I am curious.
Tabby's story about the bday party made me think.
It jogged my memory that, when i was little....certain people used to say that to me amd my sister (both adoptees) (ie---that we were 'lucky' to have such great parents!)
was that an adoption thing---or do people tell that to bio kids???? do people tell bio kids they are 'lucky'?
most of you are bio so----have you ever heard that????
also---what are some good comebacks to that?
what I always think is....what if I said
"well....you are lucky to have your husband"
or...."you are lucky you got a spouce"
see how insulting that feels?? ;)
it subtly implies.......a poor, rejected, unwanted, undesirable, orphan that someone 'took in' and loved as their own. inferior to a bio child.
or in the other case---if i responded "you are lucky to have your husband Jim"
it implies...maybe "jim" is a 'better catch' than you and, your not such a great catch and you are 'lucky' he married you.
its all pretty distasteful. I think anyone and everyone would automatically agree and understand how its insulting to say "you are lucky to have your husband" (or wife) to a married person, but yet.....its common to say "s/he's so lucky to have you" about an adopted child....and since most people are 'bio' they dont 'get' the subtle offensiveness of it!!
Edited June 14, 2010 at 10:08 am