Living childfree

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Your feelings about children 'in general' since infertility....

  • By MISSBELL · New reply February 24, 2014
  • 18 replies
  • Hello! I was hoping you all could share your feelings about "children" "in general" since infertility striked. How do you all feel about children? I know that I've personally tried to 'steer' clear. I ...

Feeling Stupid

  • By Kellyatthebeach · New reply January 17, 2014
  • 3 replies
  • My levels are so high and chances so low that I feel stupid to even hold on to any hope anymore....... Anyone else ...

What Next?

  • By Number · New reply January 14, 2014
  • 16 replies
  • So, I have been infertile for 14 years now (please no adoption comments). I have 'unexplained infertility.' Will someone please give me 'permission' to live a great life anyhow? Tx ...

Does The Hurt Ever Truly Go Away

  • By Wannabamama · New reply January 14, 2014
  • 6 replies
  • February will be 4 years since we started trying. Financially IVF is out of the question as Im told my chances are so low and our insurance won't cover it. I keep telling myself Im ok and then after a ...

Just so confused

  • By MISSBELL · New reply July 29, 2013
  • 4 replies
  • So, about 3 months ago. I thought that i came to resolution about living childfree. I decided that i was tired of doctors appointments and timed intercourse. Just sick of it all. Everything had turned ...

I'm going back to school!!!

  • By kellidenise · New reply July 14, 2013
  • 10 replies
  • Now that we have decided to live child free, I'm going to get my degree!! I'm so excited! Just wanted to encourage people. There are other great things in life besides having children. Find them, cherish ...

Feels so nice, but i need advice.

  • By kellidenise · New reply June 28, 2013
  • 7 replies
  • So everything feels so right for the first time in a long time! Husband and I are on the same page about living child free ànd I've found other ways to nurture besides being a mother. I think I've finally ...


  • By LeeKaren · New reply June 25, 2013
  • 5 replies
  • I googled infertility grief this evening and didn't actually realize there were such groups. I have been kinda in denial for the last five years, maybe it was too hard to accept or maybe because the pain ...

When do you call it quits? Anybody have a crystal ball???

  • By ell116 · New reply June 1, 2013
  • 16 replies
  • I'm new to this site. I was motivated to join when I had an all night crying jag triggered by finding out that one of my DH's best friends from HS is pregnant with their second child...a couple who always ...

Thoughts on the Bitter Infertiles "Living Child-Free" podcast

  • By AJLonesome · New reply June 1, 2013
  • 8 replies
  • Over the weekend I listened to the Bitter Infertiles podcast entitled "Living Child-free" - it was from Feb. 5 - and I'm pretty sure it's their most recent podcast. (Here's a link to the podcast: ...

Did I just let the dream of fatherhood die?

  • By kinglouie · New reply May 27, 2013
  • 8 replies
  • Hello, My wife and I got divorced about 2 years ago. We tried to conceive for about two of the three years we were married. It was rough. After ttc for 8 months I was diagnosed with an azfb microdeletion ...

Where do I fit?

  • By frozenoj · New reply March 19, 2013
  • 4 replies
  • DH and I have been TTC since October 2011. We have been undergoing fertility treatments since February 2012. We had one pregnancy and subsequent loss in October 2012. We've recently had the decision made ...

Why me?

  • By champagne4unii · New reply February 4, 2013
  • 4 replies
  • Hi my name is Jessica and i am 30yrs old. I have been living child free for 12 yrs almost 13yrs. I always thought that time would heal everything or it just wasn't the right time, but i am 30 now. I like ...

Bad day

  • By Nj3809 · New reply October 29, 2012
  • 19 replies
  • Man I was fine! I was happy ready to move on!" Oh Nikki did you know Christina pregnant?" Punch to the gut! Why dose it always feel like a punch to the gut? Heart racing, wind knocked out of you punch ...

Anyone else single and childless?

  • By metrygirl · Posted May 21, 2012
  • 0 replies
  • I am 40 + and single. After 3 years of infertility treatments and more money than I care to think about, I have given up on having a family of my own. Is there anyone else out there in this situation ...

Finally giving up the 'family car' and repainting the 'baby room'

KeriBoBeri (Inactive)
  • By KeriBoBeri (Inactive) · New reply May 17, 2012
  • 7 replies
  • So about 4 years ago, when we decided to start trying and my car was damaged in a tornado, we decided trade up and get a SUV (Ford Edge) so we'd have the extra room for the kiddos. I love, love, love ...

At a Baby Shower Today

Stefanie1037 (Inactive)
  • By Stefanie1037 (Inactive) · New reply April 10, 2012
  • 17 replies
  • Today I'm sitting at a baby shower for my cousin and his GIRLFRIEND. I hate to sound so selfish and jealous but I have a really hard time being happy for them and celebrating today when my HUSBAND and ...

Support group in West Michigan?

lmg11283 (Inactive)
  • By lmg11283 (Inactive) · New reply April 1, 2012
  • 1 reply
  • Anyone familiar with any support groups for infertility/living childfree not by choice in West Michigan? We live close to Grand Rapids, Grandville, Grand Haven, Holland, Muskegon, etc. Looking for some ...


  • By sunset1960 · New reply March 25, 2012
  • 1 reply
  • i had opperation on testicles when 5 now told i have no sperm i am now 29 and so want a child the doctors said it was due to opperation is there any help for me ...

an amazingly generous offer - can I refuse?

  • By martini03 · New reply March 14, 2012
  • 18 replies
  • I wasn't sure where to post this and I will warn you it is a bit long. A little background... My husband and I spent three years trying to have a child. My husband has an underactive thyroid for which ...

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