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Jim08
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We fear what we don't understand. A way to overcome fear is to look directly at it. Directly, don't turn away, look in all the dark and shadowy places. Understand the best and worst of the situation. Look at it until you understand it.
I have read that the opposite of love is fear. Consider that. Also consider how much better love is then fear. I understand how difficult it is to look at what you are afraid of because I have, and it made me weep. However overcoming my fear has improved my life immeasurably.
With love
Jim

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Jim08

Diane,
Glad you are well. Have you gotten the radon in your house resolved?
I haven't had a scan since November. I thought I would take advantage of BACs slow growth and just ignore my lc for awhile. I just try to make every day meaningful.
Recently however I started getting headaches. Headaches are very unusual for me so I guess I need to have my brain checked. I don't want to make a big deal out of it cause it could just be a new allergy. But you know once your in the cancer club, nothing is trivial.
I agree about sticking together. I feel closer to you and the folks on this board then I do my family most times. We share something most people can't understand. Dealing with mortality is a life experience many people get to avoid. We too could choose to pretend it is not happening. However I believe we give our lives more meaning when we put them in context.

magazine2

Hi Jim, just wondering how you are doing? How are your scans coming out. I have one again coming up and the fear of course.

sometimes I try and think they made a mistake and I just dont have this cancer but then I come back to reality and know I do. I still have trouble accepting this fate and I was diagnosed last nov of 08, youwould think that I would come to terms by now. You have a good attitude.

all we can do is stick together and pray and be there for each other.

diane

Farmerswife

Jim--Look carefully at my picture. That is my bobber.
I thot it a great metaphor for what we are dealing with, directly or as loved one.

When my cat (oh, shut up everyone--I have dogs too) sees the bobber move like that she gets up and looks at me and if I don't grab the crappie or whatever soon enough on the pier she gets it and runs off with it.

Once it was a HUGE snapping turtle that wrapped itself around the dock post and hissed. No grabbing then.

World's full of crappies and snapping turtles--never know what is on the line, enso?

Susan

Jim08

Snowflower,
Thank you so much.
It makes me feel good to know I helped.

snowflower

Jim, Brooklyn, everyone who has participated in this discussion.....I want to thank all of you as I have read this dialogue over and over again and it has helped me. I will remember it in my darkest moments to uplift me. Thank you and God Bless........Viki

Sherri2

antidepressants make my hair feel funny.. So I just don't worry about it.. cause I don't feel I can change what gonna happen.. I believe when it is your time it your time..

I do get Hydrocodone for pain. and I buck it up tylenol PM for when it seem bad and cant sleep

So far it been do-able but is scary thinking that it gonna get worse.. Pain wise.. At least in Dogs if they are in pain they put to sleep but in people they seem to leave them lay there and sufffer

as long as you got good insurance that is

Jim08

Susan,
Fish or mosquito?

Jim08

Sherri2,
I have been assured by people I trust that they will not let me suffer.
You are considerably younger then my 58 years. My dependents are all independent. I love my family and leaving them makes me sad. That is why I am on antidepressants.

Farmerswife

Sorry, the sources only take 10 questions a month and I have used my quota. Most of the news has been very reassuring, so just don't dwell on it.

Reassurance about that end of things is reliable advice.

It's while we're dealing HERE with this stuff that reassurance has its limits.

Gotta go--got a bite!

Susan

KATHEF

Keep the picture, Jim. I was just teasing you. Have a good day. Kathy

kelsterlv

Jim your philosophy & outlook inspire me. I hope someday I can have your outlook, I try but am not there yet:) Kelly. P.S. You should keep the hat! lol

Sherri2

I guess i don't fear dieing is the pain that might come with it..
and not being able to care for myself and those I love

Jim08

Susan & Brooklynda, I sure hope you are right.
Susan, I have some other questions for your sources.

Jim08

Karen, as much as I want to look cool. I sure don't want to scare anyone.
Kathef, I will be back home tomorrow and will load a new picture.

kq182

Jim, cool hat, cool attitude = Cool Guy!!!
Stay positive and help us beat this beast!!
Karen

brooklynda

Jim: We already did the "sea of fire" = cancer!

Farmerswife

I have heard from reliable sources that the sea of fire thing is absolutely wrong.

Susan

KATHEF

Jim, your hat scares me. Kathy

Jim08

I have not given up. I am more then willing to be the one that beats the odds. But I will accept what ever adventure awaits me in the next plane of existence. Unlike most here I have no idea what will happen to me after I "pass". I am kind of hoping the sea of fire thing is wrong.
Jim

brooklynda

Jim: I really admire your acceptance! That's really great!

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