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My Dear Love Mark Has Gone Home To God....

momofive
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I am sitting up alone it is 12:30 am and I need to pour this out. Mark fought a valiant fight but his body could not fight any longer.

He came home under hospice care this evening at almost 4 pm and passed away at almost 9 pm. Our children were able to see him yesterday at the hospital and our youngest Mia sat with him several times this evening with a big smile and just held Daddy's hand.

The love of my life is gone but I know he will rest in God's arms now without this horrible disease. I know he hung on just so he could come home and I'm so grateful we made the decision to bring him here and so he could go surrounded with so much love.

Our 3 sons are devastated, but I know they will get through this. I cannot sleep though because our girls were sound asleep in their beds when Mark passed peacefully away. I am now faced with telling our precious beautiful girls Lily and Mia this news in the morning when they awaken.

I can't stop asking why?!!!!!!

Thank you all for your loving support and I plan to continue to come in here and pray for each and every one of you as you have from Mark and I and our children.

God Bless,
Kelley

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83 replies

lsh

Oh Kelley I am SO SORRY to hear your news. Sometimes it is really hard to understand why things happen the way they do. I know that saying that God has a plan for each of us doesn't really help right now. I will pray that The Lord will surround your family in your time of grief and that He will give you strength to tell your girls that their Dad is now a special angel who will be watching over them for the rest of their lives. We are here whenever you feel you need extra support.

Lynda

georgiaE

Dear Kelley,

Ed and I are so very sorry for your great loss. The tears flow from my eyes with sorrow, shock, sadness and sympathy for you and your precious children. Your strength, love for your family, your family here, and your love of God will get you through . At least Mark didn't have to suffer long with this horrible disease. He is in a much better place now and is at peace.

My mother died of cancer when she was 39, leaving behing 5 small children, and now my Ed and I are fighting the fight . He now has terminal bladder cancer with only months to live unless there is a miracle. So I truly know what you must be going through. Please accept our deepest sympathy. There are numerous people on this site that you can contact by phone anytime you get ready.

Much love,

Candon and Ed

balihigh

Kelley,
My words cannot convey to you how much I hurt for you and your wonderful family. Even though we have never met, I feel like I have lost a member of my family too. I so hoped that there would be a miracle but God has other plans for Mark.

I now pray that you and your children will find comfort in each other and have the strength to endure what lies ahead.
Many Hugs,
Nancy

drd

Kelley-

Prayers for you and children

Tony

loonym

I've read of many passings here but for some reason this hit me harder than most. I'm terribly sorry.

Lori-ann

I am so very sorry. I will be praying for you and your family.

Crossman

Kelley,
I am so sorry to hear this news. I really had high hopes that Mark would find a way to beat this.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your children.

Ron

phallon

Kelly,

I am so very sorry for your loss. My prayers will contiunue for you & your family.

Phallon

spartyman71

This is so sad for you, your family, and i am sure to everyone that knew Mark.

I sent you a personal message so will just close again with you knowing that we will continue our prayers.

Love,

Tom and Sherry

CrazyHorse

I am very sorry that your lost your husband to this disease. There are no words I can say because losing your spouse has to be one of the hardest things to endore. I will keep you and your family in my daily prayers for all those that have lost their lives to this horrible disease. CrazYhorse

Bob_M

Kelley,

I am so sorry for your loss. I pray for you and your family to find peace and strength.

Bob

luvcntrym

Oh Kelley....I don't know what to say as I am still grieving for Dennis. I do know however what you are going through. I am so very sorry for your loss. You will miss him terribly but you will always have him with you through your children. Everyone says to me that Dennis is at peace now and not suffering anymore. I know it sounds selfish but I'd rather have him here with me. You will go on and you will be okay. Again, I am so very very sorry. If you ever need to talk I am here for you. God Bless you and your family....Mary

Memi

Kelly, I'm so very sorry. I cry and hurt for you and your childern. But, I know our Father has a plan for us all, and you know our Father.

Memi

browns-crossing

I read your note early this am. It took me a few hrs to write something back, I was so upset. I cannot express my sorrow for you and your children. I hate this disease. What happened to Mark wants me to fight more to find a cure, but more so find a test for early detection. When I was diagnoised with invasive bladder cancer 1 yr ago. I entered 3 clinical research trials, 1 to locate it on DNA, and 2 to use my cancered bladder to try and find a way for early detection of bladder cancer. I hope by doing this it will help others, maybe help yours and my children in the future. I pray for you and your children, and please come to us and let us know how your are doing.
My best wishes,
Browns Crossing

Tamlin

Hugs and prayers for your family from Tamlin

Marilyn-Lou

Kelley, I am so sad and sorry to read about Mark. You two have really touched the hearts of so many of us and know many prayers have been and will continue to be said for you and your very loving family. There are people you and Mark never met who are grieving with you. I wish there were something we could do or say to ease your sorrow. Mark is at peace and will be watching over you and his children. Blessings, Lou and Marilyn

LadyJane123

Dear Kelley
I am so so sorry for your loss. I cannot express how badly I feel for you and your children.
Prayers for all of you.

silgal

Kelley, I read this at 3 am and couldn't respond til now. I feel so sad and hurt for you and your children. I am so very sorry for your devastating loss.
Sending thoughts, hugs and prayers.
michelle

LMFoster

Kelley, and Children:
I want to send my prayers to all of you, and I hope you can find some comfort and Peace.
Larry

YvonneM

I am so so sorry for your loss. You and your family will remain in my thoughts and prayers.
Yvonne

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