Missing My Mom....

• By cards7up
• Posted September 30, 2009 at 10:39 pm
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I know how you feel, I just lost my mom July 11th. We have not hit the trigger days yet, but count every month also. The trigger days will be the holidays, her birthday (which is the day after mine) and especially Mother's Day. We will celebrate all of these as she would want us to do. I know Mother's Day and her birthday will be the hardest for me. And shortly after those two will be her one year anniversary. I will go visit her and know just being there will comfort me. No doubt I will cry and hurt all over again, but she is worth it. Do whatever you need to do to celebrate your mother's life. This is our tribute to the wonderful mother's that they were for us. Your father will hopefully continue to do well. You will all be in my prayers. Make sure he is taking folic acid and since he started chemo, have him get B12 shots. These help with side effects, fatigue and building the immune system. It's great that he's staying hydrated. If you start to notice muslce loss, add whey protein. And make sure he gets some exercise daily if only a walk. Good luck and take care, JC

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• By traceyred
• Posted October 1, 2009 at 5:28 am
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Hi, I can relate so much. I lost my Mom on May 23rd. With the holidays coming up, I know it's going to be so hard to get through that. I miss my Mom and think of her many times each day. I've been dreaming about her quite a bit this week. That's really hard. Because when I first wake up, I forget that she's not here anymore. Mornings have been tough because of that. Each day I just try to breath and make it through. Blessings to everyone else who's lost a loved one.

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• By agru
• Posted October 1, 2009 at 8:19 am
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I lost my mom on Sept. 11. I was in tears the day the Salvation Army came to pick up what was left in her apt. That evening I was supposed to vacuum, help take out nails, take down the curtains, etc. I couldn't do it, so sent my husband to finish that out.

I miss my mother horribly and know that Oct. 27 (what would have been her 75 birthday) and Thanksgiving are going to be horrible this year.

Best of everything to all of us here.

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• By Indianaann1
• Posted October 1, 2009 at 8:26 am
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I am so sorry for the loss of your mom, I lost my mom on June 28th and I miss her very much too. I went to her house yesterday and brought her plants home with me to keep the frost from getting them and I just cried. It is a terrible thing to lose the one person who gave us life and became our best friend in the whole world. I hope that things get easier for all of us . Take care and god bless. Ann

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• By helenkate
• Posted October 1, 2009 at 9:21 am
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I lost my Momma on June 21. I know how you all feel. She too was my best friend and I cry everyday for her. We already had her birthday and mine too. They both were hard days. I am dreading the holidays. Mom always dreaded them too because her parents have both passed. I know now exactly how she felt. I too, just like her, will have to put on that happy face for my little children. Even Halloween will be hard because my kids would like to trick or treat for a little while and then go to Granny's and eat supper with her and pass out candy at her house. After that, we would play hide and seek in the dark and toilet paper Mom's best friends house. We would have so much fun!!
My sister came up with this idea for the holidays or any get together. We have a candle and who's ever house we are at the candle will go with us and we will light it and that is 'our Mom'. She will be with us....not the same but maybe it will help us get through the day.
I guess it should be comforting to know that our Mother's are together. Do you all think they talk up in Heaven about us like we talk about them here? Maybe they are friends in Heaven? That is a nice thought....we have lots of Angles watching over us.
To our Mother's
We love you all & thank you for bringing us in this world. We can only hope we do you proud and become wonderful Mothers like you.
Rhonda

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• By cygorg
• Posted October 1, 2009 at 11:59 am
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My wedding anniversary, August 30 is when my mom passed. It's an amazing thing that although we all know that someday we will lose our loved ones, when we finally do, we can't believe it could happen. I spend a good part of my days simply going through my mother's closet, holding up her sweaters and thinking of when she wore them. It irks me to no end that I can't ask her any questions!

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• By MaryRVF
• Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:33 pm
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((HUGS))))--I am with you all as well--I MISS YOU SO MUCH MOM (and dad!) !!! A part of me is dreading Tha nksgiving and Christmas as well--first one with NO parents. My mom and dad's house is also up for sale--it is so sad to go to my childhood home and see all the furniture gone and it sitting empty--that's another whole grieving process in itself! I am so glad we can all be here for each other--we'll make it through--Love you all! (((HUGSS!!!!)))))

Mary

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• By cuddles53
• Posted October 2, 2009 at 12:56 am
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I am so sorry for your loss and this time of year has to be a sad one, but you are going to carry on a tradition you had, and I can imagine your mom up in heaven seeing this, I bet it makes her smile knowing in her honor you will all be getting together, just for her, how sweet is that. I think it is a time to celebrate her life, and all those she touched around her. The holidays are so sad for people, it is too bad it can't be we think happy thoughts at birthdays and holidays, but somehow sadness for the loss creeps in always. I wish a very happy birthday party for you tomorrow,. No more tears of sadness, make them tears of joy knowing one day you will meet up again with your mom in a warm, and very safe place..
God bless Sandy

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• By jmichelle
• Posted October 2, 2009 at 10:01 pm
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Thank you all for your replies and stories about your loved ones. We are all so fortunate to have each other to lean on. We're all members of a club that no one really wants to join aren't we? But, the benefits are quite remarkable and comforting.

We enjoyed our Family Birthday Dinner for Mom last night and shared stories about her and her "quirky" little sayings etc. I picked up 8 white balloons one for each of us on the way to dinner. After dinner we all went outside and huddled together. We sang Happy Birthday to Mom prompted by my nephew Connor who is 5. Then we all released our balloons up to heaven for Mom. It was truly a lovely moment. I hope it made Mom happy!

Take care all!
Jodi

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• By bubala
• Posted October 2, 2009 at 10:09 pm
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I haven't been on in months and I am so sorry to hear about your dad. It is so hard...i know. It was 6 months last month since I lost my mom. Can hardly believe it...I am thinking and praying for you...I hate tis disease!!!!!

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• By tcevs
• Posted October 3, 2009 at 9:55 am
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I know how you feel, I miss my mom to, my birthday is Wednesday and I am dreading it... I am praying for your dad know. God Bless

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• By Diba
• Posted October 3, 2009 at 12:25 pm
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what a beautiful way to celebrate your mom's life and the balloon releasing sounded so fitting. i also miss my mom. i lost her on 10 january this year and i still cry about it. i am thinking of you in this difficult time

hugs
lynn

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• By BAS
• Posted October 4, 2009 at 10:58 pm
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Hello friends. It has been a long while since I have checked in to let all of you know what is happening in my life since losing both Mom and Dad. Dad on April 25th and Mom on May 12th. I miss them every day and I am very sad. We just put their home on the market last week, we have been cleaning, organizing and reliving so many memories and today we got a call from our real estate agent that there is already an offer on the table!! I am so not ready to lose our family home too!!

Why is this so sad and so hard? All I want to do is talk with them and tell them how much I love and miss them!!

I hope you are all well.

Beth ann

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• By sunshine2gal
• Posted October 5, 2009 at 12:24 am
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That's awesome you all are going out to eat for your mom's bday. She would love that I am sure. It's a beautiful want to hold the family together and honor her.

I am so sorry for your pain. I was just having a hard night myself thinking about my mom being stage IV and scared to death about losing her. No matter how old we get, we need our moms. I will say a prayer you make it through, because I know she would want you to find peace and happiness again. Hang in there. xox

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• By sunshine2gal
• Posted October 5, 2009 at 12:28 am
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Rhonda,

I just finished reading your response. That made me laugh and cry! Your mom sounded so wonderful and full of fun. I haven't lost my mom yet, but she has been diagnosed stage IV and I fear it everyday. My heart is broken for you and everyone who has lost their parent. I love your idea about the candle. That is so lovely!! I am sure she is smiling down on you now just thinking of it. xox

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• By bestrong
• Posted October 10, 2009 at 4:54 pm
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Hey Jodi,
Just checking in after not being on the board for awhile. I hope you had a great birthday celebration for your mom (I love that you all were going out to eat at her favorite restaurant!), and I am SO glad to read about your dad's amazing results. Tell him to keep up whatever he si doing--it is working great! This has been a rough fall for me, too, as my mom's birthday approaches in November (she would have been 64), and it will be one year in December that she passed. It was this time one year ago that things starting going downhill, so I think it will be a rough few months. I will keep you and your very special dad in my prayers.
Love,
Tracy

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• By StacieK
• Posted November 4, 2009 at 10:36 pm
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Hi Jodi, I am thinking of you and praying for you. I love what you did for your Mom with the balloons, what a special moment. My son wrote a letter to Grandpa and said he plans to celebrate the rest of my Dad's birthdays just like he is still here....I know that would make Grandpa happy. Birthdays were always a big deal and even when we were adults we still got together and had birthday cake and candles and ice cream. It is my nieces birhthday this weekend, the first family birthday Dad won't be at....but because of my Dad we will always carry on the special traditions.

love ya,
Stacie

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