My Mom has passed

Hi friends,

I just wanted to let everyone know that my Mom passed away on Wednesday, 11/4, in the morning, peacefully in her sleep, without pain. We miss her more than words can say, but we're thankful she passed her way, in the home she loved, with my Dad holding her hand.

I want to thank everyone for your outpouring of support, knowledge, encouragement, courage and love over this past year. I could not have walked this journey without you, and you were such a support to my parents as well.

I plan to remain on the board as a friend, offering any advice and wisdom I can offer, because I know that is what my Mom would want me to do. She wanted so much to turn her story around and become a volunteer for cancer patients, but I will make sure she still does that, through me.

I want to especially thank MaryLou, John, Sandy, and Sheri, for your friendship, constant support and love over these 12 difficult months.

All of you are in my thoughts and prayers everyday, since we are a family after all.

Love, Amy

By Indianaann1
Posted November 8, 2009 at 9:22 am
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I just want to say that I am very sorry for the loss of your mom. I lost my mom in June from this terrible disease. May god bless you and your family. Take care. Ann

By Marcie1
Posted November 8, 2009 at 9:27 am
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Dear Amy, I am so sorry about your mom passing. My mother in-law died October 11th at 9:29 am in her hospital bed after fighting small cell lung cancer for two years. It was a battle we both fought, I was there to hold her and tell her goodbye. Even though she was my mother in-law, loosing her is as hard as when my mom died 2 years ago. After taking care of her in our home for almost 2 years, I am now faced with not only mourning my own mom but her loss as well. Now I have this over whelming depression and aloneness to deal with, for which I can not seem to get out of. I loved these two woman and took care of them until they left us. I just don’t what to do. thanks for listening.

Marcie

By brooklynda
Posted November 8, 2009 at 9:33 am
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Dear Amy:

I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious mother. It is wonderful that you were all there for her, holding her hand, comforting her.

I'm glad that you've decided to stay and offer your friendship and advice to others.

You and your family are in my prayers.

Blessings!
Brooklynda

By peace33
Posted November 8, 2009 at 9:34 am
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Hi Marcie,

I understand what you're going through - it's so difficult to lose someone you've physically and emotionally cared for - when they took my Mom away, I felt like a part of me died and went with her. Seeing her leave the house was probably the worst thing I've ever had to do - and I was devastated. I walked into her closet and started hugging one of her sweaters. And in that moment I heard her in my head saying, Amy, I'm still hear! And I knew she was with me - she didn't leave at all.

I know what I'm facing, Marcie, in the first week of non-care giving - something I've scheduled my life around for a solid month. I know it'll be a hole. I understand your pain and depression. I'll keep you in my prayers and know we're in this together!

Love, Amy

By jdmo
Posted November 8, 2009 at 9:39 am
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Amy,
I am sooo sad to read your news today. I reread your prior posts and am so sorry for the loss of your Mom......

There really arent any words.....just take care of yourself.

Best,
janet

By peace33
Posted November 8, 2009 at 9:45 am
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Thanks, everyone! And, Janet, thank you - I've followed your husband's journey as well - we live in the same area, and you have been in my thoughts and prayers. Prayers to both of you, and you guys take care of yourselves as well!

Amy

By jdmo
Posted November 8, 2009 at 10:04 am
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Thanks Amy.....it is just so scary....he, like your MOM, only had microspic traces in one node....so of course it is scary for me to read. We just keep navigating these lousy waters and hope for the best.....

You too, just take care of yourself.

tks,
janet

By KarenOt
Posted November 8, 2009 at 11:18 am
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Amy,
I am sorry for your loss of your mother. Losing a parent is hard. My dad passed away from lung cancer 10 years ago. God Bless you and your family.

Karen

By peace33
Posted November 8, 2009 at 12:19 pm
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Karen, Ann, and Brooklynda, thank you so much for your beautiful notes and thoughts!

And, Janet, my Mom also had breast cancer going on - they had found a second primary source of breast cancer just a month ago, so their diseases weren't as similar as we thought. It'll be ok - this disease strikes everyone differently. Hang in there and know you're in my thoughts and prayers!

Amy

By angel3023
Posted November 8, 2009 at 12:48 pm
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Sorry you lost your wonderful mother. I am sure she was proud of you for being so strong and helping her through this journey. It does effect everybody different and we never know how the loved ones body will react. There needs to be more research and more funding for this horrible disease that as left you motherless, and me without a baby sister. Last weekend i did the 5k lung cancer walk in memory of her. She passed away Aug. 2, 2009. Please help us spread the word WE NEED MORE MONEY FOR LUNG CANCER RESEARCH. God bless you all.
Angel3023

By Marylou1
Posted November 8, 2009 at 3:57 pm
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Oh Amy,
I am SO sorry for your loss !! I had hoped that things would turn around with Mom on Tarceva.

Mom was in her home with those she loved, and there is no better place to be at that time. My prayers are with you and dad, and as time passes the pain lessens.

Please always come back to us, as you were your mother's warrior and have become so dear to all of us. Now is the time to do something for yourself, however simple it may be. You need to rest a while, then pick up the pieces.

We love you,
Marylou

By jdmo
Posted November 8, 2009 at 4:28 pm
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Amy,
Thanks for the kinds words of reassurance. They are most appreciated.

For now, though you need to worry about yourself and your family.

Thinking about you.
janet

By kq182
Posted November 8, 2009 at 11:57 pm
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Amy, so very sorry for the loss of your precious mother, you and your family are in my prayers during this very difficult time. Karen

By misself
Posted November 9, 2009 at 12:10 am
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Amy, you are such a loving daughter.I'm glad you will stay as a friend.It's wonderful too that you'll do some of what your mom wanted to do also.But rest and restore your spirits,take a walk,chat with a friend,or read and refresh yourself.The battle will be here and we need waarriors like you.Your mom was a wonderful woman to have raised such a daughter.Sorry she had to go.I know she's safe,Prayers AndiB

By sheilake
Posted November 9, 2009 at 12:25 am
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Hi Amy,

Just wanted you to know that there is another soul out there wanting to ease your grief. You seem like such a kind and gentle heart. Hope you do stay around on the site.

Sheila

By Diba
Posted November 9, 2009 at 12:48 pm
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Amy
I am really sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in January to lung cancer and I know how hard this must be for you. I truly believe they are in a better place now. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs
Lynn

By doing-ok
Posted November 9, 2009 at 9:18 pm
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I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. There is no loss like the loss of your mother.

If I had only one wish, it would be a cure for all cancers. It has caused so much grief and pain in this world.
You and your family are in my prayers.
Barbara

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