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Im new here and need a place where I can grief my infertility but it seems everyone here is pregnant. Is there a place on this board for people who couldnt get pregnant through fertility treatments.
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Anyone here living childless after infertility?
- By Sheisa
- Posted April 22, 2009 at 3:22 pm · 14 replies
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- By DBRENNAN
- Posted April 23, 2009 at 5:36 am
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Hi there, Here is the link to the infertility site link. All us on this board suffered with infertility some for many years. I suceeded after 3 years at 41 years old.
Good luck to you.
http://www.inspire.com/groups/finding-a-resolution-for-infertility/
- By morethanthesky
- Posted May 19, 2009 at 1:09 pm
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Sheisa,
Have you found any resources? I'm trying to figure out how to survive this being childless and, as you mentioned, every 'coping with infertility' board is about having kids.
Thank you.
- By morethanthesky
- Posted May 19, 2009 at 1:28 pm
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I have found this. I hope it helps: http://www.infertilitynetworkuk.com/moretolife/
- By jamesgirl
- Posted May 21, 2009 at 8:51 pm
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Hello,
I just found this website through my therapist I am seeing for my infertility. After 5 years of trying with drugs, and IUI I had an emergency hysterectomy in January. It has been very difficult for me the last couple of months dealing with the loss of never being able to have a baby. I am very open to hear other stories from people!
- By jannie_70
- Posted May 26, 2009 at 7:51 pm
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Hello! I just found out today that I won't be able to have a child of my own due to low egg reserves. It hurts a lot and I feel so let down my life. I am single so I don't have anyone to lean on during these times.
has anyone looked into adoption? I would like to explore all of my options.
thanks!
- By Dawndoc
- Posted June 9, 2009 at 9:15 pm
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I am looking for the same support. I log onto this site and everyone is talking about their babies. : ( After four years we have decided to stop. I went through a major depression this past spring and I can't do it again. So much grief. I will scream if I have to hear another "we finally got pregnant after xx years/months."
- By smcl93
- Posted July 9, 2009 at 1:04 pm
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Hi,
Yes, my husband and I are living childfree right now. It took us a year and half to greive and to process the pain. He can not have children. We decided not to get a sperm donor. For us it did not feel right to do that to a child. So right now we are childfree, but thinking of adoption and fostering. I hope this helps. It was very hard to go through
- By Pattynuget
- Posted July 21, 2009 at 11:31 am
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Hi smcl93,
I hope I'm not stepping on toes here but I was curious about your statement "it did not feel right to do that to a child"
Can I ask what you meant?
Thanks :)
Ann
- By morecheese
- Posted July 21, 2009 at 12:28 pm
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Dawndoc -- there is another group on Inspire called "Finding a Resolution for Infertility" and there is an adoption group there. All different kinds of adoption are represented there -- from domestic private to domestic agency to international. Those women are warm, welcoming and full of information.
I spent about 2 years researching adoption and got a lot of my information from that board.
Good luck with everything.
- By krisnix
- Posted October 19, 2009 at 3:32 pm
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Hi there. I mostly live on the other side but I did discover that if you first click on Discussions then click on the topics tab - it breaks down the discussions based off the topic. Then you can only view all the "Living Childfree" topics. Might help you narrow your search a bit.
Hope this helps. Kris
- By tipper8848
- Posted October 20, 2009 at 11:51 am
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Sheisa,
Your posted is from a while ago and perhaps you've already found the support you were looking for. Anyway, I looked around to see where CF discussions are happening and here's a relevant post I found, in case you haven't seen it. I'm sorry about what you're going through.
http://www.inspire.com/groups/living-after-infertility-resolution/discussio n/childfree-discussion-is-elsewhere-read-this/
Tipper
- By txchic
- Posted October 20, 2009 at 8:07 pm
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Hello everyone, just need some good news and some assurance. I have been trying for 9 years and Feb 2008 I had a miscarriage and the end of March in 2009 I found out I was pg only to find out a week and a half later i went to the er and found out that I had a ectopic pregnancy (when pregnancy takes place in a fallopian tube) I went through emergency surgery to have my tube removed. I was 8 weeks along. Has anyone ever been through this and still concieved? This has really got me down. Does anyone have any advice to offer. Can anyone help?
- By futuremom
- Posted October 20, 2009 at 8:45 pm
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txchic,
I am sorry about what you are going through!
You will find more support on the sister website http://www.inspire.com/groups/finding-a-resolution-for-infertility/
- By TiaG
- Posted October 31, 2009 at 6:20 pm
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I'm here too! Thank you for being brave and reaching out for someone. I stopped reading the messages because I felt the same way; everyone here is pregnant or in the process of adoption. I am not in either position because as much as I believe I'm getting over not being able to conceive through IVF, I'm still grieving and anyone who thinks it's not hard or says you can get over it with time is wrong. I still cry sometimes and surprise myself because I don't feel have a reason for the tears at the moment. But then I realize deep down there is a reason. I know you more than likely feel similarly.
Hang in there! There are others like me who are grieving our loss like you. One step at a time, and sometimes it may be one breathe at a time. Keep busy and surround yourself with positive loving people.
I'll keep you in my thoughts. Blessings to you!
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