I am looking for answers from anyone willing to give them.
An infant was just diagnosed with Cancer. He has had surgery to remove the tumor and other infected areas and is currently undergoing a low regimine of chemo for 4 months. He has been allowed to return home. However the situation is that he is from a split home with 50/50 custody. One side is a single parent. The other is a parent, girlfriend, and other children.
The issue is part of the family beleives that the single parent should have sole custody of the child during all treatment and recovery. They are stating that the split home is detrimental to the child with cancer mentally, physically and emotionally. They are also stating that the other children are a major health concern for the child with cancer.
I am looking for any answers, opinions, articles, research...ANYTHING that supports either argument. Any assistance is appreciated. My family is in the midst of a heated dispute, at a time when we should all be pulling together for our loved one.
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Siblings effect on cancer patient
- By ksckmom
- Posted August 19, 2009 at 11:14 pm · 5 replies
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- By PoeDunk
- Posted August 26, 2009 at 8:32 am
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Well as far as the other children being a health concern....I'm not sure I believe that one. My 4 month old son was just diagnosed with Neuroblastoma, however he is not on any kind of treatment at the moment, so I guess that makes things a little different.
My son has a twin brother, and a 2 year old sister, and his brother and sister go with us to appointments, and they are a WONDERFUL support system for him.
I figure, at this point, even if they are young...cancer patients need all the love and support they can get, from everyone in the family.
I can see how staying in one home might be easier for the child though. I'm sure there will be days when the child doesn't feel well and doesn't want to be shuffled back and forth. The child I am sure will require a lot of attention at this time too and will need someone who can devote all that time.
But I don't think they should be without all the support and love in the world.
LOL I don't know if any of that was helpful. Like I said my son was just diagnosed so we are new to all of this.
I wish you luck!
- By CodysMom
- Posted August 27, 2009 at 10:20 am
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I am a single parent dealing with a 16 year old with leukemia. His dad lives in Canada, is remarried and is really not a part of this. It is hard. I am glad my son is here in one home. I know he has some anxiety and it is best to stay in one home.
As far as siblings go, I have an 18 year old in the army. He is being deployed and this is very hard. He has been away from all this and I know he still thinks of his brother as his healthy best friend. I found books out but maybe not appropriate for your age children. Not sure where you go for treatment but our facilities have libraries and the librarian is so helpful in finding resources and books for us. It is tough any way you look at it. I am sorry I could not be of more help.
Good luck
mary
- By BbeeBbee
- Posted October 10, 2009 at 2:47 am
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I myself am a single mother, doing my child's chemo treatments in the hosp. and once she came home. I felt it was best , not to let little kids around her. It maybe best that you keep the child at home, after chemo.
- By chemosucks
- Posted October 10, 2009 at 2:56 am
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Well the other children are not siblings and I would personally keep them away. My son has lymphoma and I have decided to home school my two older children to keep out as many germs as possible. The childs safety is number one. Sometimes a step parent situation is not always the best under already strained circumstances. This is just my opinion!!!!
- By Saraannesmom
- Posted October 16, 2009 at 12:30 pm
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I am going through a similar situation and am glad that I came across this topic. My 7 yr old daughter was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblasic Leukemia this past Jan. We moved her treatment to MD Anderson Cancer Hospital in Houston, TX where she received a cord blood transplant in May. She's doing good now and is ready to come home to Oklahoma City on Nov. 12th. My husband is with her while I am here in Oklahoma taking care of our 2 younger daughters. The 3 of us have colds right now (what the girls picked up from school) and so I've decided to pull them out of school so that we can get better(hopefully) by the time Sara comes home and keep the germs away. They are only 3 and 5 years old. And keeping them out of school until Sara can return to school which would be next year.
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