. I have absolutely no regrets. You were the best, and I will love you forever. RIP Mom. You were heaven here on earth!
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One Year Today
- By Carol40
- Posted April 22, 2009 at 10:36 pm · 8 replies
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- By BridgetteMom
- Posted April 22, 2009 at 11:21 pm
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Carlo40,
I am very sorry for your loss but very thankful for your post today. It seems to be just what I needed. I understand your thought of being a survivor of sclc even thought your body was free of the disease.
Sometimes I feel so consumed by my Mom's Cancer that I get overwhelmed, depressed and negative. I want to look back and realize I wouldn't change a thing. I have spent and will continue to spend time with my Mom that perhaps I might not have if not for Cancer.
Thank you,
Bridgette
- By Marie400
- Posted April 23, 2009 at 7:35 am
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I lost my Mom on October 6 and I completely understand what you're saying. Particularly the part about going from being your wonderful Mother to someone you couldn't recognize. This cancer thing is the absolute pits.
Like you, although a horrible experience, I am glad I was able to be there for my Mom. I held her hand while she died and told her I loved her. I hope she heard me and I pray wherever she is now that she is happy, healthy and pain free.
- By hopefuldaughter
- Posted April 23, 2009 at 9:25 am
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Hi Carol, thanks for posting this, I hope it made you feel better to compose such a nice tribute to your mom. We had the three month anniversary of my mom's death on the 21st. It made me very sad.
Anyway, keep your chin up.
Pam
- By StacieK
- Posted April 23, 2009 at 10:28 am
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Hi Carol, I can't believe a year has gone by. I know this pain is still so fresh but hope you find comfort knowing one day we will all be together again in a wonderful magical kingdom of God. You said it so well, I think we have all become survivors once our families are touched by cancer. When you mentioned being with your Mom almost every day the last 9 months she battled SCLC I automatically thought of pregnancy. And as hard as it was to go through all this, in the end your Mom was born again and given a new beautiful life in Heaven. I'm thinking of you and praying for you and your family.
Love ya,
Stacie
- By dianarose
- Posted April 23, 2009 at 3:00 pm
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My one year anniversary is coming up--both of the death of my Mom (from a stroke, not cancer) and from my personal diagnosis of lung cancer. I didn't even have a chance to think about my diagnosis because of what my Mom was going through and planning the funeral and taking care of financial matters for my Dad. So a few days ago I found myself grieving at the rememberance of the anniversary. But then I started thinking about the beautiful times we had and the magnificent comfort of God then and continuing all this past year. I have become stronger, very thankfull and way more full of hope in the meantime. I pray God will increasingly encourage you, draw you closer to Him and help you to realize with new joy that in His plan you will be reunited with your precious Mom as I will with mine.
- By smarkles
- Posted April 23, 2009 at 10:55 pm
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As a Mom going threw NSCLC...that was beautiful and I know she would have loved it. I am sorry for your lose.
- By StacieK
- Posted April 24, 2009 at 12:00 am
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Hi Carol, my wording maybe didn't sound very good?! Hopefully it didn't come across like I was comparing battling SCLC to being pregnant! I was thinking of the time....you and your Mom being together the 9 months. More importantly, I wanted you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Stacie
- By kq182
- Posted April 24, 2009 at 12:27 am
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What a beautiful tribute to your mother, as a Mom of two daughters, I know the love you had for her. And just know that she loved you with all her being. And it sure sounds like you are a caring, loving daughter, what every mother hopes their daughter would be. I know that she is so proud of you, as I am. Take care, Karen
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