Looking for someone been there done that throat cancer, rads, chemo

This is Paaatriot101 from the head and neck cancer group and I have opened this membership for my husband because he is going to need some help and support to get through my bout with throat cancer. Having been there, or being there now, I am sure you guys realize how difficult and strenuous it can be...On both partners, not just the one with cancer.
He probably will not get a chance to log on here until after 8 pm tomorrow, so hopefully he will have some warm greeting messages waiting when he does have time.
This man has put up with and stood by me through so many health issues over the years while I remained undiagnosed; we were hoping to enjoy life, start a few hobbies, etc.. when empty nest level was reached... But now this.
I would like us to come through this with my husband still able to see that somewhere in that withered bald crabby whiny shell I may become, I am there and need him more than ever.
So to catch you guys up for hubby so you know what he is dealing with:
I have only recently been diagnosed, and while the first doc said stage II, the specialist at Emory has scheduled an official staging on the 19th when he will look all the way to my belly, and put in a PEG tube. The 2nd staging is because recent neck scan shows that cancer has crossed into fatty tissue. Tumor above voice box now has somewhat of a tail going down and around my throat. Other reason for further searching before treatment was because of hysterectomy in 2004, had a pathology report that read "tumors and cysts too numerous to count", and that those tested were "pre cancerous.
Chemo and radiation are scheduled to begin the 30th. I don't think he is ready for how bad things can get.