Hi i am tig,
I have battled this breast cancer since oct.10th,2007 and just finished my radiation. they say the battle is over but i dont want to live with the new me. I hope and pray they find a better cure for breast cancer so that a person wont have to have parts of their body cut away. I battled my 1st cancer which was cervicle cancer with chemo and radiation only to be disabled by my bladder being messed up and had to have a new 1 made from part of my colon which does not work so i live with incontinency. Now i deal with learning to love me again without a breast and it hurts. I know i will make it but it is going to take sometime. I pray science finds a better cure for all cancers. i pray god continues to bless all who are going through cancer and who are cancer free today. God bless you all. sincerely tig
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How to live again
- By tig
- Posted September 2, 2008 at 4:22 pm · 6 replies
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- By Chemo2
- Posted September 3, 2008 at 10:16 am
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tig: I too have those feelings, the scars on my stomach and my chest are a daily reminder of what I have been through, I no longer am able to look at myself in the mirror. I have feelings of not being worthy. I feel less equal in the eyes of "normal people, some how less normal. Although most of what was removed from me is on the inside it is none the less devestating. You sound like a really strong person with a strong faith. To be able to pray and have good wishes for others is remarkable. Somtimes, I can't even do that. One day at a time! Best wishes to you.
- By tqm1ed
- Posted September 3, 2008 at 11:29 am
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good morning tig;
maybe sharing a little more of my experiences might help you with what your going through.
you see, i was diagnosed with kidney failure back in 1990, my first transplant i'll never forget. on the transplant floor was also a burn unit which was across the hall. i've always been an upbeat guy and even me one time got down and wondered how i would live this totally changed life. well to make a long story short i'll never forget hearing grown men, women and children crying out loud from that burn unit across the hall. i've used that experience for strength to get through many challenges in my life including but not limited to even the stage iv cancer that i know i will have to continue to fight the rest of my life. i've also lived my life by simply believing "God isn't going to give me anything i can't handle and what gifts God has given me like for example the 'will' to keep fighting i just parley that in living a better quality of life." your experience has also given me reason to keep fighting. what your gong through i'll personally never understand completely but what i do understand is helpful even in my life. i've always believed you take a bad situation and turn it around and i want to thank you for sharing your story which quite frankly makes me and i'm sure others who read it stronger. one more thing----i was asked by someone close to me why is all this happening to me? (health issues) my reply was---"maybe i'm here to set an example for others whom are sick and give them strength to keep fighting.." maybe you too??
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- By borwin98
- Posted September 4, 2008 at 8:11 am
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My dear Tig:
You are a beautiful person, have no fear.
Beauty is on the inside, not on the outside.
Smile and the world will smile with you, your beauty will shine through.
I'm praying for your happiness.
Borwin
- By shellyb47
- Posted October 16, 2008 at 9:18 am
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TIg the new you is not reflected in the mirrow nor. The new you is inside, contemplating, listensing. learning, making descisions that you never had to make before. The is new territory and its frightening. But You are growing stronger and more aware, YOu are conscious of factors and others when you never may have noticed them before.You are becoming a new you sadly you were pushed by the need for surgery. The challenge we all face after being surgically readjusted is how to consistently and tenderly express and display how and who we are as we heal and evolve & learn how to thrive one again. Once you get to the point of OK these scars are healing so can I. These scares cav be seen as a part of me but they do not define me, you will look in the mirror more. YOu will I promise. I look at my mastectomy site and talk I say good morning and say my you are not looking liek yourself today but well that can be fixed in time. Find the humor, But the mirror serves a greater purpose...look yourself in the eye, look for peace that you pray for you will find it. Look in the mirror as you pray watch your eyes, they change as you start to feel stronger- it may take time but you will see you differently. The old me's evolve into new me's and this is very very good. You are learning you have the personal strength to get up each day and smile and hug and love. And be! And this is oppourtunity you are showing the true love that you have that exists beyound your own personal pain. The recieptants are being blessed with your love each and every time. Now that is living and creating good memories thru your sad /bad times. Share memories, laugh, hug and tickle those kids.
I know you can do this, and bladder incont is manageble, IT does not need to be dibilitating talk to a urology nurse or talk with a home care nurse they can give several creative solutions. If you like I can write a list that my doctor gave me.There are actually liquids that are toxic to the bladder that force incontinence and if you avoid them it gets better.
good days are coming your way and you may have to create your own from time to time.
- By devo
- Posted December 12, 2008 at 8:19 pm
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"I can be changed by what happens to me. but I refuse to be reduced by it."
-- Maya Angelou
- By Charleen
- Posted June 2, 2009 at 4:43 am
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Hi my heart goes out for you,my sister cope with breast cancer for many years her cancer start after her twins was born two years after that two more twins both a boy and a girl sometimes she was so sick but her double twins are now 20years and 22years old she was so a inspiration to me and passed away last week .I was also
diagnosed with breast cancer in 2009 have a total radical
mastectomy in April my heart is breaking but I know she want me to go on with my life so don't give up there is so many things to live for and God is always on our side.
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