I need your help.....

If we have ever connected.....If I wrote to you or you wrote to me.....if we shared advice, fear, ideas, hope, kindness, resources, encouragement, humanity, may I ask you to please, please say a prayer for my handsome Harry?

Although we believe his LC was surgically cured, he was dx with a new primary cancer last Thursday. Unfortunately, this new tumor is an equally virulent and aggressive cancer. How many times can one man dig deep and find the courage and resolve to battle cancer? He's very dispirited, especially since he thought he had been so brave and beaten the LC.

If there's any positive news, it's this: yesterday, he had a full body Pet/CT, and there is no sign of any mets. of the LC and no mets. of this new cancer....just this new primary which is treatable and curable if he's fortunate. So, he's having surgery tomorrow....from dx to surgery in six days. We wasted time with the LC; we're not wasting any time with this dx. With the LC, after two questionable CTs, in total denial and ignorance, we went to Europe for a month and then came home to tackle the situation.....I always wonder if that wasted month was the difference between a dx of Stage 1 A and his dx Stage 1 B? This time, we rushed.

Also, Harry battled LC alone except for me....the dx, the surgery, the pulmonary embolism, the chemo......we just retreated into our own little world. Harry never told one friend, never told one neighbor, never told one colleague, never even told one relative. I don't necessarily agree with this approach, but I respect it. It was his secret little pride.

So, Harry needs prayers, and the only friends that I beckon for help are my Cyber friends here .....So, please, pray for Harry to find the courage and beat this new cancer.

Oddly, Harry looks and feels terrific.....not a single symptom.....it's positively bizarre and was just an incidental finding. But, I think it was discovered for a reason; I truly believe a higher power was guiding us to this check up, and then the chain of events fell together in 48 hrs. I believe he is destined to beat this, but I need to those prayers coming from around the US and the world.

Thank you for any prayers you send his way. I can only promise that whenever I visit the board, I always answer any call for prayers.

With affection, one very sad wife....

By Sharonc9
Posted September 12, 2009 at 5:43 pm
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My prayers are on the way. May both of you be Blessed with the strength, courage and discernment needed along this journey filled with challenges. May the perfect doctors, nurses, radiologists, caregivers be involved in this process until all is well again.

Sharon

By johnnyH
Posted November 22, 2008 at 10:00 pm
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D1
I hope that Harry is doing well. Only today I joined this forum, and I am glad I did. My prayers go to you and to your Harry, and all cancer survivors, still six months after my diagnosis, cannot believe it. Please send some prayers my way as well. Thank you

By D1
Posted April 27, 2008 at 8:46 am
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Dear Jay-me
I've stopped posting on the site because I've actually rec'd a flurry of "hate" mail from two members of Team Inspire. (they think I'm nasty, negative, elitist). As you know, I'm vulnerable. I came here to seek and share compassion.....certainly not to be attacked by two young strangers who seem, at least to me, confused about the purpose of the site.
I looked for your personal email in my files and also in my friend files, but I couldn't locate it. So, with great trepidation (like swimming in shark invested water), I'm posting here merely to tell you that I am so glad you are NED. No one deserves it more than you (and Harry).
You are one of those unforgettable people on this board. You were kind to me when I first found my way to the old board in 12/06. I'm glad to here your journey to old age is going well. I'll always remember that you gave me hope about Harry's future respiration when he first had that lobe removed. God Bless You.....
Sending you love.....

By Jolene
Posted April 25, 2008 at 2:09 am
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Wanting to let you both know that I have said that special prayer that God bless Harry with healing and a strong spirit to deal with one more of life's curve balls. Take care and keep us posted. Jolene

By D1
Posted March 25, 2008 at 5:30 pm
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Thank you for your kindness.

He is doing well, but he's sad. It's taken a toll on his good spirits.

He had just started to think of himself as well. He doesn't want to be sick.

By D1
Posted March 25, 2008 at 5:29 pm
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Dear Niall,

Just this morning I had written Karen to ask if she had heard from you.....it must be destiny.

Harry did fine with his two new surgeries this month. I can only say two separate Stage One cancers are better than one more advanced cancer.

Luckily, it was found incidentally. I have to believe he will beat this too.

How are you doing?

By joan
Posted March 21, 2008 at 10:22 pm
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Aloha: you and harry have had such a terrible time of it. now your strengh and faith is to be tested once more . I cannot even begin to understand what you have had to go thru. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt i could not have made it if it had not been for family and friends. I wish you had been that lucky. I truely hope your husband realizes that no man is an island this time so you both have the support system that everyone needs . Thoughts and prayers are with you.

By Leigh1
Posted March 20, 2008 at 9:37 pm
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Hi D --
Forgive me for not responding sooner -- it's been a tough few weeks. First, my dad's oncologist calls to say "ggod-bye" -- she's leaving for California. I still can't get over the depth of my despiar over that news. Then, I come to the one and only place that i have found true comfort, ready to ask for help and advice, and can't find my way around this strange new website. I actually feel like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz.....looking for a safe place to go home to.

That being said.....i'm praying my brains out for you and Harry......and i'm assuming that by now he's had the second surgery (?), and that you two are resting safely in eachother's arms.

Keep us posted...........you've got an "army"behind you!!

By MaryAnn
Posted March 17, 2008 at 12:06 pm
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Hi D
In getting use to the now site I just read your posting about Harry. I am sorry to hear that he has to go thru another surgery. He is in my prayers and so are you. I know that he will beat this monster.
GOD Bless You Both
Mary Ann

By D1
Posted March 14, 2008 at 4:13 pm
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Dear DP....(what is your screen name?)

Thanks for those prayers. I do think God is intevening and helping us this time......Harry got a dx Thurs. morning, a confirmation Thurs. afternoon, saw a top specialist on Fri., saw another specialist on Fri. aft., got a Pet/CT on Monday, and was added for emergency surgery this past Wed. I would say God definitely helped expedite this.....We went from dx to surgery in 6 days.....that in itself is a miracle, hopefully, the miracle that saves his life once again. Harry is a GREAT man and he deserves to beat this and live to be old and happy.

By D1
Posted March 14, 2008 at 4:10 pm
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Thanks, Cindy.....Harry has had the first of two surgeries for this new primary. We're trying to find the courage and resolve to go back into battle....Sometimes, life is very hard. But, our love and hope are deep.

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