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Instead of whining like I'm apt to do I would like to thank everyone who takes the time to talk with each other. You all have been and are and will be so helpful. My husband won't get on line and chat but he will ask has anyone you talk to..... So i go on line and find out. He was so surprised to find out there are people of differnt age groups. So thanks again and again and....
Candy
Very glad you have had a good experience here. Hope your husband is doing o.k. Is he still taking BCG?
Arlene
I am so glad to be here. My husband doesn't get online either, but I have learned SO much here, and have gotten incredible support. I hope you stick around. Strength in numbers......
Thanks, Candy -
We all like to whine at one time or another - I think it's good for the soul (though I haven't noticed you doing it). But I'm glad you are able to pass things on to your husband - tell him we're hoping for good things for him.
Eileen
Yes. My husband has his 3rd bcg today. Thanks for all your good wishes and support. Iwill tell him.
Candy
Candy,
Hope all continues to go well for your husband. Happy that you have learned from our experiences. We are better together.
Lynda
Yes I have always believed in expressing ourselves even though I am a man and French. But a fair amount of whining is expected of everyone, the problem with this is that no one wants to hear it not even the perpetrator.
Presenting a problem to other as a request for help is always well received. But "Why me" is not very popular among the majority of others probably because it is not "help me" to resolve a problem but "cry with me".
I don't know about you but when I see an "Help me" post I am attracted immediately to answer the best I can (Not always successfully but at least I tried...)
But when I see a "Cry with me" I am kind of turned off by it. I think most people love to make an effort to pull up others, but dislike to be pulled down. This site is mostly a pull up site definitely good.
EricAndre
Candy, glad to hear you have found support (and so nice to see a POSITIVE post for a change) and in a way, your husband is benefitting too, because some of what you learn, gets through :)
keep writing. good luck to you and your husband.
Candy,
Boy we sure do have different age groups,
and it effects everyone differently ,,young families,us retired folks, one thing is the same,our support for each other,,,,,,glad your here with us,,,POSITIVE THINKING,,,will get us everywhere.......ginger
EricAndre, sometimes there is no solution, nothing to be done. Would you have those people sit silently?
Loonym,
Thank for your reply. My answer is absolutely not. I am actually involve with a few person that are running out of solutions. But they are not trying to depress me. They want real hope and mostly real love. The one that are depressed but want to feel better at least in a mental way are more than welcome too.
But some people are beyond help they refuse anything positive or good and the only way to communicate with them is to admit that life is indeed a bad thing and there is no God.
That to me is not a ground upon witch anything can be done. One of my best friend from younger days became like this. At the end of her life no one could stand close to her she was just a bundle of hatred. toward anything and anyone. That women I pray for so much. I loved her so much as a friend. That was a big lose for me.
To me when confronted with a person that is mentally suffering My immediate reaction is to try anything to bring that person up.
But if the intention is to bring me down then we have a fight. Up is the way people want to go. There is nothing to understand in the darkness because there is nothing there. No answer to any question.
But in the physical aspect everyone should receive the same medical attention. This however is not always the case since doctors and nurses are human too it is understandable that a doctor do not want to spend time with a patient that accuses him of this and that some even get insulted. Patients who receive the best care are the nice ones, loving, humble, strong etc....
Love is the rule of life for man. No one including me likes to be beaten.
EricAndre
Mycopper, This community allows all of us to learn, support, and teach one another. Each one of us came here for those reasons. We wear many hats depending on the situations. Some days we learn, some days we instruct, and some days we just support. We reciprocate with each other depending on the needs at the time. And sometimes, we are just there, encouraging, when no answers seem to be on the horizon.
The great thing about this group is the varied personalities. When one personality reaches out, like personalities are attracted. None of us can be the virtual source of comfort to all. So, take from any reply that touches you and know that all of us wish the best for each of us. Reality informs us that not all of us will have the right words or the knowledge to help in the way we wish, but we try anyway.
Karego
Candy, I am pleased you have benefitted from your membership here! Previous replies contain a lot of good points. None of us can be all things to all people, so we draw closer to those we feel a bond with. But we can still learn from or help the others if everyone keeps an open mind!
Thanks everyone and yes LOVE and Faith and comfort
does make the world go around . If I read something that seems negative towards what I believe, I just don't read it. Everyone does not have to agree or feel the same.
Candy
Well, i am going to disagree about whining. I think some times expressing our whine to someone who can feed back to us can be helpful. Sometimes we are having a problem that is simple enough and someone else has experienced it and knows something about it.
Second sometimes folks have no one at home to discuss their concerns with. Why me discussions can be helpful to get out of stuck stages. Stages include: denial....this can't be happening to me
anger....why me, its not fair, how can this happen, who did it to me
bargaining....Just let me get a clean report, just let me have a negative report and i will such and such,
depression....what's the point, why bother with doing anytihng, i will probably die, not make it through the surgery, not get what i want etc
and
acceptance...ok, i have cancer, what the hell do i do next, where do i get the information i need, who is the best doc to handle this, how do i become a proactive patient and get my life back on track.
So as far as I am concerned whining is a stage and I am happy to respond to whining, and maybe even do a little my self
I am still waiting for my ivp report!!!!! will call their office on Monday, There i went from whining to acceptance!! lol
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